• Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Uncategorized,  When you're dating your ex

    Did we make up or WHAT?

         “You really need to update the blog so your readers know this is what really happens when you’re dealing with relationship issues”.  I wouldn’t expect to hear something like this from a man, and especially not Special Agent but this is what he told me when I shared that there was a little more than “talking” when Rescue and I saw each other last week. Oh wait – I guess I should mention that I told Special Agent about this face to face.  While on my weekend getaway with the girls down in his neck of the woods, he drove up to the resort making it our second time…

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    A Week of Revelations

                      A Week of Revelations “Only time will tell what happens with him or any of these other three OR any of the others I didn’t have time to mention here.”  I guess the most appropriate place to begin this post is by starting where I left off.  It’s been a little over a week since I last posted and other than the occasional feelings of disappointment, reasoning and a slew of other thoughts and random emotions, not much has really happened directly.  Meaning, I’ve finally taken my own advice of just sitting back and observing what is transpiring in my life…

  • Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Settling or Compromising?,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  When you're dating your ex

    A Tale of Four Men

    Blame the bastards at Hewlett Packard for my delays in posting!  Yes, my laptop is truly on its last leg and I haven’t been able to access the Internet in almost two weeks.  Of course there’s the back-up plan using the Blackberry tool but it’s just easier in front of a real computer to spew out these different thoughts going through my head. I hope you’re ready to read and are NOT reading from a cell phone; otherwise a carpal-tunnel like sensation will develop from scrolling. Let’s go! Currently, there are four men I’ve been in contact with.  Any real contenders for anything?  I’m not sure but from the sign…

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    Part Deaux

      It has been eight days since Rescue and I had our latest "incident", seven days since we last saw each other, and six days since I apologized and two hours have passed since he and I had what I hope was the beginning of a break through conversation. Yes, I apologized and the reason why is simple:  Men and women think differently. This is by no means a statement that has never been heard before, but at that moment when I pulled over to the side of the road and inhaled, then exhaled before making my call to him I realized this was the gospel truth. Now before I go on…

  • Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Red Flags,  Relationship 101,  Settling or Compromising?,  When you're dating your ex

    The winds are changing…

      And those bitches are like the Santa Ana's in the dead of summer - hot and swift. It was just a week or so ago that Kim sent me a BBM ladened with her latest dating woes and said- "Damn girl, things are going so well with you and Rescue, we won't have anything to read on the blog".  My reply was "I wouldnt necessarily say that because there is a big issue that keeps eating away at me, so I can't even say I'm in the clear". Bless her heart when she says “well, at least you’re 1/4 of the way”. Aw… Genuine happiness from a friend who…

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    Training in Session

                              My life seems to be on overdrive as of late – finalizing my career change ideas, researching masters degree programs, lounging in large pools in Vegas. I mean really, that can just be a bit overwhelming for a girl, you know? Of course I realize there’s  no excuse (except a lame one) for me having left the writing alone for over a week. None. Especially when I fuss at other bloggers and remind them of that handy WordPress mobile application we can always use whenever we’re not near a computer. So what about my dating life and…

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    The Aftermath

    Memo to self: Do not call, text or e-mail for the first 24 hours of a rift or major blowout because I can go from this priceless Kelis moment: rtsp://v1.cache8.c.youtube.com/CjULENy73wIaLAnJiPDPXgKV2BMYJCAkFEIGbXYtcmltSARSB3Jlc3VsdHNg8vnnvMCNmq5NDA==/0/0/0/video.3gp To having a Minnie type sensation thinking about all of the good: rtsp://v2.cache4.c.youtube.com/CjULENy73wIaLAk4ME-ewClNkBMYJCAkFEIGbXYtcmltSARSB3Jlc3VsdHNg8vnnvMCNmq5NDA==/0/0/0/video.3gp After bringing my friend up to speed on the latest developments with Rescue she said “he should know that he’s used 6 of his 9 lives”. No further explanation needed. I’ve only confirmed that Men are from some undiscovered planet and Women are from Earth. As Mel commented on the “Closed Mouths Don’t Get Fed” post, men are simple. When they say something, that’s normally what it…

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    Ssh… I’ve got a secret

    In true procrastinating-blogger-who-makes-excuses-acting-like-posts-by-cell-are-impossible fashion, I’m going to apologize. Has it really been a week already? Damn, where are my nights and days going. Oh wait- I know. Rescue 911. Two songs popped into my head while I was on the treadmill a few moments ago. The first was “My Little Secret” by Xscape but no- that one doesn’t exactly fit. The second was “If Loving You Is Wrong” by Barbara Mandrell. I liked the lyrics a little better, not screaming “whore!!!” Like the Xscape song but still- not quite fitting to my situation. I’ve been contemplating for quite some time about sharing my philanderings with Rescue. He’s like my dirty…

  • Guest Posts,  My Dating Hangovers,  Plenty of Fail,  Red Flags,  Relationship 101,  Single Parent Dating,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    What is a Dating Hangover?

    Hang·over • \hang-ô-ver\ •noun A person or thing left over from or influenced by a past age; Something remaining from a previous time or state. A let down, after a period of excitement Symptoms: –          Fatigue, weakness, pain, headache, nausea and vomiting –          Depression, anxiety –          Irritability Now surely, everyone at some point (some more than others) in their lives has experienced these types of feelings and I’ll be the first to admit – it sucks!  My hangovers have left me feeling like crap to the point where I couldn’t function for a couple of hours, feeling as if I was shutting down physically, emotionally and mentally.  Yes, these types of…