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The Aftermath

Memo to self: Do not call, text or e-mail for the first 24 hours of a rift or major blowout because I can go from this priceless Kelis moment:

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To having a Minnie type sensation thinking about all of the good:

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After bringing my friend up to speed on the latest developments with Rescue she said “he should know that he’s used 6 of his 9 lives”.

No further explanation needed. I’ve only confirmed that Men are from some undiscovered planet and Women are from Earth.

As Mel commented on the “Closed Mouths Don’t Get Fed” post, men are simple. When they say something, that’s normally what it is. Basic stuff.

BUT how they communicate this stuff makes a world of difference.

I got my answers, clarification. I’m happy with it. He understands.

Round 1 – Over.

Don’t judge me.

Until there’s a cure for the hangovers…

Carmen

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Hangover - a let down following great excitement or excess. Wow. This one sentence describes nearly all of my dating and relationship experiences! I'm a 30 year-old woman muddling through the Los Angeles dating scene and yes - Believe all that you've heard about the screwed up men and women in La-La Land. This blog is of my actual experiences that will either make you chuckle, laugh out loud or maybe say "aw.....". If your dating hangovers seem worse than the next person's, read on, post a comment and enjoy! Carmen

6 Comments

  • Bella

    Carmen, I’d go so far as to say that some men are still in the Neanderthal stage. And if Rescue’s used up 6 out of 9 lives, his ass needs to be kicked to the curb. Life’s too short to spend on a guy who’s going through lives faster than a Persian cat. Keep looking, girlfriend. There’s a sea full of crap out there but if you’re lucky, you might stumble onto a fish you don’t want to throw back in the water! πŸ™‚

    • Carmen

      I hear you Bella but I have to say, this is quite the quandry for me. I’m normally the “logical” one who tells the girl to drop him like a bad habit but damn- when you’re the one faced with it, it’s completely different.

      For now, I’ll ride it out.

      BUT everyone’s got their limit, you know?

      Trust, this woman knows when to abandon ship. I’m so used to kicking men to the curb over infractions, rarely to they get past the point of felony relationship offenses..

      Thanks for the input!

  • Anonymous

    Been here before and I’ve dealt with a lot worse. Hopefully it is just a miscommunication (as in he’s underestimated an analytical thinker).

    Wish I could uplpad a sign… If so, it would say proceed woth cuation.

    Hope it works out for the best, no matter what you do from here.

  • Nancy

    Perfect example of a perk to being Single πŸ™‚ In all seriousness though I am sorry to hear this. It sounds like you’re putting yourself out there, which I know is extremely hard to do considering all you have been through, and you’re not getting that in return. If he was divorced it might be one thing to just leave the past alone but if he’s still seperated, hanging on for some reason, then you have a right to know what’s going on. It seems like he’s not taking your relationship very seriously. You deserve someone who understands where you’re coming from and is willing to meet your needs rather than refuse to talk about something. I imagine he’s feeling fairly confused right now about his past relationship as well as his with you but he should share that with you (and I know I’m talking about someone from the male species but there are good ones out there that would share). Good Luck with this.

    • Carmen

      Thanks Nancy! My point exactly to HIM. I pretty much hammered into his head that he has a lot going on, more than the average guy.

      I recognize dating is a risk. Whether it’s with a single man, the man claiming to be single and really isn’t OR the man who calls himself single but still has unfinished business. Rescue being the latter.

      I hope everyone understands I’m aware of the risks and will (try) not to come blogging my boo-hoo’s IF this doesn’t work out.

      If I was getting down with the married man who later went home to his wife, getting beat or emotionally abused by my dude or something extreme like that, I would ask that battery acid be poured in my ears to bring me back to reality.

      For now, I’ll roll with this situation. He understood the severity of what took place and how his actions seemed more sneaky than anything.

      Ugh.

      Sometimes wish I could just be like Charlize’s character in Sweet November (without the illness, of course), and take on one a month.

      πŸ™‚

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