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New Year, New Plans or S.O.S?

It occurred to me about an hour ago after visiting a few of my favorite blogs and scanning through a few new ones, that I’m one of like 2% who haven’t posted anything about my plans for 2011.  It is now the 4th day in the new year and I haven’t uttered not one solitary word about a goal or resolution, but what did pop into my head was this – will I have plans to make some major changes and accomplishments or will it be the S.O.S, same old shit?

I’d initially started a draft version of my holiday recap, chop full of the reasons for this blog – dating hangovers but got thrown off track from the updates of the unfortunate events several of my friends have experienced during the holidays.  I’ll get back to the singledom diaries later.

Back to the plans and of the posts I’ve been reading since right before Christmas, Just Saying’s made the most sense.  This blogger actually did a recap of her 2010 and highlighted the events in her life that stood out the most from career, friends and family and of course, love and relationships.

Then there’s Curvy Girl who has come up with her own 2011 Blueprint.  The sound of it alone sounds like a step in the right direction.

Alright, so let me quickly think of last year on a scale of 1 to 100 (the latter being the highest on the crap-o-meter), I’d say 2010 was about a 40.  It actually wasn’t all that bad as I look back on the most important aspects such as:

2010 Health Review – I had a few health mysteries, but several tests (some downright inhumane, we’re talking walking around with tubes and monitors and all) cleared  the way for all systems go.  A little torture every now and then with heartburn, but it’s better than what it COULD have been.  My family and close friends are alive and well with the exception of one who is in my prayers often.

2011 Plan – Exercise, eat better.  Period.  It isn’t rocket science and while my blood panels always come back fantastically (is that even a word?), cholesterol in check etc… I know I  can be a few scales lower on the BMI index.  I’ve got more work to do.

2010 Friend and Family Review –  All was good with the family and I am truly amazed at how quickly my child is growing and with 10 years post childbirth, I can no longer blame the muffin top on anyone but myself and stuffed crust pizza.  Only one friend was eliminated, so it was a very good year.

2011 Plan –  My focus is to spend more quality time with my family, plan more trips and events that enrich.  More museums, visits to the science center etc…  Easy stuff.

2010 Career Review – This is something that became a bit of a theme for me – “thank God for a job”.  Man, it is rough out there and while I hold my breath each time my company doesn’t meet a major sales objective and wander if I’ll be walking out with my box, the bills are getting paid. 

2011 Plan – I’m tired of hearing people complain about their job OR say there aren’t any jobs when I know good and well they haven’t even TRIED looking.  I really need to step up my game on the career path and (1) seriously figure out what I want to do that isn’t just based on how much I make and (2) get to the active searching.  Again, I’ve got work to do.

2010 Finances – Wow, what a YEAR.  I made a major move to get the years and years of debt under control.  It was never difficult to figure out HOW I wracked it up (yeah, couldn’t say no  to trips, boots, trips, trips and trips). 

2010 Plan – Going forward, if I can’t pay for it in cash, it isn’t needed.  Period.  I’ll be focusing more on spreading any available cash around and investing in our future.

2010 Dating Review – Well shit, the fact that I finally started a blog in late October speaks for itself.  My dating life if/was a mess!  A f$cking mess! 

2011 Plan – *Sigh*   Well, for starters, the online dating will be going bye bye.  Good on Paper?  I really need to get rid of him once and for all.  No sex is that good.  Or is it?

More to come because surely, dating profile or not, I’ll have some experiences to keep sharing.

There, that’s it.  No long drawn out 101 Resolutions to follow or anything.  I’m going to focus on me.  What makes me happy, what is needed to be successful.  What is needed to make me a better me and preparing me to become wifey.  Okay, that last part was so damn corny but it rhymed so I couldn’t resist.

So in all… This year isn’t going to be the same old shit by any means.  Who else is on board with a blueprint for the year?

Hangover - a let down following great excitement or excess. Wow. This one sentence describes nearly all of my dating and relationship experiences! I'm a 30 year-old woman muddling through the Los Angeles dating scene and yes - Believe all that you've heard about the screwed up men and women in La-La Land. This blog is of my actual experiences that will either make you chuckle, laugh out loud or maybe say "aw.....". If your dating hangovers seem worse than the next person's, read on, post a comment and enjoy! Carmen

9 Comments

  • Matt79

    I like the way you’ve laid this out, with a past and future for different categories. But: no more online dating?? Say it isnt so! I’ll probably be rejoining that crazy carousel later this month and I’m in denial about its being something that anyone would quit! (But either way I hope that 2011 will be a great year for you!)

    • Carmen

      Yes Matt, I felt like a slacker so I just through a quick recap together and the online dating? Yeah, I’m giving up the cyber love for a minute BUT perhaps this is a sign. I DID cancel about a week or so before Christmas and a few days later, noticed I was still getting winks and messages so it turns out the handy-dandy company didn’t cancel at all. I did hop back on to take a peek at one or two messages and responded to one who commented he “enjoyed my profile tremendously even though he had no clue what I looked like”. Apparently, the only deletion that took place was that of my profile pictures. Interesting. I figured everyone was as anal as I was, in that they wouldn’t necessarily give the time of day to contact someone who doesn’t have a picture posted. We exchanged info, had a fairly decent conversation yesterday and the rest is being left up to chance.

      To be continued….. =)

        • Carmen

          I know Matt, it would be a funny story to share and to be honest – second day in a row. Phone conversations have been going pretty well and even if there isn’t a love connection when we meet, I’m really liking this guys spirit and style. He’s touching my funny bone and a person can be the biggest a-hole around, but if you can make me laugh, you’ve got a chance.

          Okay, I gotta stop talking about him. It seems whenever we get on these “chat up the new interest” rants, stuff goes wrong.

          Silencio!

  • Caleb

    Ah, another one bites the dust. Make it 1% now.

    Reflections? Resolutions? Lame.

    Just decide one badass thing you’re going to do this year. Something you’d probably say you would never do. Like skydiving.

    Remember, all you have to be is better than you used to be!

    Which would be… a 41?

    • Carmen

      You know what Caleb? I really think you’re kind of, sort of, just a teeny weeny bit SMART. You pretty much summed it all up in one word – LAME which is probably the reason I hadn’t given second thought to making any goals, resolution etc.

      I think I like your idea of that one kick a$$ thing to do this year, you know something wild. Like eloping with the next man I meet online? Hahahahaha!! Okay, that’s just retarded but still, I’ll be thinking of something I really want.

  • Just Saying

    Awwww I make sense! That will forever been seared into my head, and shit I may just print it out to prove to a few, “See here! I make sense!” lol

    Awesome post! You can do everything you set out to do, just give yourself the leadway to fail at some things, and if you complete nothing, well think of 2011 as babysteps for further years. 🙂

    Woot! yay you!

  • Jessie

    Good stuff and I agree with Caleb – pick something really good. Maybe a “I’m doing this for the month of…” type theme. Live it up and enjoy!!!!!

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