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Until Something Better Comes Along…. update!

Uh oh….. Of course you all remember me writing about the really cool guy? You know, the one who is great in many ways but has three major deal breakers that I cant seem to budge on?

So the last week or so, I’ve noticed he has gone radio silent. Not completely ignoring me or anything, but the couple of times a day text exchanges and one a day phone calls have gone to every other day or so. Not a problem really, because I already have him the state of the union address, right?

Well…. Yesterday I put the feelers out there and sent him a “Hey stranger” text. He replies that he missed me and asked who the replacement guy was?

Funny, I figured he had a “Carmen Filler” as well and returned the question. Real Cool guy says there isn’t a replacement and felt I just wasn’t make myself available enough.

Crickets.

I replied with what anyone else would reply with if you’re A. Busted or B. Have nothing else to say- “Lol”. Followed by the reply that is just as lame- “I’ve just been busy with work and all”.

I know, I suck. But don’t act like Im the only one.

Any who, I think he knew my reply was bullshit, so we left it at that.
So……. (I know, I am totally overusing “so”, but Im posting from my crackberry, so give me a pass), a few moments ago, I get what every single person either wants to see OR not see… “What are you doing for Christmas and New Years Eve?”

Panic!!!!!!!

Is he just asking out of curiosity or just making small talk? Or does he want…. Like to get together during the holidays and we are NOT together??

What do you think? ( If you’re not sure, go back and read that post again so you can get a feel for our situation.)

I just replied and kept it simple. Said I was relaxing with my family for Christmas and had no idea about New Years Eve. Of course, I would be rude if I didn’t ask the same.

His reply? “I’ll probably watch some old movies and crack open a van of chili beans”.

Is he being funny or attempting to gain sympathy?

I haven’t replied to THAT one yet. Stay tuned!

Hangover - a let down following great excitement or excess. Wow. This one sentence describes nearly all of my dating and relationship experiences! I'm a 30 year-old woman muddling through the Los Angeles dating scene and yes - Believe all that you've heard about the screwed up men and women in La-La Land. This blog is of my actual experiences that will either make you chuckle, laugh out loud or maybe say "aw.....". If your dating hangovers seem worse than the next person's, read on, post a comment and enjoy! Carmen

5 Comments

  • Caleb

    Sounds like a “maybe we should string each other along in case this is the best hook-up we can find for awhile” situation. Though sometimes I use funny and irreverent answers to deflect someone I think is interested in me, that doesn’t look like the case here.

    PS can’t find post you’re referring to! (And I think I checked them all)

  • Matt79

    I don’t think I’d mention eating loads of chili beans to someone I was hoping to hook up with – not quite sure what to make of that one! Your plans are the same as mine – my last six New Year’s Eves were spent in coupledom so this one may feel a bit strange.

  • Carmen

    Well folks, I think he might have been fishing for an invite.
    Or maybe I’m feeling myself a little too much BUT he did, just 8 hours earlier, just say he wanted to spend more time with me.

    Just seems like that description of a lonely and unappealing holiday seemed like a set up.

    *****BREAKING NEWS*****

    As I update, I just received another text saying “actually, I dont like beans… It was just the most pathetic sounding thing to do for New Years that I could mention.

    See, it was a set up question.

    I knew it…. I dont know how much more I can take of our “hang out until something better” will make it. Subliminal messages about spending a holiday together?

  • Carmen

    Well folks, I think he might have been fishing for an invite.
    Or maybe I’m feeling myself a little too much BUT he did, just 8 hours earlier, just say he wanted to spend more time with me.

    Just seems like that description of a lonely and un appealing holiday seemed like a set up.

    *****BREAKING NEWS*****

    As I update, I just received another text saying “actually, I don’t like beans… It was just the most pathetic sounding thing to do for New Years that I could mention.

    See, it was a set up question.

    I knew it…. I don’t know how much more I can take of our “hang out until something better” will make it. Subliminal messages about spending a holiday together?

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