• Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Settling or Compromising?,  When you're dating your ex

    The “Ah hah” Moment

    I’m realizing that I just am not cut out for relationships. I try. When I say I’m interested in meeting my life partner, I’m just not talking out of the side of my neck. I’m serious. Yet of the ones I’ve tried to make work, the end result? Epic failure. I’m sick of hearing people tell me that relationships take work, and that of you really care for someone, you’ll make concessions and learn compromise. While those helpful words of wisdom may sound good, they can be a bit overrated. We sometimes get committed relationships confused with marriage. As someone reminded me yesterday that I’d never been married before (Yes,…

  • Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Red Flags,  Relationship 101,  Settling or Compromising?,  When you're dating your ex

    The winds are changing…

      And those bitches are like the Santa Ana's in the dead of summer - hot and swift. It was just a week or so ago that Kim sent me a BBM ladened with her latest dating woes and said- "Damn girl, things are going so well with you and Rescue, we won't have anything to read on the blog".  My reply was "I wouldnt necessarily say that because there is a big issue that keeps eating away at me, so I can't even say I'm in the clear". Bless her heart when she says “well, at least you’re 1/4 of the way”. Aw… Genuine happiness from a friend who…

  • Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  When you're dating your ex

    In a happy place… for now

    Things are going pretty well on the “situation” front with Rescue. I’m happy to announce that……………………………………………………… Re-training is going successfully! Of course, just like that new puppy who needs to be taught that peeing on the carpet or chewing on the curtains is a no-no a couple of times before he gets it, the same applies with Rescue learning the do’s and don’t’s. Do’s: – continue being consistent when it comes to daily contact – keep the “I love you’s” coming – continue to share your goals/ideas/dreams with me – remember what better happen in 4 months – keep a smile on my face #1 Don’t? Failure to communicate when…

  • Break Ups,  My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101,  Settling or Compromising?,  The Non Committal Man or Woman,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  When you're dating your ex

    Time to refocus

    Remember what I said a few days ago about feeling constipated?  Well today I’m feeling like I’ve popped a few lower bowel supplements and am ready to share what’s been clogging my mind for the last couple of days. This will likely be a long one and will probably be part of a chapter in a book I’ll write, so for now, let’s just say that constipation has developed into a bad case of the runs. First, let me just say this – dating SUCKS. Whether it’s casual, working towards something serious or in a full blown committed relationship, I sometimes feel the amount of work and effort needed is simply…