• Dating Tips,  Dumb Shit Guys Do,  Guest Posts,  What Women Want

    When The Texts Stop Coming

    I think it’s fair to say that we’ve all been in a situation where we met someone new, exchanged numbers and after a few text messages, felt like things may be going in the right direction.  But then the communication starts changing a little bit or those texts stop altogether, leaving you wondering what went wrong and I’m sorry fellas – the men are normally on the receiving end of this confusion. But have you ever wondered what you may have sent that may have turned a woman off? I’ve got a couple of reasons to explain why we stop responding to text messages, so head on over to Digital…

  • Dating over 40,  Online Dating,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    First Conversations with Someone New

    Last night’s conversation with July Guy was GREAT, but it almost didn’t happen because after I had given him my number for him to (per his words, have a chat), all he did was fire off a flurry of text messages and not one was asking when I was free to talk. I hate that shit!  Hate it, hate it, HATE it. Even if we’re talking about a regular encounter outside of online dating, why do people use text messaging as a way of getting to know someone?  If we make it past the first couple of calls and like each other when meeting, we’ll have plenty of time for…

  • Friends with Benefits,  Settling or Compromising?,  Sex/Romance,  Single Girl Problems

    Breaking the Rules

    Rule #1 of having a friend with benefits – don’t catch feelings. Rule #2 of having a friend with benefits – don’t catch feelings. If only there was a manual for how to successfully carry on with this type of thing.  Too bad I never thought to read 10 Simple Rules to Maintaining a Successful Sex Buddy Relationship. Here’s my deal. In an effort to minimize my slut factor throughout the years, I have kept the company of two male “companions” whose sole purpose in my life was to dick me down.  No drama, no dating, no regular telephone calls and no questioning of each other’s dealings or actions in anyway.…

  • Red Flags,  The Non Committal Man or Woman

    Why Are You Single?

    “…I can’t understand how a woman like you could be single, you are amazing…” is what Out of Sight said quite a few times earlier on during our friendship/situation and I would always jokingly reply “It’s possible because and I am truly a good catch, but  I keep meeting assholes with too much personal baggage who aren’t ready and I have to let them go”. What I told him is so sad but  true because in nearly every instance where I meet someone and we begin the process of getting to know one another, we get derailed because of something the man is going through, he needs to work through his shit…

  • Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Party of Three

    Someone asked me this morning if there was still Hope or if things had returned to a hopeless state.  My reply was that things were so-so which means I’m pretty much winging it at this point.  The last update on him was after the detailed conversation had about dislikes, ways and preferences which left me feeling a little better knowing the type of person I was dealing with.  Accepting that although we happened to have spent more time together in a matter of a week than most people do in a relationship the first couple of weeks, we realized that did not negate the fact that there was so much…

  • Relationship 101

    The Front Runner

     “You really had me a little heated these last couple of days because you really fell off.  Hell, I even had to change your nickname.” “Oh really?  What was it?” “Hope, because that’s what I think we gave each other when it comes to dating.” “Okay, and what did you change it to?” “Humph.  I changed it to Wreck it Ralph because you seemed like someone who didn’t know what he was doing or liked playing games.” “No, it wasn’t anything like that.  Like we just discussed, it wasn’t anything like that but since you changed to Wreck it Ralph how did the movie begin and how did it end?”…

  • Online Dating,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Unofficial Rules of Dating

      It was just a few days ago when I was sharing my happiness after having a pretty good date, a mid-week first meeting at that. But you should also remember that the word “cautiously” was somewhere between happiness at the same time, and since Untitled (the hangover I couldn’t think of a name for) decided to open up page 1 of the guys book on dating, here I am giving an update. More like an exit statement. Untitled chose to follow the unofficial wait-two-days-after-a-date-to-contact-her approach, so obviously there really isn’t that much for me to rant about now.  Why do men do this?  When to call a woman after…

  • Online Dating,  Uncategorized

    Damn, damn damn!!

