• THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Stop Over Thinking, It’s Just Great Sex

    An overwhelming instinct to protect myself from certain situations that can be detrimental to my well-being has suddenly kicked into overdrive. This is really just a fancy way of saying whenever I’m feeling like the situation with a man is a little confusing or uncomfortable for me, the anchor comes up and this old ship gets to sailing. It’s funny (well, not really) how just a few days ago I was skipping through the field of daisies, still on a high after the latest tryst with my long-term cut buddy Papi which I’ll say again, was one of the best sessions. I could just brush it off as having been…

  • Mental Illness,  Red Flags

    Don’t Ignore the Signs

    It saddens me to hear about yet another relationship gone terribly wrong.  In case you haven’t heard the latest news, rapper Earl Hayes who was once signed to Floyd Mayweather’s record label decided to take a tragically different approach to reconciliation by shooting his wife and star of VH1’s reality show Hit the Floor, Stephanie Moseley, then taking his own life in an apparent murder-suicide. While we will never know exactly what took place in the moments leading up to this tragic event on the morning of Monday December 8th, it seems as if Stephanie may have been in the dark about how bad things really were between them since she had just…

  • Break Ups

    Facebook Knows All Your Business

    Why Chris Brown,  why?!?!? I guess this could be somewhat of a hypocritical statement since I’m a dating blogger and have spilled my guts about every intricate detail when it comes to my experiences but really – does every intricate detail of what goes on in a relationship have to be broadcasted? We’ve all seen how the posts go from “Out with my baby” and “Love my boo”  to posts like “Good times with my girls” and “Ladies night out” only to finally see that relationship status changed to “Single” or “It’s complicated”.  Some are nice and simple while others get down and dirty like this one: For as long…

  • Red Flags,  The Non Committal Man or Woman

    Why Are You Single?

    “…I can’t understand how a woman like you could be single, you are amazing…” is what Out of Sight said quite a few times earlier on during our friendship/situation and I would always jokingly reply “It’s possible because and I am truly a good catch, but  I keep meeting assholes with too much personal baggage who aren’t ready and I have to let them go”. What I told him is so sad but  true because in nearly every instance where I meet someone and we begin the process of getting to know one another, we get derailed because of something the man is going through, he needs to work through his shit…

  • My Dating Hangovers,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Dishonest Men, Jaded Women

    I can’t even front right now, I’m feeling pretty disgusted right now and for just a moment, was licking a wound or two.  Okay, I get it – Special Agent was not a person who ever should have been a contender for dating so realizing that months ago, I made the awful mistake of agreeing to remain friends.  This was all him, he reached out to me, he initiated most types of contacts with each other but damn his actions are just so foul.  I’m disappointed and a little hurt that someone who professed to be such a stand up kind of man could be so dishonest.  We agreed not…

  • Relationship 101,  Uncategorized

    Facebook ends yet another marriage!

    I guess the title is a little unfair to Facebook, right? If you are caught cheating because of the evidence found by your wife after reading your in box messages, it is the person to blame isn’t it? I’m a little too worn out to fully share what I’ve just witnessed but I’ll tell you two things: First, I can totally understand how this friend’s wife is feeling but damn… The things women do when we’re pissed and hurt can be a quite extreme. Two, this makes me remember my personal experience with a cyber cheater whose Facebook in box revealed who the real person was. Dating hangovers, marriage hangovers……

  • Uncategorized

    Giving up on men

    I’m done with men. All of the good men are taken. I would rather be alone. I’m going to date ____ men. I’m going to play for the other team. Any of these sound familiar? If you’re a woman old enough to have experienced enough disappointment and heartache, you’ve probably said one or two, and more than likely, you grumbled all of them. If you’re a man, you’ve likely heard all of them far too often and yes – these comments may have been directed at you. You also may have thought or said “maybe it is you and not the men”, when hearing these cliche’ comments but how about…

  • Uncategorized

    The Morning After

    Hello to my single folks, lovers, happily married, mistresses and cheaters. Valentine’s Day is o-v-e-r! I know, I know – the last two aren’t the types that should be acknowledged but there are so many of you out there, I want to make sure no one is left out. I’m curious though – how DOES Valentine’s Day work for you if you’ve got someone on the side? Take care of the side boo first or later or do they just understand you’re unavailable for a day or two? Business as usual? Well, although I said I was boycotting Facebook yesterday, I took a little peek last night after class. What…

  • Uncategorized

    Love, Bragging and Obligation

    As much as I wanted to be a Jehovah’s Witness for today and ignore it, I won’t. Happy Valentine’s Day! There, I said it. This day is for those in love, those happy people who treat this as just another day but maybe will do something a little extra. Maybe it was the “Baby, I really love you” from the man to his wife or the “Honey, let’s do it again” from the girlfriend to her boyfriend. So happy day to those in love. This day is also for the bragging women. Yes, I said it because men sure as hell aren’t going crazy about Valentine’s Day. They aren’t blasting…

  • My Dating Hangovers,  Red Flags,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Thanks, but no thanks!

    Being forced to be civil with your ex, especially the other half who helped in the creation of your child is tough. For the most part, I have as minimal contact with the father which helps in living a drama free life. As the two of us stood in the cold, watching the kids displaying their best effort at scoring a touchdown, the polite small talk got a bit personal. Allow me to share a few excerpts from my discussion with “The Bullet” (meaning the one I dodged. Sort of): TB: “So Carmen, are you still with that one dude, the firefighter?” Me: “No”. TB: “Man, you go through boyfriends…

  • Uncategorized

    Quote of the Week

    I have been ridiculously busy! These first 26 days of 2012 have been quite productive, but I’m ready for February. So while I continue to procrastinate on posting several items, here’s a little something sent to me earlier this week. It’s simple, purely for shits and giggles but pretty darn accurate: “Fat people are like most relationships – they don’t work out.” 😉

  • Bad First Dates,  Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Online Dating,  Plenty of Fail,  Red Flags,  Relationship 101,  Settling or Compromising?,  Single Parent Dating,  The Non Committal Man or Woman,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized,  When you're dating your ex

    A Year of Dating Hangovers

    One year.  365 days. 53 weeks.  Several template revisions, three “About Me” rewrites, many lessons learned. 118 posts.  1,071 comments.  Thousands of Spam messages.  Encounters with an estimated 26 men.  Total of 26 disappointments with men. Countless expletives.  Many headaches.  Several arguments.  One heartache.  Happy Blogoversary My Dating Hangovers! I’m not quite sure how to feel knowing an entire year has passed since I first entered the world of blogging.  Although I started this as a hobby of sorts, to get my feet wet in the realm of online journaling, at times I wondered if I kept knocking down the different men I had encountered to give me a reason to…

  • Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Uncategorized,  When you're dating your ex

    Did we make up or WHAT?

         “You really need to update the blog so your readers know this is what really happens when you’re dealing with relationship issues”.  I wouldn’t expect to hear something like this from a man, and especially not Special Agent but this is what he told me when I shared that there was a little more than “talking” when Rescue and I saw each other last week. Oh wait – I guess I should mention that I told Special Agent about this face to face.  While on my weekend getaway with the girls down in his neck of the woods, he drove up to the resort making it our second time…