This was my answer to a friend who tossed out this question earlier this evening. I feel for her because she’s fresh meat to the dating drama.
Many of us are such in a state of feeling “men suck balls” or “women are crazy as hell” that when we come across someone who is seemingly decent, we tend to give out hall passes for things we probably shouldn’t.
I made this mistake with the koo koo for cocoa puffs hangover named Full Metal Jacket.
A jealous man or woman is a red flag.
Run. Control- Alt- Delete. Leave them alone.
Some snippets of this guy’s prized behavior?
He complained that she’s always talking to other men. Somehow a general conversation with THEIR classmate seemed disrespectful?
He says she’s too flirtatious, so saying “Thank you” to the guy at Subway as he hands over her change is doing too much huh?
When mentioned the number of times she’s checked her phone for messages, I guess he was showing how attentive he was?
As if the two examples above weren’t signs of a control freak, when she told me her knight in shining foil said he was “deathly” afraid of losing her, that sealed the deal for me.
I told her she needed to get rid of him and ASAP.
Oh, and I forgot to ask her how long did it take for these true colors to shine through. Either way, with each example given, she already knew the answer.
There is nothing attractive, cute or endearing about a person who is confusing obsessive and controlling behavior with care and concern.
Instead if they always need to be with you, know where you are when they aren’t with you, is always asking you questions without producing any answers themselves, and tries to force you to do something (then guilt you if you resist), then you’re dealing with nothing more than a jealous person.
These behaviors are only the beginning.
Run. Control-Alt-Delete. Leave them alone.
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