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    Why Meeting Up is Often Better

    Let me get this straight – you meet a guy online, give him your address and then drive some 50 miles away to HIS house…. Man rapes woman LOS ANGELES (KABC) — Hawthorne police are searching for a man accused of raping a woman he met through an online dating service. Investigators said that on Nov. 4, the suspect picked the woman up from her home in Riverside and took her to a CVS store on the 4700 block of West Rosecrans Avenue in Hawthorne to buy alcohol. The two then drove to a nearby apartment, where the rape took place, according to detectives. “She didn’t want to have sexual…

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    Great Date And Then…

    Not much afterwards. I’m a little confused because I hear about men and women going on that first date and in their mind, having a really great time but then shit pretty much fizzles after that.  It has happened to me and after about 3,047 dates, this is probably only the second time.  A man doesn’t normally meet and spend time with me and not want to either call me moments after leaving each other, or asking when we’re getting together soon. But it did. Naturally, that inner voice is trying to replay the Sunday morning until afternoon date, looking for that place to press pause and dissect the scene. …

  • Friends with Benefits,  Uncategorized

    If I Had My Way

    Sometimes I tend to think too much and as one of my former hangovers used to joke, if Carmen is thinking, you better watch out.  Do you ever have those moments where  your brain just seems like it is on overload, and instead of going through the motions you tend to think a little TOO much?  I have moments when I want to just do it, not over think and if I had my way, I would do more to enoy the moments. For instance, this past Sunday I had a minor setback and paid a visit to Rescue.  While I certainly enjoyed pouncing on his face and working him…

  • Bad First Dates,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    I’m Here to Date, Not to Screw

    For the last couple of days, I have been trying to figure out   procrastinating on posting about my lastest date. Fresh out of the caribbean where the men worshipped me like the super bad chick that I am, right into one of the hottest sushi bars in LA for a first time meeting with a new hangover.  I can’t remember if I mentioned this last week, but there were a few “last call” stragglers I had exchanged numbers with prior to ending my membership on this dating site I’ve been on for the last couple of months. One of the men who passed the initial screening for telephone number exchange…

  • Online Dating,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Unofficial Rules of Dating

      It was just a few days ago when I was sharing my happiness after having a pretty good date, a mid-week first meeting at that. But you should also remember that the word “cautiously” was somewhere between happiness at the same time, and since Untitled (the hangover I couldn’t think of a name for) decided to open up page 1 of the guys book on dating, here I am giving an update. More like an exit statement. Untitled chose to follow the unofficial wait-two-days-after-a-date-to-contact-her approach, so obviously there really isn’t that much for me to rant about now.  Why do men do this?  When to call a woman after…

  • Online Dating,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Signs of a Desperate Man

    I haven’t even had a chance to post the second part of the Broke Boo experience, nor have I been able to give a snippet of the datemare with Anger Management dude. Still, I must share this example in sheer stupidity and/or desperation. Coming across as the desperately seeking single acting as if you found the last slice of bread on earth is not a good look. Yet sadly, I’m witnessing the types of behaviors that scream lonely, pesky, and creepy all at once. Get a clue already! The absence of online etiquette – no, how about plain old common sense is amazing. Be it a subliminal message or direct…

  • THIS is Why I'm Single!

    A Photo Worth Three Words

    It never ceases to amaze me how accurate I normally am when I see a profile picture and think “Oh hell to the no”. I mean literally, looking at one photo and the hairs on my neck spring to attention and nudge me to press the next button. Sure, you’re probably thinking that I may be missing out on some hidden opportunities by often relying on my he-ain’t-shit instincts, but honestly, my assumptions are normally pretty damn accurate. Let’s say for instance a notification that someone viewed my profile or sent a message. I click on the handy dandy link and viola- I’m right there on the site. Right there,…

  • Bad First Dates,  My Dating Hangovers,  Online Dating

    How I’m Handling Being Uninterested

    As frustrated as I may be with the dating scene and the failure of past relationships, I still have some compassion buried inside. I feel a little bad for how things have ended with Brooklyn’s Finest, but a part of me feels that the situation was handled in a fairly decent manner. My infamous “Take Care” text finalized things with this one who, based on us noting having met, probably isn’t a certifiable hangover. Being respectful of a person’s time, energy and effort is one of my good traits. Why waste BF’s time? This man was saying and doing all that a man should if he’s interested in a woman…

  • Online Dating,  Settling or Compromising?

