• Bad First Dates,  Online Dating,  Plenty of Fail,  Settling or Compromising?

    3 Signs the Date Wasn’t So Great

    “So um hypothetically speaking, let’s say you and I keep doing this right here you know and after about three months we’re in a really cool place.  Does that mean you’ll eventually close out your dating account or do we have that conversation when you feel like you’re ready?” Blank stare. “I’m ready, you know what I’m saying because you are the type of woman who is on my level, is over the clubbing, you’re a good parent and think the same way as I do.  So um are you ready to take this to the next level?” Fool, what level and why are you talking like you’re with the homies on…

  • Dumb Shit Guys Do,  Online Dating,  Plenty of Fail

    Older Isn’t Necessarily Better

    This week in online dating fuckery…. “Grab my attention,  huh?   Well I’m certainly interested in being locked from top to bottom.  I just need to get rid of these cold sores and finish this prescription for this HPV…” Okay, so I really didn’t say this but it sure would have been a hoot to see what Mister Carmel had to say. FUCKERY. Most of the time these foolish tyoes of messages are simply ignored but every now and then, I’ll reply.  I know this is a little odd, but sometimes I just want to pass the time being entertained by these idiots. I’m realizing more and more that the number…

  • Dumb Shit Guys Do,  Online Dating,  Plenty of Fail,  Shitty Dating Profiles

    The Retards of Online Dating

    How do you respond to a dude who’s photos shows a money struggle between bills, weed and women and if you think this photo is bad, just imagine what his dating profile says. I normally ignore messages from ingrates like this (using the Urban Dictionary meaning here), but sometimes I really want to message EXACT what I am thinking and feel. The Inland Empire (San Bernardino,  Riverside) area seems to be breeding a special kind of loser  because this happens to be the fourth of his kind that has reached out to me this week. Sometimes I really wonder if breaking up with any of my ex’s was such a good…

  • Dumb Shit Guys Do,  Online Dating,  Uncategorized

    Men and Their Photo Requests

    I realize that some of the experiences shared about online dating may be foreign to some of my readers because you’re either married or involved with someone or quite possibly, have never used this method of meeting people.  For those of us out here in the trenches fighting this uphill battle, you’ll be able to look at this textversation above and immediately see why I’m so annoyed: Why are these men always asking for more photos? I get requests like this all the time and not just from the ones encountered online, so for the life of me, I just don’t get why they keep asking.  Unless a woman’s profile only has…

  • Bad First Dates,  Online Dating,  Red Flags,  Slider Posts,  Uncategorized

    Anna Mae, Eat the Cake!

    This post is dedicated to any woman who thought she was being too picky, said no too quickly or even said these dreaded “may as well” when going out with someone she should have ignored and deleted.   It’s going to be a long one, so grab your coffee and take a seat. On the surface, this one hangover seemed like a pretty decent catch.  He’s educated, is a homeowner,  and has been pretty successful in a career as a social worker for over ten years.  The bonus was that he decided not to operate as if he was a sperm bank and only had one child of wedlock.  The man…

  • Interracial Dating,  Online Dating,  Plenty of Fail

    Little White Lies

    If only he hadn’t invited me upstairs to his place after dinner, things might have gone differently.  I may not have figured it out so soon.  Let’s roll back the tape to that date two weeks ago… I’m unapologetically shallow when it comes to physical attractiveness, it’s a turn on.  We know this, so I no longer pretend that looks don’t matter.  A man with a high level of intelligence and great communication skills is equally sexy and if his integrity and goals are in alignment? A definite panty dropper.  It’s just so damn hard finding that perfect balance, so I try to work with some of the ones who…

  • Online Dating,  Plenty of Fail

    This Week in Dating Fuckery

    It’s been a long week for me and today is only Tuesday,  so I welcomed a little break with a few dating site messages. Things started off kind of odd with this dude because his first message said “Hello,  you are very beautiful so I had to message.   I read your profile carefully and no one is perfect.” What the hell?  Who’s looking for perfection?? I just make it pretty darn clear with this newly reactivated profile that my threshold for bullshit is negative zero. I reply something simple and this dude asks me how my day was and if I was headed home.  I said not yet and returned…

  • Online Dating

    5 Types of Men Online

    For those of you who have not had the pleasure of trying out the online dating experience, this may be news to you – it sucks. For the others like me who have tried everything from eHarmony to Black People Meet to Match and a few rounds on the ultimate cesspool known as Plenty of Fish, you will certainly agree that there are certain types of (special) people who call themselves dating. On your quest to find love and happiness with a good man or woman who wants the same, you might come across the Socially Retarded, Really Unavailable, or Down to F@ck (DTF’s) types instead. I’m thinking nearly every…

  • Online Dating,  Settling or Compromising?

