• Guest Posts,  Sex/Romance,  What Women Want

    Can Incompatibility Be The Problem?

    He’s giving me that look again, rubbing on my leg and talking dirty to me.  I know what he wants and don’t know if I can stomach another round with him. In fact, the last time I almost reached towards the nightstand to get B.O.B. and this was while we were having sex. I have been fortunate enough to have had some marvelous sexual conquests in my life. However just the same, there have been a few men who have fallen short (pun intended) in the bedroom and if this was just someone I was having a little fun with, I would chop it up as a loss and move…

  • Friends with Benefits,  Settling or Compromising?,  Sex/Romance,  Single Girl Problems

    Breaking the Rules

    Rule #1 of having a friend with benefits – don’t catch feelings. Rule #2 of having a friend with benefits – don’t catch feelings. If only there was a manual for how to successfully carry on with this type of thing.  Too bad I never thought to read 10 Simple Rules to Maintaining a Successful Sex Buddy Relationship. Here’s my deal. In an effort to minimize my slut factor throughout the years, I have kept the company of two male “companions” whose sole purpose in my life was to dick me down.  No drama, no dating, no regular telephone calls and no questioning of each other’s dealings or actions in anyway.…

  • Settling or Compromising?,  Sex/Romance

    That One Connection

    I’m addicted to him. I realize this addiction after my latest encounter with Papi just a while ago, and while we have been at the sexual affair for almost 20 years, the unthinkable seems to be happening. It just keeps getting better and this feeling is what frightens me the most. Incredibly sensual and the chemistry is always intense.  The kind of interactions that most people will never experience in a life time. We continue to explore and no take each other’s bodies to another level.  So tonight, it was my turn to be the dominant as I talked and nanny instructed him through each and every touch, kiss and…

  • Friends with Benefits,  Sex/Romance

    The Familiar

    When the sex is so good, you’re ready for bed by 9pm on a Saturday night. It’s been 7 months and after a disappointing random encounter with someone new, I decided it’s best to stick with what I know. After nearly 20 years, he has never ever let me down. Mmm, Papi. Until there’s a cure for the dating hangovers, I will not be starved of multiple orgasmic episodes. Carmen Jones

  • Sex/Romance,  Slider Posts,  Slider Posts,  Uncategorized

    Ignoring the Limpness

    It’s late at night and the two of you either made plans for a happy ending or figured a hot and steamy make out session is what a 2am visit would eventually lead to. An intense round of tongue wrestling ensues and next thing you know, any clothing you were wearing has been strewn throughout the room. The kissing and touching gets pretty intense, nipples and other body parts are now out and ready for some action but there’s just one small problem – the man’s penis isn’t cooperating and not willing to participate in the fun. This just happened to me last night and I’ll be damned if I start…

  • Bad First Dates,  My Dating Hangovers,  Sex/Romance,  Slider Posts,  Uncategorized

    The Come Back Charlie’s

    Hangovers aren’t really feelings you ever want to return but every now and then,  I just might entertain the idea of being entertained.  It’s been several years since I’ve been seen the one called The Black Russian,  but we have both been in and out of the online dating scene so we have chatted briefly a time or two. Yesterday he decided to reach out via telephone and before I share the how his life has been since we met, here’s a little throwback post to reintroduce or introduce him to you.  If you want to read about how that first encounter ended, click here. And now on to The Date with…

  • Sex/Romance,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    The Selfish Fucker

    They say it’s best to try everything at least twice and that’s exactly what I did with this latest hangover who as of Wednesday, so it seems like this was a mutual agreement to hit it and quit it. Our initial encounter went pretty well  and if  you recall, the sexual interaction was a little strange and not very satisfying with me because it felt like I was in bed with Roger Rabbit who was doped up on some type of enhancement drug.  He just couldn’t get enough because as he said over and over again, “your pussy is just so damn good” and it seemed to me as if…

  • First Dates,  Sex/Romance,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Too Much Continued….Minus the Spam!

