• Cheating,  My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    There is NOTHING like a woman scorned!

      Is it just the women who seem to lose their flipping minds when they find out their significant other is fooling around?  Maybe not, but let’s just say this – we are certainly the ones more likely to let the entire world know when we have been done wrong. I came across this on Facebook earlier today and man, it brought back some memories: If you want the full story, check it out herehttp://www.theblaze.com/stories/2013/06/03/girlfriends-amazing-break-up-letter-goes-mega-viral-everything-elseis-at-kelsis-house/ Hmm.. talk about a flashback. The story of the man I just knew I was destined to be with has yet to be shared on My Dating Hangovers, but believe me- it’s a good one. …

  • My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101

    He’s Getting Closer but…

    Nervousness, excitement and that tingling feeling and a host of other emotions is what I’m feeling right now which seems a little strange because I’ve already met Out of Sight who in just a few short days, will be back in California and this time for good. I’m so happy and can’t wait to give him the biggest hug and some of the longest and wettest kisses possible, and find myself just smiling at the thought of him.  Hmmm, what a refreshing feeling. Having stepped outside of my comfort zone of local only encounters and allowing a nearly 4-month friendship (guess that is what I call this “thing”) with someone…

  • Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Party of Three

    Someone asked me this morning if there was still Hope or if things had returned to a hopeless state.  My reply was that things were so-so which means I’m pretty much winging it at this point.  The last update on him was after the detailed conversation had about dislikes, ways and preferences which left me feeling a little better knowing the type of person I was dealing with.  Accepting that although we happened to have spent more time together in a matter of a week than most people do in a relationship the first couple of weeks, we realized that did not negate the fact that there was so much…

  • Relationship 101

    The Front Runner

     “You really had me a little heated these last couple of days because you really fell off.  Hell, I even had to change your nickname.” “Oh really?  What was it?” “Hope, because that’s what I think we gave each other when it comes to dating.” “Okay, and what did you change it to?” “Humph.  I changed it to Wreck it Ralph because you seemed like someone who didn’t know what he was doing or liked playing games.” “No, it wasn’t anything like that.  Like we just discussed, it wasn’t anything like that but since you changed to Wreck it Ralph how did the movie begin and how did it end?”…

  • Plenty of Fail,  Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Online Dating – Week 1

    Well, I have just made it through the first week of being “back” into the scheme of things, back in the mix, back in the shit. Online dating. I guess it wouldn’t be fair to complain about anything such as of the types and quality of men just yet because you get out what you put in, right? Meaning I really haven’t done much other than create the profile, write the abridged versions of “why I’m great and should no longer be single” thesis, and post a decent profile picture. What else have I done, you may ask – not a damn thing. Like a bird kicking back and waiting…

  • Relationship 101,  Uncategorized

    Facebook ends yet another marriage!

    I guess the title is a little unfair to Facebook, right? If you are caught cheating because of the evidence found by your wife after reading your in box messages, it is the person to blame isn’t it? I’m a little too worn out to fully share what I’ve just witnessed but I’ll tell you two things: First, I can totally understand how this friend’s wife is feeling but damn… The things women do when we’re pissed and hurt can be a quite extreme. Two, this makes me remember my personal experience with a cyber cheater whose Facebook in box revealed who the real person was. Dating hangovers, marriage hangovers……

  • Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Why is dating so challenging?

    Oh how I love the random posts found on Facebook, and today’s came in the form of “Question of the Day”. Why a married woman is interested in knowing this is beyond me unless she’s just curious, but the responses shared is what piqued my interest. Ground breaking? No. New revelations not previously known? Of course not. Was I surprised that nearly all of the respondents were women? Absolutely, positively not. Here are a few… – “Living in Atlanta!”. I’ve heard this many times before from friends who live there, as well as from media reports. The ratio of men to women in this ‘hot spot’ is ridiculously unbalanced and…

  • Relationship 101,  Uncategorized

    Michael, will you marry me?