    Decisions, Decisions

    I think I need to make a decision on what to do with this online dating account and there are two good reasons for not wanting to do anything too hasty but at the same time, there are two very good reasons for why I should just pull the plug. It has been quite some time since the process of deleting of a dating profile has occurred for a good reason because normally the antics of men simply drive me to the point of sheer disgust and hopelessness and slowly, the dismantling begins.  The amount of time I pop on the site to read messages slows down and my response…

  • Online Dating

    They SHOULD be ashamed!

    This is just a quick post dedicated to a male friend of mine who’s always saying “it can’t be that bad” or “stop being so picky” and anyone who has done it  or is currently dating online knows good and damn well that our stories of despair aren’t exaggerated. Here are a couple of actual profile photos from _______.com and yes- each has messaged me, trying to convince me that each is the Prince Charming I’ve been waiting for all my life. 1.  Hang Time The infamous bathroom shot and this dude probably figured he was getting brownie points since it wasn’t a mirror shot.  I don’t even know where…

  • Online Dating,  Red Flags

    Return to Sender?

    The man I have been getting to know while he planned a major life changing move back to Southern California has arrived and he made sure I was on the list of things to do the same day his plane touched down.  Sunday afternoon seemed to make all of the waiting and anticipation worth it, and thankfully that same chemistry and good-feeling vibes experienced over the telephone these last couple of months seemed worth it. After over 10-years of being gone, being married and starting a family in the mid-west, Out of Sight is a resident once again. Yet just like that item  you recently purchased where you’re not so sure it…

  • Online Dating

    Out of Sight, On My Mind

    Someone has captured my attention. To the point where I look forward to receiving his quirky text messages with random “mannish moments” and the entertaining, no holds barred telephone conversations that we share.  Just thinking about our talks brings a smile to my face and even as I’m writing this, am finding myself blushing like a little girl with her first crush or something; it’s crazy. Nothing is off limits so far as what we share with one another, absolutely nothing and I like how he cares enough to ask if something he asked was too intrusive or if a comment was going too far.  Being able to enjoy getting to…

  • Online Dating,  Sex/Romance

    Thoughts & Achy Nipples

    I’m not sure what it was that jostled me out of the bed this morning, because it sure as hell wasn’t the chime of my alarm.  Memo to self: Pressing “Save” is a critical step when changing the time of your wake-up call.  Was it the sound and smell of the horny neighborhood skunks getting it in under my bedroom window the reason I nearly fell onto the floor? Nah, probably not. It was more like my brain having mercy on me because that dream I was having was really fucked up.  It seemed as if it lasted for hours, and had me feeling all types of emotions from horny to…

  • Online Dating,  Settling or Compromising?

    Is it time to settle?

    The type of man I’m looking for probably doesn’t exist. At least not yet, so it’s time for me to release myself from online dating again. I’m not sure why it has taken me so long as the women around me have been been canceling their accounts left and right. Me being o ye faithful had even tried to encourage one friend to hold out until the new year, now understands. Before you ask what happened I’ll say nothing in particular. There are so many undesirable characteristics being shown in the dating world, that both men AND women are guilty of presenting, I can definitely see why the online dating…

  • Guest Posts,  Online Dating,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    The Undateable Woman – Guest Post for Cupid’s Library

    Is it possible that some women will never be successful at dating or having a relationship because they are undateable?  Are there some who have so many negative traits or behaviors to the point that most men will likely disregard them, no matter how attractive?  Why is it that having a strong will, the desire to be successful or having expectations qualities that are acceptable for most, but black women are branded as being too demanding? There isn’t enough time in blog world for me to touch on everything, but there is time for me to start addressing this issue outside of my inner circle which is why The Undateable…