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The Ghost of F@ck Boys Past
Those mixed feelings of excitement and nausea when an old flame reaches out to you after a lot of time has passed. Do you ignore or take the bait?
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And just like that…
My swirly stint with Jon B is over! It became too confusing trying to decipher his mixed signals when he’s doing one thing but continuously tells me that he wants to “take things slow” What the hell does that mean?!?! Not once did I press him with one of those “what’s next” or “what are you looking for” conversations, not once. While he’s repeating his mantra of wanting to take it slow, he should have just said he’s not interested in the seriously dating (or dating me) because I was getting a little confused. Wanting to see me more than one day in a week, especially taking up my weekends isn’t necessary if you want to take it slow…
- Dating over 40, Dating While Black (DWB), Friends with Benefits, Interracial Dating, Swirling (Interracial Dating), What Women Want
Down with the Swirl- Part 2
So it’s been a few weeks of this swirling dating adventure with Jon B and I have a few observations to report. No, not THE actual R&B crooner hottie himself but as much as the new guy hates being told, that’s exactly who he favors. 😍😍😍😍😍 The Look a Like and I met on a Wednesday, went out that Friday, Saturday AND again that Sunday. Repeat the following week and again. What does this mean? Hell, I don’t know. We’re either mildly interested in each other OR we’re just looking for time fillers. I haven’t been able to get a solid reading on the Look a Like, but I’m guessing…
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When a Woman’s Ready to Go
Here’s how you blow up 18 years in a single text message: “I’m such a punk because I should have said this last night. I can NOT separate these (new) emotions from amazing sexual chemistry and with each visit, it gets worse. Confuses me and I send stupid shit like this. But… I do want sooooo much more in my life than just an occasional tryst, no matter how incredible. I know what I want and you can’t give me that. So for me, it feels like I’m settling and I can’t do that. Not the best way to tell you and for that I’m sorry.” I’ve said this before…
- Friends with Benefits, My Dating Hangovers, Settling or Compromising?, Single Girl Problems, The Non Committal Man or Woman
Shit or Get Off The Pot
When a woman is ready to let go, nothing can change her mind.
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Breaking the Rules
Rule #1 of having a friend with benefits – don’t catch feelings. Rule #2 of having a friend with benefits – don’t catch feelings. If only there was a manual for how to successfully carry on with this type of thing. Too bad I never thought to read 10 Simple Rules to Maintaining a Successful Sex Buddy Relationship. Here’s my deal. In an effort to minimize my slut factor throughout the years, I have kept the company of two male “companions” whose sole purpose in my life was to dick me down. No drama, no dating, no regular telephone calls and no questioning of each other’s dealings or actions in anyway.…
- Friends with Benefits, Settling or Compromising?, Sex/Romance, Single Girl Problems, The Non Committal Man or Woman
The 18 Year Situation
I only want him for the sex
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The Familiar
When the sex is so good, you’re ready for bed by 9pm on a Saturday night. It’s been 7 months and after a disappointing random encounter with someone new, I decided it’s best to stick with what I know. After nearly 20 years, he has never ever let me down. Mmm, Papi. Until there’s a cure for the dating hangovers, I will not be starved of multiple orgasmic episodes. Carmen Jones
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Girl, Don’t Send That Text!
If someone is struggling with an addiction or having suicidal tendencies, there’s help. One call to a dedicated number can offer support, fresh perspectives and hopefully prevent someone from doing something they’ll end up regretting. So why in the hell has no one ever created a crisis hot line for dating? You know we need it! There’s always some man or woman acting a god damn fool over someone they’ve been dealing with and shit has taken a turn for the worse. They’re about to send some convoluted text message, blow up someone’s phone and leave some stalker-ish message that’s about five minutes long or worse – go on over…
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Gotta Love Facebook!
Ordinarily, this type of post wouldn’t be anything worth giving a second glance to but there’s just one problem- it’s ME sharing this on a dating blog! You have to love it when Facebook makes suggestions about who to add and most times, it’s someone you would rather ignore. Sometimes, I might take a looksie to see what the person’s wall or photos says about how they’re living. Last night, the profile of a guy who’s been an occasional friend with benefits for a few years. Love the profile that is open to the world because in a matter of minutes, I saw that he was still in his high-visibility…
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When Your Past Comes Calling
I ran across a little blurb that said “If your past calls, don’t answer because it rarely has anything new to say”, and wouldn’t you know that in about 10 minutes, I had received a random text from one hangover and a missed call from another. The moons and the stars must have been in perfect alignment because there is no desire to deal with either Good on Paper or Out of Sight yet for some reason, my responses were a little inconsistent with the two. Out of Sight had been told many months ago that trying to be “friends” was just stupid. I don’t even like him as a…
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Situationville
How many of you can relate to that title? One simple word that basically means you are involved in one of those situations that really should NOT exist.You’re dealing with a man or woman, but there is no commitment, no relationship exists. He or she is more than a friend, but more significant than a friends with benefits. The two of you have a real connection, strong feelings and passion. Yet still, you’re undefined and technically unattached to each other. It’s funny how many people, especially men seem to think that a commitment is all about a title when it is so much more. So instead of moving on to something new there are…
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The Crymax Experience
“Move your arms again and I will punish you and go harder, do you understand? Keep them up just like that. I told you when I saw you again; I was going to make sure we parted ways with you being extremely satisfied.” I can remember nodding followed by some kind of inaudible sound coming out of my mouth, which wasn’t good enough so he responded with a devilish grin and a deep thrust. The reaction to that was a loud yelp and “Okay sweetie, I’m sorry” which turned him on even more as he began to rhythmically drill into hidden corners inside of me. Soft whimpers of pleasure escaped my…
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If I Had My Way
Sometimes I tend to think too much and as one of my former hangovers used to joke, if Carmen is thinking, you better watch out. Do you ever have those moments where your brain just seems like it is on overload, and instead of going through the motions you tend to think a little TOO much? I have moments when I want to just do it, not over think and if I had my way, I would do more to enoy the moments. For instance, this past Sunday I had a minor setback and paid a visit to Rescue. While I certainly enjoyed pouncing on his face and working him…
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Things to Do Before Vacation
After 6 days of soaking in the blazing sun, sipping Sammy Sosas by the pool, and reveling in the beauty of the country and people of the Dominican Republic, I’m back! Back to reality, back to life, back to the dating scene and as much as I hate to say it, back to the hangovers that come with dating. But everything has a priority after such a fabulous vacation, so I thought I would share my checklist of things to do: 1. Unpack 2. Rest and flush kidneys 3. Mind blowing sex 4. Have multiple orgasms 5. More sex 6. First date with new guy 7. More sex and…