• Dating While Black (DWB),  Dumb Shit Guys Do,  Interracial Dating

    Black Like Me

    We are not all alike. Just as a man will tell a woman that he’s not like all the rest, I find myself having to show and prove to someone that isn’t black that I’m not like all the rest. We are not all ghetto, loud mouthed, neck rolling mammies who grew up fatherless in the hood, with Ebonics being used regularly.  So again, we are not the same and are definitely cut from a different cloth but sadly, when it comes to dating and even the most innocent of interactions with men from different ethnic groups. For anyone wearing their rose colored glasses believing race really doesn’t matter when it…

  • Interracial Dating,  Sex/Romance

    The Other White Meat

    Remember a few posts back when I was getting all jungle fever with it?  I mentioned that I was finally ready to start paying attention to men of a different persuasion and get my swirl on. For my slow readers, I’m a black woman who has dated nothing but black men (unless mixed races counts for anything).  I have resisted the trend of interracial dating for a few reasons, but figure it’s time to start tapping into a wider pool of available men. I’ll share my theories on the types of men that are attracted to different types of black women later, but for now I must say- since changing my…

  • Uncategorized

    Time to Swirl?

    Isn’t it nice to have something to look forward to at work?  Even if it happens to be some nice eye candy that is totally unattainable? The type of industry I’m in has me surrounded by tons of little Japanese with pants so tight their reproductive abilities have been slashed on half.  Or by tech geeks and engineers with bad cases of male pattern baldness.  Then there are those I dare refer to as women, who are two shaving sessions away from being men. Now that I’ve painted a picture of why there hasn’t been a single man met in the workplace in the nearly ten years that I’ve been…

  • Guest Posts,  Online Dating,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    The Undateable Woman – Guest Post for Cupid’s Library

    Is it possible that some women will never be successful at dating or having a relationship because they are undateable?  Are there some who have so many negative traits or behaviors to the point that most men will likely disregard them, no matter how attractive?  Why is it that having a strong will, the desire to be successful or having expectations qualities that are acceptable for most, but black women are branded as being too demanding? There isn’t enough time in blog world for me to touch on everything, but there is time for me to start addressing this issue outside of my inner circle which is why The Undateable…

  • Guest Posts,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Featured Blog Post of the Week – “Toddler Man”

    This Featured Blog Post of the week comes from a fairly new blogger named SingleInLA.  I consider her somewhat of a fallen angel because she was in a place where some of us would like to be – in a committed relationship, in love and engaged and ready to spend the rest of her life with her prince charming.  The problem?  Well…. that prince charming had a little bit of frog blood and things just didn’t work out.  So after 7 years of not having to worry about getting a date for that special event, catching a movie with your snuggle bunny or reliable nookie without strings, she’s back on…