• Dating over 40,  Dumb Shit Guys Do,  Friends with Benefits

    And just like that…

    My swirly stint with Jon B is over! It became too confusing trying to decipher his mixed signals when he’s doing one thing but continuously tells me that he wants to “take things slow” What the hell does that mean?!?! Not once did I press him with one of those “what’s next” or “what are you looking for” conversations, not once.  While he’s repeating his mantra of wanting to take it slow, he should have just said he’s not interested in the seriously dating (or dating me) because I was getting a little confused. Wanting to see me more than one day in a week, especially taking up my weekends isn’t necessary if you want to take it slow…

  • Dating over 40,  Interracial Dating,  Online Dating,  Red Flags,  Settling or Compromising?,  Understanding Men,  What Women Want

    Program Change 

    While contemplating my next move with Jon B, I’m realizing that aside from him being cute and seemingly good on paper, we really don’t have that much in common or at least nothing else that I can tell because he doesn’t talk about much.   Sure, we both enjoy eating and indulging in cocktails, but other than that I only know that he’s hustling to expand his business, takes a lot of naps and feels slighted that his daughter isn’t too interested in his Skyping calls. That’s it – just the surface and superficial stuff. So as I’m telling a friend about his latest radio silent act like, she silence me the most perfect suggestion: “You need…

  • Bad dating profiles,  Dating Tips,  Dumb Shit Guys Do,  Online Dating,  Plenty of Fail,  profile mistakes guys make,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Profile photos men shouldn’t share

    On and off, hide and reveal, resign and restart.  The vicious cycle known as online dating and for the life of me, I just don’t understand how men can continue to sabotage themselves by ruining the most important part of the process – the dating profile and specifically, the photos. Do these men not realize that they can turn a woman all the way on by what he’s sharing in his profile and just the same, can turn us off completely by choosing the lazy, cheesy and sleazy photos like this debonair fella right here: Yes, this is an actual photo from someone’s profile and yes – he looks like…

  • Online Dating,  Plenty of Fail,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    We broke up, but I’m back…

    I’m caught up in this vicious cycle where the levels of frustration are so bad that I say to hell with it all.  I take down all of my decorations and pretty pictures, and might even leave some threatening note before finally ending things for good. After a couple of weeks or so, boredom usually sets in and a little sliver of hope pops into my mind that maybe – just maybe things will be different this time.  Aren’t these the types of thoughts that makes a person want to have some reflective moments to re-evaluate their purpose and goals?  Hell yeah, it certainly is so after much thought and…

  • Dumb Shit Guys Do,  First Dates,  Interracial Dating,  My Dating Hangovers,  Online Dating,  Plenty of Fail,  Shitty Dating Profiles,  Single Girl Problems

    He Didn’t Wear Heels

    Last week’s date marked the first time I’ve gone out with a non-black man and while one “quick” meet up will never allow me to claim an interracial dating experience, at least I was open coerced enough to have tried it. During that excruciating hour and eleven minutes with the hangover I’ll call Guido, a few things became perfectly clear to me:  (1) nearly every man lies about at least one thing on his dating profile, (2) broken English and improper verb tense isn’t something I’ll ever be able to stomach, and (3) being told how beautiful I am repeatedly in one sitting is a little creepy. That being said,…

  • Dumb Shit Guys Do,  Online Dating,  Plenty of Fail,  Shitty Dating Profiles

    The Retards of Online Dating

    How do you respond to a dude who’s photos shows a money struggle between bills, weed and women and if you think this photo is bad, just imagine what his dating profile says. I normally ignore messages from ingrates like this (using the Urban Dictionary meaning here), but sometimes I really want to message EXACT what I am thinking and feel. The Inland Empire (San Bernardino,  Riverside) area seems to be breeding a special kind of loser  because this happens to be the fourth of his kind that has reached out to me this week. Sometimes I really wonder if breaking up with any of my ex’s was such a good…

  • Friends with Benefits

    Girl, Don’t Send That Text!

     If someone is struggling with an addiction or having suicidal tendencies, there’s help.   One call to a dedicated number can offer support, fresh perspectives and hopefully prevent someone from doing something they’ll end up regretting. So why in the hell has no one ever created a crisis hot line for dating? You know we need it! There’s always some man or woman acting a god damn fool over someone they’ve been dealing with and shit has taken a turn for the worse.  They’re about to send some convoluted text message, blow up someone’s phone and leave some stalker-ish message that’s about five minutes long or worse – go on over…

  • Dating Over 30,  Dumb Shit Guys Do,  First Dates,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Throwback Dating

    Nothing is constant but change and this concept most certainly applies to dating. Over the last ten years or so, the rules of the game have changed drastically and this isn’t just because online dating is now one of the most popular ways to try finding that special someone but our society is now a lot more screwed up.   Simple interactions we used to take for granted such as talking on the telephone or simply saying hello to someone you’re interested in have gone away and the likelihood of sharing an intelligible conversation is slim to none. Some of the ridiculous experiences I’ve had with men from both online contact…

  • Uncategorized

    Is it THAT bad?

    Uh…. yes.  Online dating is that bad and for some reason the convicts seem to be the main ones looking for love. Check the background and I dare anyone to tell me this dude isn’t missing his shoelaces, is making license plates, or has swapped phone time for the Internet. This one too and I think it was the door and what is likely wiring for an alarm that gave him away: And last but not least, this poor sap who didn’t get the memo about the pose. His dumb ass must have forgotten this wasn’t the new mugshot moment: Until there’s a cure… Carmen Jones

  • Online Dating,  Plenty of Fail

    This Week in Dating Fuckery

    It’s been a long week for me and today is only Tuesday,  so I welcomed a little break with a few dating site messages. Things started off kind of odd with this dude because his first message said “Hello,  you are very beautiful so I had to message.   I read your profile carefully and no one is perfect.” What the hell?  Who’s looking for perfection?? I just make it pretty darn clear with this newly reactivated profile that my threshold for bullshit is negative zero. I reply something simple and this dude asks me how my day was and if I was headed home.  I said not yet and returned…

  • Online Dating,  Red Flags

    Return to Sender?

    The man I have been getting to know while he planned a major life changing move back to Southern California has arrived and he made sure I was on the list of things to do the same day his plane touched down.  Sunday afternoon seemed to make all of the waiting and anticipation worth it, and thankfully that same chemistry and good-feeling vibes experienced over the telephone these last couple of months seemed worth it. After over 10-years of being gone, being married and starting a family in the mid-west, Out of Sight is a resident once again. Yet just like that item  you recently purchased where you’re not so sure it…

  • Sex/Romance

    Small World

    So far, so good with Out of Sight and while I think the crack in his foundation has been clearly identified based on our conversations, my focus will be away from the negative and more on the potential that he’s offering.  Unfortunately for his friends and family, the relocation date has been pushed ahead by over a month and I’m not ashamed to say that I’m elated to hear this.  It’s all about me for right now. Funny thing is that I’m quite nervous at the same time because the expectations that Out of Sight has for a woman he would even consider dating are quite demanding and while unrealistic…