• First Dates

    Hooray for Great First Dates!

    He started things off the right way by only taking one look at my profile, sending me a decent introductory message that was far more creative than “Hello beautiful” or worse – “Hi”. It didn’t take twenty inbox chats later to know that we were both interested and after a few days here’s what I received: “Congratulations! You have successfully passed the grammar text and have graduated to the next level – here’s my number so give me a call sometime…” A smart ass who appreciates the importance of grammar and using the same type of snarky lines I’m used to dishing out? Oh yeah, this is definitely my kind…

  • Uncategorized

    No, We Can’t Be Friends

     For some reason, I have tried to convince myself that being more flexible and allowing for change in life will often result in good. Yet when it comes to dating and my relationships, this thought process always backfires and causes more headache than is worth. Some people often tell me that I'm a bit too extreme especially when it comes to men, and the "you should at least keep him as a friend" bullshit comes up. If I started out being interested in someone for relationship potential and things don't work out, what's the point? Now I'm not talking about the person you may have spent a lot of time…

  • Online Dating,  Settling or Compromising?,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    One to Grow On

      It’s a new day and my mind is doing far too much thinking about this dating situation with the latest candidate who I’m still hoping doesn’t end up becoming one of the hangovers.  God knows there have been too many in a span of about five months, so while a lot of those good old feelings about a man that have been lying dormant have returned, there’s also a familiar feeling that isn’t so good.  The dreaded feeling that my hopes for a positive outcome to my dating bliss thus far with Balance will soon begin to sour. I mentioned last week that Balance was an older man –…

  • Bad First Dates,  Uncategorized,  When you're dating your ex

    Suffering From Dating Burnout

    If only I had the energy to share the plethora of events that took place this past weekend, and normally there is never a dull moment.  I accepted a double dog dare and ended up riding a mechanical bull for the first time, successfully managing to keep all body parts inside  of my clothing.  Next, I had the pleasure of taking in the sights of Marina del Rey while talking about real estate dreams in between several snack runs to a few 7 Eleven stores which led up to the closing ceremonies of the weekend where my fears of becoming the latest nightclub shooting casualty because someone had a crazy temper and hood mentality. Oh- the last…

  • Online Dating,  Settling or Compromising?

    Trying to Get Beyond Appearance

    “My guy isn’t all that fine either but he captured my heart”. This is what one of my friends sent to me after reading my last post about Brooklyn’s Finest. The pseudonym alone was really a play on words because I never thought the man was fine; it was his words, the way he talked, the excitement and zest he has for life, the sincerity that poured from him about…his thoughts about me. He became the “finest” because he says and does everything a man should want to if he’s trying to seal the deal with a woman. So here it is Friday afternoon and I’m feeling weird, almost sad…

  • Online Dating,  Uncategorized

    The Men Who Try Harder

    One hell no, several possibles, and one definite.  I certainly don’t want to say that I shut down the two men who were from San Diego because of uh…the latest events but let’s just say it was a factor.   My mailbox was pretty busy this weekend, so I don’t know if cupid decided to have a change of heart after this past weekend or a few more men decided to renew their online dating memberships, but I had plenty of new options to consider these last couple of days.  I can’t emphasize enough how refreshing it is to have the types of men who are looking (or at least say they…

  • Bad First Dates,  The Non Committal Man or Woman,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    You Wear Your Heels, I’ll Wear Mine!

    This has been a BUSY week, but heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeere’s Carmen! Right now I’m riding high off of one of the best dates I’ve had in the last couple of months.  After ignoring all contacts, hiding my profile, canceling my account, restarting my account, hiding my profile again then reappearing again, I came across a gentleman I’ll call Until Something Better Comes Along or USBC.  He has given me a glimmer of hope since I seem to have piqued the interest of the nastiest, ugliest, illiterate, horniest men of all time on ______.  A spot called Nirvana in Beverly Hills was the rendezvous point.  This restaurant and lounge had it all –…

  • THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Until Something Better Comes Along

    Is it wrong to deal with someone you’re seeing until something better comes along? I’m feeling a little hypocritical even thinking this especially after having enlightened myself on “Choosing a Life Partner”.  Dealing with a man who isn’t my first choice is a little tricky and I’ve realized, this could be reciprocal – I may not be his first choice either. Before you judge me, let me explain and I’d also ask that you think back to your past dealings with a man or woman.  Can you honestly say you have never done, being involved with someone or dating even though they weren’t really what you were looking for?  I…

  • Relationship 101,  Uncategorized

    Can You Date Someone You’re Not Attracted To?

      I arrived early so I could watch him walking up, checking out his height and stature.  Made polite small talk as we waited in line, checking him out from different angles and lighting since the frontal view didn’t quite do it.  I cocked my head to the side several times as he spoke like someone trying to find a hidden image in a painting, still trying to find it.  I couldn’t, not one thing. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  Looks aren’t everything.  It’s about what is inside that counts.  Personality is more important.  Don’t judge a book by its cover.  Sound familiar?  These are a few…