• My Dating Hangovers,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Dishonest Men, Jaded Women

    I can’t even front right now, I’m feeling pretty disgusted right now and for just a moment, was licking a wound or two.  Okay, I get it – Special Agent was not a person who ever should have been a contender for dating so realizing that months ago, I made the awful mistake of agreeing to remain friends.  This was all him, he reached out to me, he initiated most types of contacts with each other but damn his actions are just so foul.  I’m disappointed and a little hurt that someone who professed to be such a stand up kind of man could be so dishonest.  We agreed not…

  • My Dating Hangovers,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    The Post I Wasn’t Expecting to Post

    I feel as if I would be cheating all of you if I didn’t share how last evening’s visit went with Special Agent.  In fact, I’m still in shock from the conversation I had while waiting for my oil change, and certainly the remaining conversation that followed which lasted over an hour. Let me just say these two things: First, the Internet is an amazing place.  Second, men who are cheating or dishonest fail to realize that at some point, they are going to slip up and forget something. Right now, Special Agent is probably trying to figure out how he is going to apply his special investigative and negotiation…

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    A Visit to The Birthday Boy

    Some of my girlfriends ask about some of the hangovers who affected me the most, especially in between any current dating fiascos. “Have you heard from that pervert Jekyll” or “Did Rescue ever get that divorce” are just a few inquiries received in the last two weeks. Just a few days ago someone else asked whatever happened to Special Agent and if he was still on my delete list? Actually, he is not. He is definitely on the wall of shame for hangovers, but I were to use an extreme analogy to compare him to some of the others, I would say SA was guilty of committing several infractions versus…

  • My Dating Hangovers,  Online Dating,  Red Flags,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Jersey Boy Strikes Out!

    As of last week, my address book was minus one again – Jersey Boy struck out.  I find the title of this post fitting since he was an avid softball player; that should have been a clue.  Actually, he was out before he was even in because I could tell within the first couple of contacts that he was going to be more like the crippled horse instead of the amazing stallion.  Oh yes, it was only two weeks or so ago when I posted about Jersey Boy here , where I mentioned how nice our meet up had been.  With minimal expectations.  What was left out of that hopeful encounter…

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    Score 1, Carmen 0

    Just think…. It was only a few days ago when I was joyfully posting about an exciting first meeting and date! The Score was very promising because we got along marvellously over the telephone and had so much in common. He was smart, witty, funny, and like me – preferred the creative side vs the stagnant environment we both complained about in corporate America. The two of us were pretty well traveled and joked about not being able to date anyone who did not have a passport. The Score and I love, love, love music! Shared a commonality of simple things like people watching, writing, creating something out of a…

  • My Dating Hangovers,  Red Flags,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Thanks, but no thanks!

    Being forced to be civil with your ex, especially the other half who helped in the creation of your child is tough. For the most part, I have as minimal contact with the father which helps in living a drama free life. As the two of us stood in the cold, watching the kids displaying their best effort at scoring a touchdown, the polite small talk got a bit personal. Allow me to share a few excerpts from my discussion with “The Bullet” (meaning the one I dodged. Sort of): TB: “So Carmen, are you still with that one dude, the firefighter?” Me: “No”. TB: “Man, you go through boyfriends…

  • My Dating Hangovers,  Red Flags,  Uncategorized

    Who’s Looking For Perfection?

      “So the man has issues, at least he’s willing to spring for a $500 per night date.  Stop looking for perfection and just roll with him”. These are the words heard from a good friend ealier this week who tried to chastize me for complaining that I had a great time with Tall Glass of Wine, but realized why I decided not to continue dating him months back.   Initially, I felt a little bad because overall, he is a really great guy.  On the surface, at least.  However, just a few moments later I realized she was wrong, wrong, wrong and that I was not looking for perfection at…

  • My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Time for a quickie

    No you pervs, not what you’re thinking, but I wanted to actually try posting something succinct. This has been quite an interesting week and yes – the Rescue saga has run its course. The whole situation puts you in mind of how you would feel if they announced the return of a movie. One that you wished would just go away. You know a Jaws movie. Part 7. Yes, I’m just as tired of writing about him but you know I can’t help it. Love. Fuc# love. Fuc# love with Rescue. Fuc# his excuses. Fuc# giving him time. Fuc# holding on. Fuc# second chances. A siren went off in my…

