• THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Nice Guys Always…

    Finish last. Sadly, it’s true.  I seem to be attracted to every man that is wrong for me and when one comes along who is all things great in so many areas, I can’t force attraction that isn’t there. This must be a curse. I just had a lovely dinner and an entertaining conversation with one of the hangovers from a few months back.  We had gone out a few times during the Out of Sight era and the poor guy- he could never figure out why things sort of stalled. I know why and as he said “I’m still feeling you a lot even though you kind of blew…

  • Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Party of Three

    Someone asked me this morning if there was still Hope or if things had returned to a hopeless state.  My reply was that things were so-so which means I’m pretty much winging it at this point.  The last update on him was after the detailed conversation had about dislikes, ways and preferences which left me feeling a little better knowing the type of person I was dealing with.  Accepting that although we happened to have spent more time together in a matter of a week than most people do in a relationship the first couple of weeks, we realized that did not negate the fact that there was so much…

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    Great Date And Then…

    Not much afterwards. I’m a little confused because I hear about men and women going on that first date and in their mind, having a really great time but then shit pretty much fizzles after that.  It has happened to me and after about 3,047 dates, this is probably only the second time.  A man doesn’t normally meet and spend time with me and not want to either call me moments after leaving each other, or asking when we’re getting together soon. But it did. Naturally, that inner voice is trying to replay the Sunday morning until afternoon date, looking for that place to press pause and dissect the scene. …

  • Online Dating,  Settling or Compromising?,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    One to Grow On

      It’s a new day and my mind is doing far too much thinking about this dating situation with the latest candidate who I’m still hoping doesn’t end up becoming one of the hangovers.  God knows there have been too many in a span of about five months, so while a lot of those good old feelings about a man that have been lying dormant have returned, there’s also a familiar feeling that isn’t so good.  The dreaded feeling that my hopes for a positive outcome to my dating bliss thus far with Balance will soon begin to sour. I mentioned last week that Balance was an older man –…

  • THIS is Why I'm Single!

    What we have here is a failure to communicate

    ‘Tis the season to be jolly, fa-la-la-la-la-la-la-la-la!!!    I certainly hope that all of you readers and bloggers alike had an enjoyable holiday.  I sure did, and of course, my life just wouldn’t be what it is if it wasn’t filled with twists and turns, ups and downs. So…. as of today, December 27th, I am pleased to announce that I am officially off the market.  I’ve met a wonderful man who is everything I could have dreamed off.  Nice looking, successful, ambitious and most of all, adores me.  My Dating Hangovers are no more. It has been a short ride, but thankfully, I can put all of the hangovers from…

  • Bad First Dates,  Settling or Compromising?,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Until Something Better Comes Along…. update!

    Uh oh….. Of course you all remember me writing about the really cool guy? You know, the one who is great in many ways but has three major deal breakers that I cant seem to budge on? So the last week or so, I’ve noticed he has gone radio silent. Not completely ignoring me or anything, but the couple of times a day text exchanges and one a day phone calls have gone to every other day or so. Not a problem really, because I already have him the state of the union address, right? Well…. Yesterday I put the feelers out there and sent him a “Hey stranger” text.…

  • THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Until Something Better Comes Along

    Is it wrong to deal with someone you’re seeing until something better comes along? I’m feeling a little hypocritical even thinking this especially after having enlightened myself on “Choosing a Life Partner”.  Dealing with a man who isn’t my first choice is a little tricky and I’ve realized, this could be reciprocal – I may not be his first choice either. Before you judge me, let me explain and I’d also ask that you think back to your past dealings with a man or woman.  Can you honestly say you have never done, being involved with someone or dating even though they weren’t really what you were looking for?  I…

  • Guest Posts,  My Dating Hangovers,  Plenty of Fail,  Red Flags,  Relationship 101,  Single Parent Dating,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    What is a Dating Hangover?

    Hang·over • \hang-ô-ver\ •noun A person or thing left over from or influenced by a past age; Something remaining from a previous time or state. A let down, after a period of excitement Symptoms: –          Fatigue, weakness, pain, headache, nausea and vomiting –          Depression, anxiety –          Irritability Now surely, everyone at some point (some more than others) in their lives has experienced these types of feelings and I’ll be the first to admit – it sucks!  My hangovers have left me feeling like crap to the point where I couldn’t function for a couple of hours, feeling as if I was shutting down physically, emotionally and mentally.  Yes, these types of…