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    I Can Work with Men

    The funny thing about dating is that there are so many different types of men and situations out there so you really are placed in a position of picking your poison. My last date from a few months ago really had it together. He owned a couple of properties, had a stable career with no debt and only one child and was just as eager as myself to find someone special and settle down. That same man was also a self-centered, controlling, condescending asshole who believed he was the crème de la crème and couldn’t understand why or how any woman could reject him.  But like the others he’d complained…

  • Dating Over 30,  First Dates,  Online Dating,  Settling or Compromising?

    Too Soon?

    EXCLUSIVITY Related to exclusivity: Mutual exclusivity ex·clu·sive  (ĭk-sklo͞o′sĭv) adj. 1. Excluding or tending to exclude: exclusive barriers. 2. Not allowing something else; incompatible: mutually exclusive conditions. 3. Not divided or shared with others: exclusive publishing rights. 4. Not accompanied by others; single or sole. It’s late and as I’m ready to call it a night, he sends me a text asking if we are now dating exclusively. I don’t respond and in the morning will use the excuse that I’d fallen asleep. We’ve had two outings together and the first didn’t leave a very favorable impression.  Hell, I haven’t even had a chance to share what went wrong with that…

  • Dating Over 30,  First Dates,  Friend Zone

    Great First Dates

    We might have a winner! We might have a winner! We might have a winner! In case the point isn’t being emphasized enough, I think we might have a winner so let’s just call him Winner! Last night’s date was a smashing success and even better, the feeling is mutual since we ended the night by texting each other pretty much the same thing and woke up texting nearly the same words as last night which – we were happy to have met, enjoyed the relaxed and open conversation an agreed how everything flowed effortlessly.  Our chemistry was amazing and if you were looking over at our table while we…

  • Dating Over 30,  Friend Zone

    We’re Just Friends

    I felt some kind of way about one of the guys who has been in the friend zone now for about 3 years and it was a cross between empathy and not giving a shit, with the scales tipping closer to the latter. Should women like me feel guilty because we have one, two or ten men in the friend zone? I say no, unless we’re giving them some false hope that they can actually be something more. The guy I’m talking about?  He’s nice, thoughtful and considerate but this is exactly where he will be as far as the eyes can see but sometimes I feel sorry for him. As I…

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    Throwback Dating

    Nothing is constant but change and this concept most certainly applies to dating. Over the last ten years or so, the rules of the game have changed drastically and this isn’t just because online dating is now one of the most popular ways to try finding that special someone but our society is now a lot more screwed up.   Simple interactions we used to take for granted such as talking on the telephone or simply saying hello to someone you’re interested in have gone away and the likelihood of sharing an intelligible conversation is slim to none. Some of the ridiculous experiences I’ve had with men from both online contact…