  • Bad First Dates,  Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Online Dating,  Plenty of Fail,  Red Flags,  Relationship 101,  Settling or Compromising?,  Single Parent Dating,  The Non Committal Man or Woman,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized,  When you're dating your ex

    A Year of Dating Hangovers

    One year.  365 days. 53 weeks.  Several template revisions, three “About Me” rewrites, many lessons learned. 118 posts.  1,071 comments.  Thousands of Spam messages.  Encounters with an estimated 26 men.  Total of 26 disappointments with men. Countless expletives.  Many headaches.  Several arguments.  One heartache.  Happy Blogoversary My Dating Hangovers! I’m not quite sure how to feel knowing an entire year has passed since I first entered the world of blogging.  Although I started this as a hobby of sorts, to get my feet wet in the realm of online journaling, at times I wondered if I kept knocking down the different men I had encountered to give me a reason to…

  • Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Uncategorized,  When you're dating your ex

    Did we make up or WHAT?

         “You really need to update the blog so your readers know this is what really happens when you’re dealing with relationship issues”.  I wouldn’t expect to hear something like this from a man, and especially not Special Agent but this is what he told me when I shared that there was a little more than “talking” when Rescue and I saw each other last week. Oh wait – I guess I should mention that I told Special Agent about this face to face.  While on my weekend getaway with the girls down in his neck of the woods, he drove up to the resort making it our second time…

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    The Talk

    “I’m certainly not able to expect or ask for an answer now, all I ask is that you think about it”. Rescue’s words last night before I got out of his car. Emotions, thoughts, skepticism, hope, confusion. But wait- I’m getting ahead of myself. Last night’s talk with him caught me off guard because in my mind, I was completely over the situation since we didn’t meet up this past Sunday as originally planned. As I always say and fail miserably, I will try to keep this update under three scroll bars. In a nutshell, things went down as follows: Friday – He called, I finally answered, we spoke. I…

  • Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101,  When you're dating your ex

    A Week of Revelations

                      A Week of Revelations “Only time will tell what happens with him or any of these other three OR any of the others I didn’t have time to mention here.”  I guess the most appropriate place to begin this post is by starting where I left off.  It’s been a little over a week since I last posted and other than the occasional feelings of disappointment, reasoning and a slew of other thoughts and random emotions, not much has really happened directly.  Meaning, I’ve finally taken my own advice of just sitting back and observing what is transpiring in my life…

  • Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Settling or Compromising?,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  When you're dating your ex

    A Tale of Four Men

    Blame the bastards at Hewlett Packard for my delays in posting!  Yes, my laptop is truly on its last leg and I haven’t been able to access the Internet in almost two weeks.  Of course there’s the back-up plan using the Blackberry tool but it’s just easier in front of a real computer to spew out these different thoughts going through my head. I hope you’re ready to read and are NOT reading from a cell phone; otherwise a carpal-tunnel like sensation will develop from scrolling. Let’s go! Currently, there are four men I’ve been in contact with.  Any real contenders for anything?  I’m not sure but from the sign…

  • Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Red Flags,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  When you're dating your ex

    A new day

    Cost for an after hours locksmith- $84 Feeling okay the day after a break up-PRICELESS. Saturday was quite interesting. As I woke up and started preparing food for a potluck, I wondered about my plan of action. I was so over the “how come you won’t just talk to me” or the “your actions make no sense” and especially the “you say you need and love me but I don’t see it” type of conversations. These were pretty much common place for about a month with Rescue. I called our mutual friend as I was pulling out of the driveway and asked “is your buddy there?”, and once I heard…

  • Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  When you're dating your ex

    A few hours later…

    Great minds think alike! Esme, you’re so right. Fu#k these men with all of their issues. I decided at 2:25pm this afternoon that Rescue needs to be rescued. Pun intended. I told a friend a few weeks ago we need to stop dealing with these dog pound-caliber of men. Yes, I said dog pound. They’re cute, you want to cuddle them and even though they’re tattered and beat up from life events, some of us feel the need to rescue them. So last night, I accepted a last minute invitation to see a Foo Fighters concert with….. Tall Glass of Wine. And a great time was had by all! Until…