    For the first time in the years I’ve been writing this blog, a post was sent out loaded with Spam content including everything from naughty messages to Cialis recommendations.  Could it be purely coincidental since “erectile dysfunction” was one of the tagged phrases?  I don’t know but apologize profusely for any confusion.  While there were quite a few dirty birds who were still able to read through the muddle, here’s the post again without the Spam: I’ll just cut to the chase and say that this weekend was a bit of a whirlwind and no – this has nothing to do with that nice fella I went camping with a…

  • Sex/Romance

    Fifty Shades of…

    Last night’s date with a man I originally met over two years ago was painstakingly boring and from the moment we walked into a local spot for a few drinks, my mind was already wandering to the dirty limits. Who was I going to fuck once I get rid of this sappy dude?  Sounds pretty bad to think about a man while in the presence of another but it is what it is.  The night (finally) came to an end with a church hug and as soon as this ass hit the seat, I was looking at my phone wondering who would be the suitor of choice. The first person…

  • Sex/Romance

    Small World

    So far, so good with Out of Sight and while I think the crack in his foundation has been clearly identified based on our conversations, my focus will be away from the negative and more on the potential that he’s offering.  Unfortunately for his friends and family, the relocation date has been pushed ahead by over a month and I’m not ashamed to say that I’m elated to hear this.  It’s all about me for right now. Funny thing is that I’m quite nervous at the same time because the expectations that Out of Sight has for a woman he would even consider dating are quite demanding and while unrealistic…

  • Friends with Benefits,  Sex/Romance,  Uncategorized

    The Crymax Experience

    “Move your arms again and I will punish you and go harder, do you understand? Keep them up just like that.  I told you when I saw you again; I was going to make sure we parted ways with you being extremely satisfied.” I can remember nodding followed by some kind of inaudible sound coming out of my mouth, which wasn’t good enough so he responded with a devilish grin and a deep thrust.   The reaction to that was a loud yelp and “Okay sweetie, I’m sorry” which turned him on even more as he began to rhythmically drill into hidden corners inside of me. Soft whimpers of pleasure escaped my…

  • Interracial Dating,  Sex/Romance

    The Other White Meat

    Remember a few posts back when I was getting all jungle fever with it?  I mentioned that I was finally ready to start paying attention to men of a different persuasion and get my swirl on. For my slow readers, I’m a black woman who has dated nothing but black men (unless mixed races counts for anything).  I have resisted the trend of interracial dating for a few reasons, but figure it’s time to start tapping into a wider pool of available men. I’ll share my theories on the types of men that are attracted to different types of black women later, but for now I must say- since changing my…

  • Online Dating,  Sex/Romance

    Thoughts & Achy Nipples

    I’m not sure what it was that jostled me out of the bed this morning, because it sure as hell wasn’t the chime of my alarm.  Memo to self: Pressing “Save” is a critical step when changing the time of your wake-up call.  Was it the sound and smell of the horny neighborhood skunks getting it in under my bedroom window the reason I nearly fell onto the floor? Nah, probably not. It was more like my brain having mercy on me because that dream I was having was really fucked up.  It seemed as if it lasted for hours, and had me feeling all types of emotions from horny to…

  • Sex/Romance

    The Importance of Stretching

    I just returned to work from a last minute, and very much needed doctor appointment.  In exchange for a $10 co-pay, twenty minutes of waiting, an assistant who couldn’t stop gushing about how much he lovvvved my name, and a doctor who kept using Kobe Bryant analogies? A diagnosis of thigh or abductor tendonitis, two prescriptions for a muscle relaxer and inflammation and the following post-visit instructions: Exercise Prescription for Healthy Adults – Warm up – Do your aerobic workout – Stretch after your aerobic workout – Cool down – Invest in equipment – When ready to increase exercise, increase by 10% from previous workouts I’m silently dying inside, trying…