No matter what, there are some topics dealing with sex, dating and relationships that never get old – women giving it up or holding out is certainly one of them.
This morning my frustrated-single-but-hopeful friend sent me a message telling me about her celibacy stint, proclaiming that it was actually going well and that she wondered if her cutting off one of her favorite past times would get her any closer to matrimony. She proceeds to share a “no ring, no nookie” (NRNN) success story of someone she knew who had a ring within 6 months after holding out on her guy, feigning a vow of celibacy.
6 months? Here I am at the 6 month period breathing a sigh of relief that a certain someone can get the process of divorce started. I’m beginning to feel like I may be selling myself short because I should instead, be thinking like this woman practicing the NRNN method. What the hell am I thinking???
I digress, let me bring it back.
So anyway, said woman got the ring and didn’t end up having sex with her husband until he WAS her husband – the night of their wedding.
Don’t judge me. I realize how precious of a commodity this little box is and am all too familiar with the many sayings about women who may indulge in relations too soon, are more emotional than men and have the risk of developing more feelings than the man may have for them and any others, but here’s my take:
I don’t think it matters how long you wait to have sex.
I don’t believe there is any correlation between a woman being celibate AND chances of getting married sooner.
I don’t believe in the concept of celibacy really; it’s like trying to put the yolk back inside of an egg. It’s already been cracked, right?
If I believed that men and woman today had the type of morals from way back when where celibacy and holding out for marriage to preserve the pureness of the bond existed, I would have a much better outlook on this subject, but sadly, those types of people are quite rare.
This woman earning that hyphenated name largely because she was celibate? Definitely possible. Is this fool proof as in, should I think about this with the next person I become involved with? Mmm, not likely.
Being the flip artist that I am, I closed out this morning’s conversation by mentioning a couple of women who were wifed up quickly and often. Some not even giving their little boxes time to air out and breathe before taking on the next suitor. Case in point – Jennifer Lopez who doesn’t waste any time and has been used, licked on and filled up and passed around like an inter-office envelope.
Again, it’s probably a good idea to try and for that small percentage who are strong in faith, big on will power or LOW in libido, a fist pump in the air to you!
Until there’s a cure for the hangovers…