    Trying to Get Beyond Appearance

    “My guy isn’t all that fine either but he captured my heart”. This is what one of my friends sent to me after reading my last post about Brooklyn’s Finest. The pseudonym alone was really a play on words because I never thought the man was fine; it was his words, the way he talked, the excitement and zest he has for life, the sincerity that poured from him about…his thoughts about me. He became the “finest” because he says and does everything a man should want to if he’s trying to seal the deal with a woman. So here it is Friday afternoon and I’m feeling weird, almost sad…

  • Online Dating,  Red Flags,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Wheels on The Bus

    If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. How about a little background on the latest candidate, Tiny Tim. The irony of the name is befitting when thinking of this tall, dark and chocolate hangover. He’s another big one, standing at a staggering 6’5 and is solid muscle, a gentle giant of sorts. His nice, warm smile and skin as smooth as a Milky Way bar is what made me stop to check him out when receiving my first message. Somewhat of a health fanatic, Tiny works out several times a week and feeds his body nothing but healthy foods and is a moderate drinker. For those of you…

  • My Dating Hangovers,  Online Dating,  Red Flags,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Jersey Boy Strikes Out!

    As of last week, my address book was minus one again – Jersey Boy struck out.  I find the title of this post fitting since he was an avid softball player; that should have been a clue.  Actually, he was out before he was even in because I could tell within the first couple of contacts that he was going to be more like the crippled horse instead of the amazing stallion.  Oh yes, it was only two weeks or so ago when I posted about Jersey Boy here , where I mentioned how nice our meet up had been.  With minimal expectations.  What was left out of that hopeful encounter…

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    A Date With Love Jones

    Who am I? I’ll be whatever you say But right now, I’m the sight raped hunter Blindly pursuing you as my prey And I wanna give you injections of sublime erections And get you to dance to my rhythm Make you dream archetypes, of black angels in flight Upon wings of distorted, contorted, metaphoric jism…. Excerpts from “A Blues for Nina”… It’s Friday and even though I feel as though I need tape to keep my eyelids open, I’m flying high from last night’s date.  Weeknight outings are normally reserved for that someone who I may have already met, a man who makes sleep deprivation and crabbiness the following morning…

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    Minimal Expectations

    What a difference a week can make. I’m glad to report that the dating fairies have put down their Ouija boards for a few days, and allowed me to enjoy myself a bit this weekend. Drums please… I had a very enjoyable and refreshing meet up (yes, different than a date) with a man who was close to having been eliminated from even being considered for anything because he moved at a much slower pace. I figured he was either one of those knuckle heads who asked for my number with no intention of actually talking, or had so much going on (on and off line), he simply had no…

  • My Dating Hangovers,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Score 1, Carmen 0

    Just think…. It was only a few days ago when I was joyfully posting about an exciting first meeting and date! The Score was very promising because we got along marvellously over the telephone and had so much in common. He was smart, witty, funny, and like me – preferred the creative side vs the stagnant environment we both complained about in corporate America. The two of us were pretty well traveled and joked about not being able to date anyone who did not have a passport. The Score and I love, love, love music! Shared a commonality of simple things like people watching, writing, creating something out of a…

  • Plenty of Fail,  Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Online Dating – Week 1

    Well, I have just made it through the first week of being “back” into the scheme of things, back in the mix, back in the shit. Online dating. I guess it wouldn’t be fair to complain about anything such as of the types and quality of men just yet because you get out what you put in, right? Meaning I really haven’t done much other than create the profile, write the abridged versions of “why I’m great and should no longer be single” thesis, and post a decent profile picture. What else have I done, you may ask – not a damn thing. Like a bird kicking back and waiting…