    Queen Victoria, Halle Berry, Heather Mills (Paul McCartney’s ex), singer Pink, Zsa Zsa Gabor, Jennifer Hudson and most recently, Chrissy Lampkin (reality tv star) have all done it. These women have said to hell with tradition or waiting on a man who may have been dragging his feet and proposed. For those of you who didn’t know, it is not only Leap Day but is something called Sadie Hawkins Day – the day where it is accepted in many parts of the world for women to propose to men. I know what you may be thinking when hearing about women who have to step up and take their relationships to…

  • Relationship 101

    Quote of The Week

    If only there could have been an aunt, older cousin or some other woman in my life to have schooled me on the in’s and out’s of being involved with men. Or maybe that brother, uncle or elder who could have given me the “this is how to handle a man” spill. So much wasted time and energy could have been avoided. So much angst and frustration spared. The few tears I shed over a man, saved for a joyous occasion instead. This quote that I ran across from a friend’s Facebook page should be framed. It should be the first paragraph of Relationship 101, but not just for the…

  • My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Time for a quickie

    No you pervs, not what you’re thinking, but I wanted to actually try posting something succinct. This has been quite an interesting week and yes – the Rescue saga has run its course. The whole situation puts you in mind of how you would feel if they announced the return of a movie. One that you wished would just go away. You know a Jaws movie. Part 7. Yes, I’m just as tired of writing about him but you know I can’t help it. Love. Fuc# love. Fuc# love with Rescue. Fuc# his excuses. Fuc# giving him time. Fuc# holding on. Fuc# second chances. A siren went off in my…

  • Bad First Dates,  Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Online Dating,  Plenty of Fail,  Red Flags,  Relationship 101,  Settling or Compromising?,  Single Parent Dating,  The Non Committal Man or Woman,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized,  When you're dating your ex

    A Year of Dating Hangovers

    One year.  365 days. 53 weeks.  Several template revisions, three “About Me” rewrites, many lessons learned. 118 posts.  1,071 comments.  Thousands of Spam messages.  Encounters with an estimated 26 men.  Total of 26 disappointments with men. Countless expletives.  Many headaches.  Several arguments.  One heartache.  Happy Blogoversary My Dating Hangovers! I’m not quite sure how to feel knowing an entire year has passed since I first entered the world of blogging.  Although I started this as a hobby of sorts, to get my feet wet in the realm of online journaling, at times I wondered if I kept knocking down the different men I had encountered to give me a reason to…

  • Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101,  When you're dating your ex

    A Week of Revelations

                      A Week of Revelations “Only time will tell what happens with him or any of these other three OR any of the others I didn’t have time to mention here.”  I guess the most appropriate place to begin this post is by starting where I left off.  It’s been a little over a week since I last posted and other than the occasional feelings of disappointment, reasoning and a slew of other thoughts and random emotions, not much has really happened directly.  Meaning, I’ve finally taken my own advice of just sitting back and observing what is transpiring in my life…

  • Break Ups,  My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101

    I’m Back!!!!!!

      “Come back to Jamaica…. our home is your home…” I know I’m totally dating myself, but does anyone else remember that little jingle from back in the 80’s?  Let me just say that Montego Bay was everything I had hoped it could be and then some. I’ve been back in town now for almost a week and have been trying to catch up on life which really is a buzz kill after partying, drinking and relaxing as if I didn’t have a care in the world. Another song comes to mind – “Back to life, back to reality, back to the hear and now….” Oh well. How about some…

  • Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101,  When you're dating your ex

    Before the trip

    I just got my house key back from Rescue. The last message I’d sent was pretty stern as I said a little something like “I don’t want to talk to you” and “leave the car running, I’ll meet you at the door”. So there he was, looking as handsome as ever with a puppy dog look on his face to match mine, waiting with key in hand. Here’s how I envisioned things would go: Carmen stands with hands on hips in the door way, one eyebrow cocked in the air with a disgusted look. Rescue walks up and she says “my key”, quickly extends her right hand, gets the key…

  • Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101,  When you're dating your ex

    Phase 2

    The crying, dry heaves and headaches and confusion that follows have subsided. I’ve have passed the “I don’t really want it to be over”, “perhaps we just need a break” and the “why do I feel so bad” stages. I’ll admit it here – Saturday and Sunday were more like pre-break up moments. I’d told Rescue I was “letting him go so he could work on himself” and based on the generic/normal type of calls and texting that followed, I learned my girlfriends were right- he didn’t get it. Rescue didn’t understand that those weren’t just words of support for his negligent, inconsistent and somewhat suspect absenteeism but instead, my…