• Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101,  When you're dating your ex

    The word is OUT!

    All I’m saying is… It seems like the world got the memo about my relationship blues. I get a random text message from Mr. Jekyl (damn, I STILL have not shared the sordid details about that love affair turned Nightmare on Elm St.). Simply saying “Hi”. Don’t read any more into it. That IS his modus operandi – get you with a minimalistic approach then go in for the kills texting you to death asking why you can’t be friends. Then, I get an even more random “Hi there friend, long time no talk. How have you been? I miss my friend, hope we can meet up soon”. This was…

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    After all of that…

    I believe I am now a single woman. Again. After all of the drama, the divorce arguments, trying to convey communication vs incorrect assumptions, and learning to juggle things in life, I decided I can take no more. When I woke up yesterday (for like the 3rd time), I decided there is no hope for Rescue and me. Maybe there’s no hope for him, period. After all of enlightening feedback I received from Papa Bear, I thought we would be okay, being able to be strong enough to weather any storm. I apologized my part in having caused and strife and it was well received by Rescue but then he…

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    He can blame himself in the end- Pt. 1

    So much has transpired since my update last weekend. Of course, my girls who have seen me know the details of all that went down with me and Rescue and for you others – read it here because I simply don’t have the energy to rehash it. That last line sounds like a state of defeat, doesn’t it? As of today (Saturday) night, I have to admit to myself that something went away within the last couple of days. Saying that I’m no longer in love with Rescue would be a lie BUT saying I’ve lost THAT feeling is completely true. You know what I’m talking about? I can’t really…

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    The winds are changing…

      And those bitches are like the Santa Ana's in the dead of summer - hot and swift. It was just a week or so ago that Kim sent me a BBM ladened with her latest dating woes and said- "Damn girl, things are going so well with you and Rescue, we won't have anything to read on the blog".  My reply was "I wouldnt necessarily say that because there is a big issue that keeps eating away at me, so I can't even say I'm in the clear". Bless her heart when she says “well, at least you’re 1/4 of the way”. Aw… Genuine happiness from a friend who…

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    Just Be Up Front!

                                “Hey dear stranger.  🙂  Its ____, how are you?  Just putting the word out that I’m off the market.  Got engaged”. This is the text message I received from the hangover named Mr. Hollywood hangover just after midnight, and while I adjusted my eyes in the dark to read this as I awoke this morning, I found myself adjusting them once again to correct them from being crossed, marveling at the thought of this guy sending this to me.  Sure, I shouldn’t care because I’ve got my Rescue and sure, I should be happy for anyone who has successfully…

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    Training in Session

                              My life seems to be on overdrive as of late – finalizing my career change ideas, researching masters degree programs, lounging in large pools in Vegas. I mean really, that can just be a bit overwhelming for a girl, you know? Of course I realize there’s  no excuse (except a lame one) for me having left the writing alone for over a week. None. Especially when I fuss at other bloggers and remind them of that handy WordPress mobile application we can always use whenever we’re not near a computer. So what about my dating life and…

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    Are we compatible?

    So not what I wanted to read today:  “…On the face of it, a combination between Capricorn and Libra may not seem the best of matches…” As much as I enjoy reading my horoscope to see how accurate, twisted or completely WRONG the forecast may be, one area I’d never really given much thought to was the compatibility aspect.  I’m not one of those special people who have to read it every day to see if I’m going to have the best day ever or a crappy-should-stay-at-home kind of day, figure if I should pay my rent or buy a new pair of shoes or if I should break up a…

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    72 Hour Gag Order

      The stages of a break-up. We’re probably familiar with what they are or may have at least heard of them, but they’re the different transitions we go through with our minds and emotions that are really on the verge of a break-DOWN, depending on how involved you are with your significant other, boyfriend or husband.  I’m not really interested in the transitions from one to the next but really, the first couple of days after a break-up. How are you feeling? Hurt, angry, lonely, confused or numb.   Blind-sided, guilty (depending on if it was something YOU did) or stupid. Whatever flows out of the flood gate of emotions, I think that…

