— Dating over 40, Interracial Dating, Online Dating, Red Flags, Settling or Compromising?, Understanding Men, What Women Want —

Program Change

October 4, 2016

While contemplating my next move with Jon B, I’m realizing that aside from him being cute and seemingly good on paper, we really don’t have that much in common or at least nothing else that I can tell because he doesn’t talk about much. Sure, we both enjoy eating and indulging in cocktails, but other than that I only… Read More Program Change

— Bad First Dates, Dating Over 30, Dating While Black (DWB), Dumb Shit Guys Do, First Dates, Online Dating, Plenty of Fail, Settling or Compromising?, Single Girl Problems, Slider Posts, Slider Posts —

I Can Work with Men

March 3, 2016

The funny thing about dating is that there are so many different types of men and situations out there so you really are placed in a position of picking your poison. My last date from a few months ago really had it together. He owned a couple of properties, had a stable career with no… Read More I Can Work with Men

— Friend Zone, Settling or Compromising?, Shitty Dating Profiles —

Older Men With Roommates?

February 18, 2016

For the love of God, why are there so many men with roommates in Los Angeles???? I haven’t even begun to share the details about the guy I’m supposed to be dating “exclusively” because I don’t think it’s a good idea for me to have agreed to that, and so soon. So in my moment… Read More Older Men With Roommates?

— Dating Over 30, First Dates, Online Dating, Settling or Compromising? —

Too Soon?

February 16, 2016

EXCLUSIVITY Related to exclusivity: Mutual exclusivity ex·clu·sive (ĭk-sklo͞o′sĭv) adj. 1. Excluding or tending to exclude: exclusive barriers. 2. Not allowing something else; incompatible: mutually exclusive conditions. 3. Not divided or shared with others: exclusive publishing rights. 4. Not accompanied by others; single or sole. It’s late and as I’m ready to call it a night,… Read More Too Soon?

— Friends with Benefits, My Dating Hangovers, Settling or Compromising?, Single Girl Problems, The Non Committal Man or Woman —

Shit or Get Off The Pot

August 21, 2015

When a woman is ready to let go, nothing can change her mind.… Read More Shit or Get Off The Pot

— Friends with Benefits, Settling or Compromising?, Sex/Romance, Single Girl Problems —

Breaking the Rules

August 5, 2015

Rule #1 of having a friend with benefits – don’t catch feelings. Rule #2 of having a friend with benefits – don’t catch feelings. If only there was a manual for how to successfully carry on with this type of thing. Too bad I never thought to read 10 Simple Rules to Maintaining a Successful… Read More Breaking the Rules

— Settling or Compromising?, Sex/Romance —

That One Connection

July 7, 2015

I’m addicted to him. I realize this addiction after my latest encounter with Papi just a while ago, and while we have been at the sexual affair for almost 20 years, the unthinkable seems to be happening. It just keeps getting better and this feeling is what frightens me the most. Incredibly sensual and the… Read More That One Connection

— Friends with Benefits, Settling or Compromising?, Sex/Romance, Single Girl Problems, The Non Committal Man or Woman —

The 18 Year Situation

April 6, 2015

I only want him for the sex… Read More The 18 Year Situation

— Bad First Dates, Online Dating, Plenty of Fail, Settling or Compromising? —

3 Signs the Date Wasn’t So Great

March 12, 2015

“So um hypothetically speaking, let’s say you and I keep doing this right here you know and after about three months we’re in a really cool place. Does that mean you’ll eventually close out your dating account or do we have that conversation when you feel like you’re ready?” Blank stare. “I’m ready, you know what… Read More 3 Signs the Date Wasn’t So Great

— Red Flags, Settling or Compromising?, THIS is Why I'm Single!, Uncategorized —

But at Least She HAS a Man!

October 23, 2014

“Finally, I have met my soul mate. He is a true lover of the Lord, engages me in deep and thought-provoking conversations and compliments me constantly. Never have I had a man tell me how beautiful I am several times a day, not even my ex-husband and I can’t recall the last time I have… Read More But at Least She HAS a Man!

— Online Dating, Settling or Compromising? —

Decisions, Decisions

November 25, 2013

I think I need to make a decision on what to do with this online dating account and there are two good reasons for not wanting to do anything too hasty but at the same time, there are two very good reasons for why I should just pull the plug. It has been quite some… Read More Decisions, Decisions

— Friends with Benefits, Red Flags, Settling or Compromising?, The Non Committal Man or Woman —

Situationville

August 12, 2013

How many of you can relate to that title? One simple word that basically means you are involved in one of those situations that really should NOT exist.You’re dealing with a man or woman, but there is no commitment, no relationship exists. He or she is more than a friend, but more significant than a friends with… Read More Situationville

— Red Flags, Settling or Compromising? —

A Few Pounds Too Much

July 17, 2013

It’s always hard to let someone know there’s something major missing in the likeness department when they are really nice, because no one wants to get their feelings hurt for I’ve been trying to decide how to handle this situation with Showtime. There hasn’t been much shared about him here since our initial meet-up and… Read More A Few Pounds Too Much

— Settling or Compromising?, The Non Committal Man or Woman, Uncategorized —

Pedal Slowly OR Just Stop?

July 7, 2013

“Damn Carmen, it sounds like you are further ahead with things than he is, so I’m not saying get rid of him altogether but you may need to just pedal slower and allow him time to catch up. Then on the other hand, he’s acting like a man and telling you what you want to… Read More Pedal Slowly OR Just Stop?

— Online Dating, Settling or Compromising? —

Is it time to settle?

December 23, 2012

The type of man I’m looking for probably doesn’t exist. At least not yet, so it’s time for me to release myself from online dating again. I’m not sure why it has taken me so long as the women around me have been been canceling their accounts left and right. Me being o ye faithful… Read More Is it time to settle?