• Dating Tips,  Dumb Shit Guys Do,  Guest Posts,  What Women Want

    When The Texts Stop Coming

    I think it’s fair to say that we’ve all been in a situation where we met someone new, exchanged numbers and after a few text messages, felt like things may be going in the right direction.  But then the communication starts changing a little bit or those texts stop altogether, leaving you wondering what went wrong and I’m sorry fellas – the men are normally on the receiving end of this confusion. But have you ever wondered what you may have sent that may have turned a woman off? I’ve got a couple of reasons to explain why we stop responding to text messages, so head on over to Digital…

  • Dating over 40,  Online Dating,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    First Conversations with Someone New

    Last night’s conversation with July Guy was GREAT, but it almost didn’t happen because after I had given him my number for him to (per his words, have a chat), all he did was fire off a flurry of text messages and not one was asking when I was free to talk. I hate that shit!  Hate it, hate it, HATE it. Even if we’re talking about a regular encounter outside of online dating, why do people use text messaging as a way of getting to know someone?  If we make it past the first couple of calls and like each other when meeting, we’ll have plenty of time for…

  • Guest Posts,  Sex/Romance,  What Women Want

    Can Incompatibility Be The Problem?

    He’s giving me that look again, rubbing on my leg and talking dirty to me.  I know what he wants and don’t know if I can stomach another round with him. In fact, the last time I almost reached towards the nightstand to get B.O.B. and this was while we were having sex. I have been fortunate enough to have had some marvelous sexual conquests in my life. However just the same, there have been a few men who have fallen short (pun intended) in the bedroom and if this was just someone I was having a little fun with, I would chop it up as a loss and move…

  • Bad dating profiles,  Dating Tips,  Dumb Shit Guys Do,  Online Dating,  Plenty of Fail,  profile mistakes guys make,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Profile photos men shouldn’t share

    On and off, hide and reveal, resign and restart.  The vicious cycle known as online dating and for the life of me, I just don’t understand how men can continue to sabotage themselves by ruining the most important part of the process – the dating profile and specifically, the photos. Do these men not realize that they can turn a woman all the way on by what he’s sharing in his profile and just the same, can turn us off completely by choosing the lazy, cheesy and sleazy photos like this debonair fella right here: Yes, this is an actual photo from someone’s profile and yes – he looks like…

  • Dating over 40,  Dating Tips,  Online Dating,  What Women Want

    5 Things Women Want in a Man

    Someone new reached out to me over the weekend online and sent this: I know there’s  less than a snowball chance in hell that you will even respond to this message, but sending it anyway. Your profile is well written and you’re photos are great,  depicting a woman who’s  at the tip of her game. Yet you’re  single (presumably) and online. This might be out of line, but I’m guessing you’re still single because you’re looking for that perfect guy  on your carefully crafted list of about 101 different things. But maybe… just maybe I’m wrong and if so, you’ll respond and we’ll end up riding off into the sunset.…

  • Bad First Dates,  Dating Over 30,  Dating While Black (DWB),  Dumb Shit Guys Do,  First Dates,  Online Dating,  Plenty of Fail,  Settling or Compromising?,  Single Girl Problems,  Slider Posts,  Slider Posts

    I Can Work with Men

    The funny thing about dating is that there are so many different types of men and situations out there so you really are placed in a position of picking your poison. My last date from a few months ago really had it together. He owned a couple of properties, had a stable career with no debt and only one child and was just as eager as myself to find someone special and settle down. That same man was also a self-centered, controlling, condescending asshole who believed he was the crème de la crème and couldn’t understand why or how any woman could reject him.  But like the others he’d complained…

  • Friend Zone,  Settling or Compromising?,  Shitty Dating Profiles

    Older Men With Roommates?