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    The Aftermath

    Memo to self: Do not call, text or e-mail for the first 24 hours of a rift or major blowout because I can go from this priceless Kelis moment: rtsp://v1.cache8.c.youtube.com/CjULENy73wIaLAnJiPDPXgKV2BMYJCAkFEIGbXYtcmltSARSB3Jlc3VsdHNg8vnnvMCNmq5NDA==/0/0/0/video.3gp To having a Minnie type sensation thinking about all of the good: rtsp://v2.cache4.c.youtube.com/CjULENy73wIaLAk4ME-ewClNkBMYJCAkFEIGbXYtcmltSARSB3Jlc3VsdHNg8vnnvMCNmq5NDA==/0/0/0/video.3gp After bringing my friend up to speed on the latest developments with Rescue she said “he should know that he’s used 6 of his 9 lives”. No further explanation needed. I’ve only confirmed that Men are from some undiscovered planet and Women are from Earth. As Mel commented on the “Closed Mouths Don’t Get Fed” post, men are simple. When they say something, that’s normally what it…

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    Closed Mouths Don’t Get Fed

    Finally, the end of the day is here! When you’ve got a lot of stuff on your mind, doesn’t the 8-hour work day seem more like a 28 hour flight sandwiched between two large people with no a/c and a bad itch down there?  Yep, pretty much like torture. So here’s part two of this morning’s surface street and bathroom post, “My Hump Wednesday” and while I’m still emotional and pissed off at this monkey wrench being thrown into the mix,  I probably shouldn’t make any decisions nor should I even be writing about this latest hangover in training but f!ck it, here it is.  Rescue’s actions are making me question my own…

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    What am I worried about?

    “I’m having a baby and am so excited, but how do I tell my fiance’ it isn’t his?” “Having sex with him bores me to DEATH. He has no idea what foreplay is or what it takes to turn me on. The very thought of him touching me makes me nauseous.  Still, I love him so.” “I don’t know what I’m going through right now, and while I still want the marriage, I have my needs. I know I should have stopped months ago, but playing out my fantasies with another man is what keeps me sane.” One story I just saw on another blog, one is actual and the…

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    Ssh… I’ve got a secret

    In true procrastinating-blogger-who-makes-excuses-acting-like-posts-by-cell-are-impossible fashion, I’m going to apologize. Has it really been a week already? Damn, where are my nights and days going. Oh wait- I know. Rescue 911. Two songs popped into my head while I was on the treadmill a few moments ago. The first was “My Little Secret” by Xscape but no- that one doesn’t exactly fit. The second was “If Loving You Is Wrong” by Barbara Mandrell. I liked the lyrics a little better, not screaming “whore!!!” Like the Xscape song but still- not quite fitting to my situation. I’ve been contemplating for quite some time about sharing my philanderings with Rescue. He’s like my dirty…

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    Vicious cycle

    Same old stuff in my world and apparently, a few others as well. Oh, the woes of dating. I just got off the phone with one of my good friends named Kim*, and although we JUST had this conversation earlier this week, there we were again talking about stupid men. I reminded her about the do’s and don’ts on how to handle a friend with benefits (FWB), and quickly realized that too many of us are dealing with the ups and downs that can drain the hell out of you. We (myself included) are caught up in a vicious cycle where we try to delete a person out of our…

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    Can your lengthy single life ruin a new relationship?

    “The longer a person has been single, the harder it will be to have a meaningful relationship with them. Is this true or false and why?” This was a question posted by a friend on Facebook this afternoon and before I browsed through the replies that included the yes, no’s and don’t know’s. One of the people commented “False because while you are single you should be learning yourself, learning what you want and don’t want so that you will be better at selecting your next mate. Timing is everything.”  Bless her heart, this lady tried but I think she missed the point or perhaps looked at the question a…