      For the life of me, I simply can’t understand what the hell is wrong with the people who are doing the online dating thing!  I have had the recap of my date with the Bearded Dragon in draft mode for over a week now, and in the meantime, have still been trucking along with the online dating experience and I am truly confused.  One question is twirling around in my head like a figure skater on speed is what? What the fuc_ is wrong with these men? I believe I am going on week four and I promise, I am really trying hard not to come across as some snooty…

  • Bad First Dates,  Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Online Dating,  Plenty of Fail,  Red Flags,  Relationship 101,  Settling or Compromising?,  Single Parent Dating,  The Non Committal Man or Woman,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized,  When you're dating your ex

    A Year of Dating Hangovers

    One year.  365 days. 53 weeks.  Several template revisions, three “About Me” rewrites, many lessons learned. 118 posts.  1,071 comments.  Thousands of Spam messages.  Encounters with an estimated 26 men.  Total of 26 disappointments with men. Countless expletives.  Many headaches.  Several arguments.  One heartache.  Happy Blogoversary My Dating Hangovers! I’m not quite sure how to feel knowing an entire year has passed since I first entered the world of blogging.  Although I started this as a hobby of sorts, to get my feet wet in the realm of online journaling, at times I wondered if I kept knocking down the different men I had encountered to give me a reason to…

  • Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Uncategorized,  When you're dating your ex

    Did we make up or WHAT?

         “You really need to update the blog so your readers know this is what really happens when you’re dealing with relationship issues”.  I wouldn’t expect to hear something like this from a man, and especially not Special Agent but this is what he told me when I shared that there was a little more than “talking” when Rescue and I saw each other last week. Oh wait – I guess I should mention that I told Special Agent about this face to face.  While on my weekend getaway with the girls down in his neck of the woods, he drove up to the resort making it our second time…

  • Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101,  When you're dating your ex

    A Week of Revelations

                      A Week of Revelations “Only time will tell what happens with him or any of these other three OR any of the others I didn’t have time to mention here.”  I guess the most appropriate place to begin this post is by starting where I left off.  It’s been a little over a week since I last posted and other than the occasional feelings of disappointment, reasoning and a slew of other thoughts and random emotions, not much has really happened directly.  Meaning, I’ve finally taken my own advice of just sitting back and observing what is transpiring in my life…

  • Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Settling or Compromising?,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  When you're dating your ex

    A Tale of Four Men

    Blame the bastards at Hewlett Packard for my delays in posting!  Yes, my laptop is truly on its last leg and I haven’t been able to access the Internet in almost two weeks.  Of course there’s the back-up plan using the Blackberry tool but it’s just easier in front of a real computer to spew out these different thoughts going through my head. I hope you’re ready to read and are NOT reading from a cell phone; otherwise a carpal-tunnel like sensation will develop from scrolling. Let’s go! Currently, there are four men I’ve been in contact with.  Any real contenders for anything?  I’m not sure but from the sign…

  • My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    The Aftermath

    Memo to self: Do not call, text or e-mail for the first 24 hours of a rift or major blowout because I can go from this priceless Kelis moment: rtsp://v1.cache8.c.youtube.com/CjULENy73wIaLAnJiPDPXgKV2BMYJCAkFEIGbXYtcmltSARSB3Jlc3VsdHNg8vnnvMCNmq5NDA==/0/0/0/video.3gp To having a Minnie type sensation thinking about all of the good: rtsp://v2.cache4.c.youtube.com/CjULENy73wIaLAk4ME-ewClNkBMYJCAkFEIGbXYtcmltSARSB3Jlc3VsdHNg8vnnvMCNmq5NDA==/0/0/0/video.3gp After bringing my friend up to speed on the latest developments with Rescue she said “he should know that he’s used 6 of his 9 lives”. No further explanation needed. I’ve only confirmed that Men are from some undiscovered planet and Women are from Earth. As Mel commented on the “Closed Mouths Don’t Get Fed” post, men are simple. When they say something, that’s normally what it…

  • Guest Posts,  My Dating Hangovers,  Plenty of Fail,  Red Flags,  Relationship 101,  Single Parent Dating,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    What is a Dating Hangover?

    Hang·over • \hang-ô-ver\ •noun A person or thing left over from or influenced by a past age; Something remaining from a previous time or state. A let down, after a period of excitement Symptoms: –          Fatigue, weakness, pain, headache, nausea and vomiting –          Depression, anxiety –          Irritability Now surely, everyone at some point (some more than others) in their lives has experienced these types of feelings and I’ll be the first to admit – it sucks!  My hangovers have left me feeling like crap to the point where I couldn’t function for a couple of hours, feeling as if I was shutting down physically, emotionally and mentally.  Yes, these types of…