One hell no, several possibles, and one definite. I certainly don’t want to say that I shut down the two men who were from San Diego because of uh…the latest events but let’s just say it was a factor. My mailbox was pretty busy this weekend, so I don’t know if cupid decided to have a change of heart after this past weekend or a few more men decided to renew their online dating memberships, but I had plenty of new options to consider these last couple of days. I can’t emphasize enough how refreshing it is to have the types of men who are looking (or at least say they are) for the same thing as I am as opposed to the “looking for friends, then see what happens” kind who try changing their strategy to keep me once they find out that I’m serious about finding the match that is perfect for me.
“Its amazing how sometimes we get so caught up in day to day that we forget about the simple things such as sharing an ice cream cone or skipping over the cracks in the sidewalk while walking.
If you let me, I’d like to take you for that walk, romance you and show you that chivalry is not dead.
We seem to want the same things, but just like you said, I only want someone who wants me.
It isn’t often that you receive a message from a complete stranger that has you grinning from ear to ear, pausing to think about the contents only to go back and read it once again. The type of message that makes you think that there is hope after all. Without sharing exactly what my dating profile is telling men about me, you can best believe it is direct but has just the right amount of smoothing touches. There is nothing there that depicts a woman who is in any way shape or form confufsed about what she wants, and while it may be too much for the men who are simply looking for the casual fling or the next jump off, those are the types I want to avoid completely. I’m a firm believer that if you put it out there what you’re looking for, at some point (though it seems like this will happen in the first month of never) the person who really identifies with that will come around.
Of course, after receiving this type of message I can’t wait to review his profile and see if what he has put out there for the world to see matches up with what he’s expressing in his contact with me. I was pleasantly surprised and smiled after just having read the first couple of lines:
“When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child.
When I became a man, I gave up childish ways…
Success is nothing without someone to share it with.”
Brooklyn’s Finest seems like he’s just that type of man and has shown me that those who encounter a woman like me, recognize a woman’s worth and will do what it takes to please her. Real men who long for that type of connection that goes from friendship to serious dating, transitioning into a relationship and ultimately looking at being with their partner for the long run try harder. It took me just a matter of minutes after having our first conversation a few days ago to come up with this nickname for him because well – he seems to be the pick of the crop and yes, he’s from New York. As the saying goes, BF had me at hello – you know how easy it is to get hopefully hooked when you have that type of initial conversation where you’re left wanting more? I had to cut the talk a little short to head into a meeting and as soon as it was over (and I do mean as soon as I walked out of the door), I couldn’t wait to call him right back and finish our talk.
The man’s vernacular is off the chain! Talk about a turn on and I can see how artistic people, especially writers get the girls.
When BF shared that he was currently working on his doctorate in psychology, I already knew that he would be the type of man who could easily converse and he has definitely proven this. The words that come out of his mouth roll off of his tongue with ease, and his personality is amazing and kind with just enough of that Brooklyn sass and coupled with an amazing sense of humor, he and I are getting along just fine. Our first meeting and second have already been planned and for the love of God, BF is saying and doing the types of things to show his interest in me that I’ve always felt a man should do if he knows anything about courting. In fact, I was just telling a friend this morning that we are meshing so well if I didn’t know any better, I would think that a friend of mine had told him all about me and secretly steered him my way. Wow. I’m really feeling this one but…..
Come on, you know there is always some snag in the picture whenever this type of feeling comes around. Remember how I was awoken from my wet dream (literally and figuratively) with The Critter? Things started off the same way, with me being contacted with that go getter type of message, an okay looking profile picture and countless conversations that stimulated my mind and spirit, talks that made me look forward to the next and the next and the next. If you recall, I was so disappointed from the beginning and middle which I wrote about here and finally, the end of my fairytale which came crashing down here. BF is indeed one of those good on paper types of men; not only is he well educated, he works in education as the dean of a local school and can easily talk on nearly every subject that exists. He professes his love for living a meaningful life and is interested in everything from scuba diving to skydiving, and of course enjoys doing the simpler things such as an occasional movie or enjoying dinner at one of his favorite restaurants. For his age, this contender has an acceptable amount of baggage for a 40-something divorcee and has shared custody of his two children. BF is very open about his feelings, wants, needs and desires and is sharing all of this in the most selfless way – describing how making the special lady that comes into his life happy and feeling fulfilled, expressing how knowing he is succeeding at doing this makes him happy. Rare find for sure.
My one and only concern at this point is the physical attraction when we meet. He’s a decent looking man, but there has been that one or two photos where my big smile takes a bit of a dive wondering if they were just bad shots. Damn it. Why can’t I be one of those people who can simply be swept off my feet without considering the looks?
So for now, I’m cautiously optimistic about our meeting which is taking place next week. BF is surprising me with what we’re doing, simply telling me it involves water and to dress comfortably with some flat shoes. A man who takes charge? I love it.
Alright BF – in the words of Jay Z, show me what you got!
Until there’s a cure….