    For the love of God,  why are there so many men with roommates in Los Angeles???? I haven’t even begun to share the details about the guy I’m supposed to be dating “exclusively” because I don’t think it’s a good idea for me to have agreed to that, and so soon. So in my moment of doubt  (and being a tad bit trifling), I went ahead and signed up on another dating site.  You know, to poke around a little bit a see if I stumbled on someone who has it a little more together. And guess what  happened today? I exchanged numbers with a guy who seemed interesting enough. …

  • Dating Over 30,  First Dates,  Online Dating,  Settling or Compromising?

    Too Soon?

    EXCLUSIVITY Related to exclusivity: Mutual exclusivity ex·clu·sive  (ĭk-sklo͞o′sĭv) adj. 1. Excluding or tending to exclude: exclusive barriers. 2. Not allowing something else; incompatible: mutually exclusive conditions. 3. Not divided or shared with others: exclusive publishing rights. 4. Not accompanied by others; single or sole. It’s late and as I’m ready to call it a night, he sends me a text asking if we are now dating exclusively. I don’t respond and in the morning will use the excuse that I’d fallen asleep. We’ve had two outings together and the first didn’t leave a very favorable impression.  Hell, I haven’t even had a chance to share what went wrong with that…

  • THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Happy Valentine’s Day

    Someone who’s been crushing on me since the 9th grade just posted this on my wall.  Such a sweetheart of a guy, who’s smart, kind,  intelligent and…. Very married. It always seems to work out that way but, still -a nice gesture. I hope the lovers are enjoying the day and my singletons as well. Until there’s a cure.. Carmen Jones

  • My Dating Hangovers

    Single With Benefits

    I’m still here and yes, still single. This chick here has been quite busy over the holidays and am just now starting to get into the swing of things after ending the year trying to knock out some of my goals that I’d set which included the usual suspects such as:  losing weight, saving money, traveling, meeting “him” and purchasing a home. The bad news is when it came to losing a couple of pounds and meeting him I failed, failed, failed.  I got nothing, nada, zero, zilch to offer for either of those two major goals. The good news is that I hit two of the major ones out…

  • Dating Over 30,  First Dates,  Friend Zone

    Great First Dates

    We might have a winner! We might have a winner! We might have a winner! In case the point isn’t being emphasized enough, I think we might have a winner so let’s just call him Winner! Last night’s date was a smashing success and even better, the feeling is mutual since we ended the night by texting each other pretty much the same thing and woke up texting nearly the same words as last night which – we were happy to have met, enjoyed the relaxed and open conversation an agreed how everything flowed effortlessly.  Our chemistry was amazing and if you were looking over at our table while we…

  • First Dates,  Single Girl Problems

    Too Pooped for Friday Meet Ups!

    Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday,  Thursday. And now you’re on day five and like most people, have likely been fantasizing about  this day arriving like crazy.  No matter what, it always seems like the longest week  ever,  so when someone asks me on a date for the first time on a Friday night,  I often cringe. Tired, achy feet, sore back, neck strain,  needing a few extra hours of sleep, annoyed with almost everything  traffic-related.  I really just want to go home and strip off my bra, shoes and hair (you read right ) but noooooooo- I have a date that I’ve already committed to. Let me dig a little further. It’s …

  • Slider Posts,  Slider Posts,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    When He Shows the First Sign of Crazy

    “When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time” – Maya Angelou It’s just after 6am and I just ended a telephone call by telling two bold-faced lies to the man on the other end. The first lie was that I was entering underground parking (with not a structure in sight) and would be losing reception and the second lie was that I would call him right back. After about a minute of listening to the venom spewing from his mouth, I was beginning to wonder if this dude was a loose cannon, and for the remaining nine minutes on the phone with him, my suspicions were confirmed. …

  • THIS is Why I'm Single!

    I Tried

    There are a couple of things a woman can do at the end of the date that was a bust. She can make a call to one of her girlfriends offering up a play-by-play of things went, find something else to get into so the night doesn’t end up being a total waste or be a dud and just head back home. I opted for something else. A few shakes of the hair to make those curls fall in place, freshening up of the lipstick and the perfect resting bitch face meant it was time for a selfie, which was sent to him in a text message with no words…