• First Dates,  Sex/Romance,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Too Much Continued….Minus the Spam!

    For the first time in the years I’ve been writing this blog, a post was sent out loaded with Spam content including everything from naughty messages to Cialis recommendations.  Could it be purely coincidental since “erectile dysfunction” was one of the tagged phrases?  I don’t know but apologize profusely for any confusion.  While there were quite a few dirty birds who were still able to read through the muddle, here’s the post again without the Spam: I’ll just cut to the chase and say that this weekend was a bit of a whirlwind and no – this has nothing to do with that nice fella I went camping with a…

  • THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Have I Become THAT Woman?

    Things have been noticeably quiet on the blogging scene and it hasn’t been due to lack of activity, and I really appreciate the optimistic messengers.  The people who have reached out to me wondering who the mystery man could be, figuring no news is good news.  Ah…the kindhearted souls. Wrong. No Mr. Anything outside of some random dates with some new guys and even a few comebacks vying for another shot with me.  Definitely no one to write home about, though not entirely bad but I’m just feeling awfully blah about men as of late.  Like really, disinterested to the nth degree. This could mean one of two things- I’m…

  • THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Nice Guys Always…

    Finish last. Sadly, it’s true.  I seem to be attracted to every man that is wrong for me and when one comes along who is all things great in so many areas, I can’t force attraction that isn’t there. This must be a curse. I just had a lovely dinner and an entertaining conversation with one of the hangovers from a few months back.  We had gone out a few times during the Out of Sight era and the poor guy- he could never figure out why things sort of stalled. I know why and as he said “I’m still feeling you a lot even though you kind of blew…

  • Cheating,  My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    There is NOTHING like a woman scorned!

      Is it just the women who seem to lose their flipping minds when they find out their significant other is fooling around?  Maybe not, but let’s just say this – we are certainly the ones more likely to let the entire world know when we have been done wrong. I came across this on Facebook earlier today and man, it brought back some memories: If you want the full story, check it out herehttp://www.theblaze.com/stories/2013/06/03/girlfriends-amazing-break-up-letter-goes-mega-viral-everything-elseis-at-kelsis-house/ Hmm.. talk about a flashback. The story of the man I just knew I was destined to be with has yet to be shared on My Dating Hangovers, but believe me- it’s a good one. …

  • Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Party of Three

    Someone asked me this morning if there was still Hope or if things had returned to a hopeless state.  My reply was that things were so-so which means I’m pretty much winging it at this point.  The last update on him was after the detailed conversation had about dislikes, ways and preferences which left me feeling a little better knowing the type of person I was dealing with.  Accepting that although we happened to have spent more time together in a matter of a week than most people do in a relationship the first couple of weeks, we realized that did not negate the fact that there was so much…

  • Bad First Dates,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    I’m Here to Date, Not to Screw

    For the last couple of days, I have been trying to figure out   procrastinating on posting about my lastest date. Fresh out of the caribbean where the men worshipped me like the super bad chick that I am, right into one of the hottest sushi bars in LA for a first time meeting with a new hangover.  I can’t remember if I mentioned this last week, but there were a few “last call” stragglers I had exchanged numbers with prior to ending my membership on this dating site I’ve been on for the last couple of months. One of the men who passed the initial screening for telephone number exchange…

  • Guest Posts,  Online Dating,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    The Undateable Woman – Guest Post for Cupid’s Library

    Is it possible that some women will never be successful at dating or having a relationship because they are undateable?  Are there some who have so many negative traits or behaviors to the point that most men will likely disregard them, no matter how attractive?  Why is it that having a strong will, the desire to be successful or having expectations qualities that are acceptable for most, but black women are branded as being too demanding? There isn’t enough time in blog world for me to touch on everything, but there is time for me to start addressing this issue outside of my inner circle which is why The Undateable…

  • Online Dating,  Settling or Compromising?,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    One to Grow On

      It’s a new day and my mind is doing far too much thinking about this dating situation with the latest candidate who I’m still hoping doesn’t end up becoming one of the hangovers.  God knows there have been too many in a span of about five months, so while a lot of those good old feelings about a man that have been lying dormant have returned, there’s also a familiar feeling that isn’t so good.  The dreaded feeling that my hopes for a positive outcome to my dating bliss thus far with Balance will soon begin to sour. I mentioned last week that Balance was an older man –…

