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    At Least it Was a Good One

    No news isn’t necessarily good news when it comes to following up after a date, although I’m not sure what The Bully and I had was actually meant to be a real date.  The crazy thing about men and women is the ability to send and receive mixed messages, so I’m not sure how this guy went from all eyes on me to…..nothing. Before we met up for dinner at a local spot, he seemed completely interested in redeeming himself from his immature antics way back when, trying to convince me that I had stumbled on a diamond in the rough of the OC.  Our exchanges were pretty light-hearted yet still,…

  • Online Dating,  Settling or Compromising?

    Decisions, Decisions

    I think I need to make a decision on what to do with this online dating account and there are two good reasons for not wanting to do anything too hasty but at the same time, there are two very good reasons for why I should just pull the plug. It has been quite some time since the process of deleting of a dating profile has occurred for a good reason because normally the antics of men simply drive me to the point of sheer disgust and hopelessness and slowly, the dismantling begins.  The amount of time I pop on the site to read messages slows down and my response…

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    It Really IS a Small World

    According to the U.S. Census data from last year, there are 313,914,040 people in the U.S., 38.04 million in California alone; 9.963 million in Los Angeles County with 4,936,599 of this figure in my county consisting of whites and a paltry 856,874 represents blacks.  If breaking down these statistics even further, there are about 713,640 falling under my target category of black men between the ages of 35-44 years of age (Census Data http://quickfacts.census.gov/qfd/states/06000.html) .  I realize the figures speak for themselves due to the limited options that may be available and mind you, this isn’t considering any other preferences such as a man being single, employed, educated etc… that may be in…

  • My Dating Hangovers

    We Aren’t Friends Like That

    I have never really understood why people feel the need to hold on after the relationship has gone bust or the dating situation has ended, so this “Let’s be friends” idea has always been pointless in my eyes.  Unless you have children together and obviously need to be cordial,  you need to get along until changes in living arrangements are finalized or maybe in the case of someone getting close to the ex’s children as step-parent extraordinaire, what are other valid reasons and why not just cut ties and move on?  Just as I tried explaining to Out of Sight when I saw him last week, I really don’t want to…

  • Red Flags

    The Rebound

    Elle aimerait vraiment acheter des médicaments d’ordonnance contre la dysfonction érectile à bas prix dans un détaillant de médicaments de votre résidence répertoriée ici de manière fiable. Avec un excellent faible coût. Maintenant, ce que mon frère avait besoin de m’informer est très clair, il y a des médicaments avec de très bonnes conditions d’expédition et de livraison. Cela apporte le loisir du muscle masse lisse et une augmentation de la circulation sanguine 3333333333 “Pour tirer le meilleur parti de l’utilisation de Kamagra Oral Jelly, en dehors de consommer 15 minutes avant les rapports sexuels, il est essentiel que vous prenez un sachet complet. Wikipedia defines a rebound in terms…

  • Red Flags,  Settling or Compromising?

    A Few Pounds Too Much

    It’s always hard to let someone know there’s something major missing in the likeness department when they are really nice, because no one wants to get their feelings hurt for I’ve been trying to decide how to handle this situation with Showtime.  There hasn’t been much shared about him here since our initial meet-up and the planning of our first date but we’ve actually seen each other several times since. There always seems to be some issue when it comes to dating, right? For me, it’s either been the player who wants to have his cake and eat it, me and three other women too, the life changer with no…

  • Cheating,  My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    There is NOTHING like a woman scorned!

      Is it just the women who seem to lose their flipping minds when they find out their significant other is fooling around?  Maybe not, but let’s just say this – we are certainly the ones more likely to let the entire world know when we have been done wrong. I came across this on Facebook earlier today and man, it brought back some memories: If you want the full story, check it out herehttp://www.theblaze.com/stories/2013/06/03/girlfriends-amazing-break-up-letter-goes-mega-viral-everything-elseis-at-kelsis-house/ Hmm.. talk about a flashback. The story of the man I just knew I was destined to be with has yet to be shared on My Dating Hangovers, but believe me- it’s a good one. …

  • My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101

    He’s Getting Closer but…

    Nervousness, excitement and that tingling feeling and a host of other emotions is what I’m feeling right now which seems a little strange because I’ve already met Out of Sight who in just a few short days, will be back in California and this time for good. I’m so happy and can’t wait to give him the biggest hug and some of the longest and wettest kisses possible, and find myself just smiling at the thought of him.  Hmmm, what a refreshing feeling. Having stepped outside of my comfort zone of local only encounters and allowing a nearly 4-month friendship (guess that is what I call this “thing”) with someone…

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    Last Minute Meet Up

    In just under 45 minutes a transformation from corporate diva to cute and chic has taken place.  Aside from only having the first three toes painted (ladies, you KNOW why), I’m looking good for a first meet-up.  Since I’m a little early why not post a quick update. I’m back! Online that is, for just about a week now  and since there’s no time for any other details I’ll say this- I just want to date and have fun!!  The delusions of meeting Mr. Right have been suppressed, and now I’ve resolved to meeting a couple of cool-for-now-and-if-you’re-good-for-more-hurray types of men. Tonight’s contender seems decent enough and while I raised…

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    Nearing That Cliff

    I’m getting dangerously close to the edge of the tallest cliff, taking a deep breath, closing my eyes and then jumping off the dating cliff saying fuck it all. Seriously.  I’m tired and frustrated and the feelings I have had for so many years while in between relationships have come full circle- dating is hard and it sucks. Is this rant about The Date of The Week from last night, Detroit, who couldn’t umderstand why a woman would be mildly annoyed because she waited in a restaurant while his “almost there” turned into 30 minutes late.  He was a nice enough gentleman, but his teeth were horribly stained and he…

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    Thinking Too Much?

    Women think too much, we just do.  Sometimes I wish I could reach in the back of my head and disconnect that plug that goes into my brain to prevent me from doing the very thing that sometimes seems to sabotage a few situations that could have been promising in the world of dating.  Then again, thinking things out is good because you’re able to weed out the bullshit a lot sooner. Saturday night, I had yet another date with Hope and not only was it the fifth in the week that we’ve known each other; it was the first time we allowed ourselves to get a little more touchy-feely.…

  • Guest Posts,  My Dating Hangovers,  Settling or Compromising?,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Guest Post: Dishonest Men, Jaded Women

    I’m ready to lay Special Agent’s story to rest in the archives. Thank you all for the text messages, BBM’s, emails and posts in response to “Dishonest Men, Jaded Women. Several of you who choose not to comment here on the blog seem to feel that my reaction was a little too nonchalant, not angry enough, no signs of “slash that fool’s tires”. Trust me when I say this, I was over dealing with him at 4am Saturday morning before all of this went down. The next woman who doesn’t understand his brush off, special assignments or mood swings and has to Google “how to date an asshole” can deal…

  • Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Can your lengthy single life ruin a new relationship?

    “The longer a person has been single, the harder it will be to have a meaningful relationship with them. Is this true or false and why?” This was a question posted by a friend on Facebook this afternoon and before I browsed through the replies that included the yes, no’s and don’t know’s. One of the people commented “False because while you are single you should be learning yourself, learning what you want and don’t want so that you will be better at selecting your next mate. Timing is everything.”  Bless her heart, this lady tried but I think she missed the point or perhaps looked at the question a…