While catching up with a friend over the weekend and discussing her current situation with a man she’s been dating for about three months, I asked if they were an actual couple. A long pause is what I received in return and a minute later she asked “what do you mean, as in are we dating other people? I replied yes and she tells me she wasn’t sure and that she was waiting for him to bring it up since exclusivity is what she wanted from their very first date.
Huh? Call me foolish, but isn’t this something the TWO of them should be discussing?
I’m not sure I undertand her logic on this one. My friend then goes on to explain that she’s interested in being exclusive but doesn’t want a serious relationship because of the horrible experience with her last two ex-boyfriend’s but then adds more frown lines to my forehead by saying the man, on the other hand, IS interested in getting serious and wants to be married by the time he’s 35. His birthday is next August.
I have a headache just thinking about this conversation, so here’s my question – When do you know it’s time for you and the person you’re dating to become exlcusive?