  • Online Dating,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Unofficial Rules of Dating

      It was just a few days ago when I was sharing my happiness after having a pretty good date, a mid-week first meeting at that. But you should also remember that the word “cautiously” was somewhere between happiness at the same time, and since Untitled (the hangover I couldn’t think of a name for) decided to open up page 1 of the guys book on dating, here I am giving an update. More like an exit statement. Untitled chose to follow the unofficial wait-two-days-after-a-date-to-contact-her approach, so obviously there really isn’t that much for me to rant about now.  Why do men do this?  When to call a woman after…

  • My Dating Hangovers,  Online Dating,  Red Flags,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Enron

      As of a few moments ago, I just canceled my second date with Enron only he doesn’t know it yet. You’ll notice that this post doesn’t have a title because hell, I’m a little conflicted on what it should be. While I always said the direct approach is the best way of letting someone know you’re not interested, I may have to do a gradual phase out of this one. Let me just say that Enron is an amazingly interesting man. He had my mind enthralled with his initial message to me, and after the second reply something struck me that said “These words are too good to be…

  • Bad First Dates,  Online Dating,  Red Flags,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Should You Date When You’re Broke- Part II

      “Are we talking rough as in I do okay here and there or rough as in Top Ramen every night for dinner?  His response was “Top Ramen for breakfast, lunch and dinner”. This was the warning sign Broke Boo was giving me, a true depiction of how his current financial status wasn’t the best. Part II of this post went as follows: After getting beyond the preliminary getting-to-know-you type of discussion which covered work, living arrangements, children and the like, Broke Boo asked if I wanted to get together just a day after our first talk. Now in case you didn’t catch it, “getting together” is NOT the same…

  • Online Dating,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Signs of a Desperate Man

    I haven’t even had a chance to post the second part of the Broke Boo experience, nor have I been able to give a snippet of the datemare with Anger Management dude. Still, I must share this example in sheer stupidity and/or desperation. Coming across as the desperately seeking single acting as if you found the last slice of bread on earth is not a good look. Yet sadly, I’m witnessing the types of behaviors that scream lonely, pesky, and creepy all at once. Get a clue already! The absence of online etiquette – no, how about plain old common sense is amazing. Be it a subliminal message or direct…

  • Bad First Dates,  Online Dating,  Red Flags,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Should You Date When You’re Broke? Part I

    Dating is something that consumes both time and energy and for the life of me, I will never understand how the cheaters and players are able to carry on without burning out. While having two dates back to back in the same weekend may seem appealing (yeah, I’m hot stuff) and in the right direction (eliminate two men at once), it was a bit tiring.  Having to decide on two different outfits, hairstyle, shoes and coordinating purses and jewelry is something I would much rather worry about once a week.  Not only is the preparation for the first date and meeting with a person enough to get you all worked…

  • THIS is Why I'm Single!

    A Photo Worth Three Words

    It never ceases to amaze me how accurate I normally am when I see a profile picture and think “Oh hell to the no”. I mean literally, looking at one photo and the hairs on my neck spring to attention and nudge me to press the next button. Sure, you’re probably thinking that I may be missing out on some hidden opportunities by often relying on my he-ain’t-shit instincts, but honestly, my assumptions are normally pretty damn accurate. Let’s say for instance a notification that someone viewed my profile or sent a message. I click on the handy dandy link and viola- I’m right there on the site. Right there,…

  • Guest Posts,  My Dating Hangovers,  Settling or Compromising?,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Guest Post: Dishonest Men, Jaded Women

    I’m ready to lay Special Agent’s story to rest in the archives. Thank you all for the text messages, BBM’s, emails and posts in response to “Dishonest Men, Jaded Women. Several of you who choose not to comment here on the blog seem to feel that my reaction was a little too nonchalant, not angry enough, no signs of “slash that fool’s tires”. Trust me when I say this, I was over dealing with him at 4am Saturday morning before all of this went down. The next woman who doesn’t understand his brush off, special assignments or mood swings and has to Google “how to date an asshole” can deal…