• THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Have I Become THAT Woman?

    Things have been noticeably quiet on the blogging scene and it hasn’t been due to lack of activity, and I really appreciate the optimistic messengers.  The people who have reached out to me wondering who the mystery man could be, figuring no news is good news.  Ah…the kindhearted souls. Wrong. No Mr. Anything outside of some random dates with some new guys and even a few comebacks vying for another shot with me.  Definitely no one to write home about, though not entirely bad but I’m just feeling awfully blah about men as of late.  Like really, disinterested to the nth degree. This could mean one of two things- I’m…

  • THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Nice Guys Always…

    Finish last. Sadly, it’s true.  I seem to be attracted to every man that is wrong for me and when one comes along who is all things great in so many areas, I can’t force attraction that isn’t there. This must be a curse. I just had a lovely dinner and an entertaining conversation with one of the hangovers from a few months back.  We had gone out a few times during the Out of Sight era and the poor guy- he could never figure out why things sort of stalled. I know why and as he said “I’m still feeling you a lot even though you kind of blew…

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    No, We Can’t Be Friends

     For some reason, I have tried to convince myself that being more flexible and allowing for change in life will often result in good. Yet when it comes to dating and my relationships, this thought process always backfires and causes more headache than is worth. Some people often tell me that I'm a bit too extreme especially when it comes to men, and the "you should at least keep him as a friend" bullshit comes up. If I started out being interested in someone for relationship potential and things don't work out, what's the point? Now I'm not talking about the person you may have spent a lot of time…

  • Online Dating,  Settling or Compromising?,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    One to Grow On

      It’s a new day and my mind is doing far too much thinking about this dating situation with the latest candidate who I’m still hoping doesn’t end up becoming one of the hangovers.  God knows there have been too many in a span of about five months, so while a lot of those good old feelings about a man that have been lying dormant have returned, there’s also a familiar feeling that isn’t so good.  The dreaded feeling that my hopes for a positive outcome to my dating bliss thus far with Balance will soon begin to sour. I mentioned last week that Balance was an older man –…

  • Online Dating,  Settling or Compromising?

    Trying to Get Beyond Appearance

    “My guy isn’t all that fine either but he captured my heart”. This is what one of my friends sent to me after reading my last post about Brooklyn’s Finest. The pseudonym alone was really a play on words because I never thought the man was fine; it was his words, the way he talked, the excitement and zest he has for life, the sincerity that poured from him about…his thoughts about me. He became the “finest” because he says and does everything a man should want to if he’s trying to seal the deal with a woman. So here it is Friday afternoon and I’m feeling weird, almost sad…

  • Relationship 101,  Uncategorized

    Can You Date Someone You’re Not Attracted To?

      I arrived early so I could watch him walking up, checking out his height and stature.  Made polite small talk as we waited in line, checking him out from different angles and lighting since the frontal view didn’t quite do it.  I cocked my head to the side several times as he spoke like someone trying to find a hidden image in a painting, still trying to find it.  I couldn’t, not one thing. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  Looks aren’t everything.  It’s about what is inside that counts.  Personality is more important.  Don’t judge a book by its cover.  Sound familiar?  These are a few…