Break Ups

Facebook Knows All Your Business

image

Why Chris Brown,  why?!?!?

I guess this could be somewhat of a hypocritical statement since I’m a dating blogger and have spilled my guts about every intricate detail when it comes to my experiences but really – does every intricate detail of what goes on in a relationship have to be broadcasted?

We’ve all seen how the posts go from “Out with my baby” and “Love my boo”  to posts like “Good times with my girls” and “Ladies night out” only to finally see that relationship status changed to “Single” or “It’s complicated”.  Some are nice and simple while others get down and dirty like this one:

image

For as long as I have been on Facebook I have either done one of two things – either left my relationship status BLANK so when things go bad, the only thing you’re missing are a couple of posts and maybe photos OR made sure I went through the one hundred painful steps you need to take to prevent a change from showing up on your timeline.  My closest friends will have found out about the end of my dealings with a man directly without 200 or so people needing to know, but I realize people feel differently.

Take a look at this sad update posted by a friend on Facebook invoking discussion on why his relationships aren’t working out while those of us who really know him can guess that his spicy personality cocktail mixed with a splash of bipolar disorder and a shot of depression is the reason why. I’m just hoping his venomous comments that followed weren’t shared with the ex:

image

It just makes you wonder if people are posting these kinds of relationship updates to elicit sympathy and compassion or if they’re doing the same thing I’ve been doing for several years – simply venting on their online diaries.  I don’t mind the broadcasts because at least you’ll get to know exactly how well OR poorly people handle breakups.

Until there’s a cure…

Carmen Jones

Hangover - a let down following great excitement or excess. Wow. This one sentence describes nearly all of my dating and relationship experiences! I'm a 30 year-old woman muddling through the Los Angeles dating scene and yes - Believe all that you've heard about the screwed up men and women in La-La Land. This blog is of my actual experiences that will either make you chuckle, laugh out loud or maybe say "aw.....". If your dating hangovers seem worse than the next person's, read on, post a comment and enjoy! Carmen

3 Comments

  • G. Rayney

    Okay first of all, everyone knows that CB is bat shit crazy so anything he says or posts is bound to be crazy. Secondly, I never posted anything about my relationship on Facebook because it doesn’t need to be there period. What went on in my relationship whether it was a trip to Disneyland or dinner didn’t need to be broadcasted to the world. That’s kiddie stuff and when it goes bad you have to explain to everyone in your inbox why you’re not posting anymore. Save myself the trouble and I think social media causes more damage to relationships anyway.

    • Carmen

      Damn it G- you’re exposing the man’s secrets?!?!

      Yes indeed, Chris Brown is a special kind of special so I wasn’t surprised at his Twitter statement/rant.

      I feel the same about the types of details being shared via social media but again, I blog so who am I to question the why.

      Thanks for stopping by.

  • Frommelle

    It’s okay to vent but sometimes people get carried away and start hitting way below the belt. Everyone gets messed up when breakups go public, especially if you’re friends and cool with person. Asking me to delete somebody because they broke up? Can you saw awkward.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.