As quickly as he made a re-entry into my life, Come Back Charlie will likely make an even quicker exit all over an ignored Facebook request. Well, maybe not all because of this because while I haven’t exactly been trying too hard to build up any lines of communication, he isn’t really impressing me either. Last night as I stirred out of my sleep for a moment, I saw a new Facebook notification – Friend Request from Come Back Charlie. I looked at it and the first thing that came to mind was what the hell for and the second was should I say no now or leave it pending eternally so he can’t request me again.
What’s with people, especially members of the opposite sex who you’ve dated or had a date-like encounter with feeling like they have to be a part of your inner circle?
In addition to the request, CBC had also sent a text message wishing me a good morning and mentioning that he’d sent the request. I started to dodge the subject but then politely replied with a “Good morning, yes I got the request but I only use Facebook for family and close friends, sorry”. Simple and not rude, right? Regardless, he replies with “Simply amazing….Well, take care”.
Is it THAT serious? I asked him if that was a farewell message and if so, I was cool with it and he starts this dialogue about how I’m putting a road block into establishing a friendship and that my refusing to add him meant I was hiding something.
Again, is it THAT SERIOUS?
CBC isn’t the first and surely won’t be the last but I just don’t think it’s good to mix randoms with your friends and any former significant others you may have on your Facebook page. I know there are plenty of couples who don’t think anything of it and like posting on each other’s pages the I love you, be home soon and other random comments that scream out to the effing world he or she is MINE and taken. Who cares? In fact, sometimes I’m more annoyed by this type of stuff but the overdone public displays of ownership affection isn’t my sole reason for wishing to keep certain areas of my life private, but past experience.
I was actually introduced to Facebook by my ex-boyfriend, Mr. Jekyll who suggested I sign-up and sold me on how fun it could be staying in contact with friends and reconnecting with old friends. Sounded good to me and I didn’t think anything of “friending” him a few days after. For the most part I didn’t really have any issues but soon began noticing that being friends with someone you’re dating opens up a world that I really wanted no part of.
First, I started noticing he had waaaaaaaay too many female friends on his page and it seemed as if almost daily, there were new ones being added. Jekyll was an INTROVERT, wasn’t a really popular kid in school, worked all the time, and was not a modeling agent or photographer so really had no explanation for having 95% of his 800+ friends being female. Second thing noticed was how some of the women would make little comments that were borderline “I’m flirting with someone’s man and know his girlfriend is probably reading” type of stabs. And third, Mr. Jekyll had turned into a voyeur and would recount to me the day’s activities from my wall posts and comments and then question and read into things male friends probably because he was guilty of something. Way too much for me.
I told CBC I had nothing to hide, further explaining everyone doesn’t need to have total access. You have my telephone number and e-mail address and should respect that in my eyes, those methods of contact are more than enough.