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Should You Date When You’re Broke- Part II
“Are we talking rough as in I do okay here and there or rough as in Top Ramen every night for dinner? His response was “Top Ramen for breakfast, lunch and dinner”. This was the warning sign Broke Boo was giving me, a true depiction of how his current financial status wasn’t the best. Part II of this post went as follows: After getting beyond the preliminary getting-to-know-you type of discussion which covered work, living arrangements, children and the like, Broke Boo asked if I wanted to get together just a day after our first talk. Now in case you didn’t catch it, “getting together” is NOT the same…
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Should You Date When You’re Broke? Part I
Dating is something that consumes both time and energy and for the life of me, I will never understand how the cheaters and players are able to carry on without burning out. While having two dates back to back in the same weekend may seem appealing (yeah, I’m hot stuff) and in the right direction (eliminate two men at once), it was a bit tiring. Having to decide on two different outfits, hairstyle, shoes and coordinating purses and jewelry is something I would much rather worry about once a week. Not only is the preparation for the first date and meeting with a person enough to get you all worked…
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Wheels on The Bus
If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. How about a little background on the latest candidate, Tiny Tim. The irony of the name is befitting when thinking of this tall, dark and chocolate hangover. He’s another big one, standing at a staggering 6’5 and is solid muscle, a gentle giant of sorts. His nice, warm smile and skin as smooth as a Milky Way bar is what made me stop to check him out when receiving my first message. Somewhat of a health fanatic, Tiny works out several times a week and feeds his body nothing but healthy foods and is a moderate drinker. For those of you…
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Jersey Boy Strikes Out!
As of last week, my address book was minus one again – Jersey Boy struck out. I find the title of this post fitting since he was an avid softball player; that should have been a clue. Actually, he was out before he was even in because I could tell within the first couple of contacts that he was going to be more like the crippled horse instead of the amazing stallion. Oh yes, it was only two weeks or so ago when I posted about Jersey Boy here , where I mentioned how nice our meet up had been. With minimal expectations. What was left out of that hopeful encounter…
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Thanks, but no thanks!
Being forced to be civil with your ex, especially the other half who helped in the creation of your child is tough. For the most part, I have as minimal contact with the father which helps in living a drama free life. As the two of us stood in the cold, watching the kids displaying their best effort at scoring a touchdown, the polite small talk got a bit personal. Allow me to share a few excerpts from my discussion with “The Bullet” (meaning the one I dodged. Sort of): TB: “So Carmen, are you still with that one dude, the firefighter?” Me: “No”. TB: “Man, you go through boyfriends…
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Who’s Looking For Perfection?
“So the man has issues, at least he’s willing to spring for a $500 per night date. Stop looking for perfection and just roll with him”. These are the words heard from a good friend ealier this week who tried to chastize me for complaining that I had a great time with Tall Glass of Wine, but realized why I decided not to continue dating him months back. Initially, I felt a little bad because overall, he is a really great guy. On the surface, at least. However, just a few moments later I realized she was wrong, wrong, wrong and that I was not looking for perfection at…
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A Year of Dating Hangovers
One year. 365 days. 53 weeks. Several template revisions, three “About Me” rewrites, many lessons learned. 118 posts. 1,071 comments. Thousands of Spam messages. Encounters with an estimated 26 men. Total of 26 disappointments with men. Countless expletives. Many headaches. Several arguments. One heartache. Happy Blogoversary My Dating Hangovers! I’m not quite sure how to feel knowing an entire year has passed since I first entered the world of blogging. Although I started this as a hobby of sorts, to get my feet wet in the realm of online journaling, at times I wondered if I kept knocking down the different men I had encountered to give me a reason to…
- Break Ups, Married Men, My Dating Hangovers, Red Flags, THIS is Why I'm Single!, When you're dating your ex
A new day
Cost for an after hours locksmith- $84 Feeling okay the day after a break up-PRICELESS. Saturday was quite interesting. As I woke up and started preparing food for a potluck, I wondered about my plan of action. I was so over the “how come you won’t just talk to me” or the “your actions make no sense” and especially the “you say you need and love me but I don’t see it” type of conversations. These were pretty much common place for about a month with Rescue. I called our mutual friend as I was pulling out of the driveway and asked “is your buddy there?”, and once I heard…
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Phase 3- The “I don’t know how I feel” moment
To say that this past week has been rough would be a gross understatement. I haven’t been shedding tears of “my relationship is crappy and pretty much over, but more “this whole wanting to be with someone is crappy”. Actually, I take that back – the crying has pretty much subsided and has been replaced with an attitude of indifference. Rescue has issues that need to be worked out and as much as he keeps trying to convince me that WE are okay, I beg to differ. Selfishness or love? Which is it when someone knows they’re not right for you OR need to work on themselves before trying to…
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Part Deaux
It has been eight days since Rescue and I had our latest "incident", seven days since we last saw each other, and six days since I apologized and two hours have passed since he and I had what I hope was the beginning of a break through conversation. Yes, I apologized and the reason why is simple: Men and women think differently. This is by no means a statement that has never been heard before, but at that moment when I pulled over to the side of the road and inhaled, then exhaled before making my call to him I realized this was the gospel truth. Now before I go on…
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He can blame himself in the end- Pt. 1
So much has transpired since my update last weekend. Of course, my girls who have seen me know the details of all that went down with me and Rescue and for you others – read it here because I simply don’t have the energy to rehash it. That last line sounds like a state of defeat, doesn’t it? As of today (Saturday) night, I have to admit to myself that something went away within the last couple of days. Saying that I’m no longer in love with Rescue would be a lie BUT saying I’ve lost THAT feeling is completely true. You know what I’m talking about? I can’t really…
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Damn you Full Metal!
As I shared with my boss during a mini meltdown, stress reliever and bitch fest (known as my annual review), my career seems to be the only thing out of balance in my life right now. Yes, probably not the best thing to share with your boss but it is what it is. Yes, the job industry is pretty crappy right now so instead of me doling out my resume and having to beg the recruiters to please stop calling (slight to moderate exaggeration), I’m damn near offering “services” just to get my resume read. I’ll be damned if the majority of the EXACT type of field I’m interested in…
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The winds are changing…
And those bitches are like the Santa Ana's in the dead of summer - hot and swift. It was just a week or so ago that Kim sent me a BBM ladened with her latest dating woes and said- "Damn girl, things are going so well with you and Rescue, we won't have anything to read on the blog". My reply was "I wouldnt necessarily say that because there is a big issue that keeps eating away at me, so I can't even say I'm in the clear". Bless her heart when she says “well, at least you’re 1/4 of the way”. Aw… Genuine happiness from a friend who…
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If you have to ask why…
This probably more of a rant than anything, but I just have to say how sick I am of hearing the stories about women who are waiting. Waiting for that man to propose OR for those lucky enough to have heard already heard it, waiting for things to be “right” before a the man finally marries them. If you have to ask why it hasn’t happened after so much time together (especially to someone other than your guy), you probably already know the answer. I mean really, let’s be truthful with ourselves. No, I’ve never been married or been engaged. Hell, I’m not even sure if the promise ring was…
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Are we compatible?
So not what I wanted to read today: “…On the face of it, a combination between Capricorn and Libra may not seem the best of matches…” As much as I enjoy reading my horoscope to see how accurate, twisted or completely WRONG the forecast may be, one area I’d never really given much thought to was the compatibility aspect. I’m not one of those special people who have to read it every day to see if I’m going to have the best day ever or a crappy-should-stay-at-home kind of day, figure if I should pay my rent or buy a new pair of shoes or if I should break up a…
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