• Online Dating

    5 Types of Men Online

    For those of you who have not had the pleasure of trying out the online dating experience, this may be news to you – it sucks. For the others like me who have tried everything from eHarmony to Black People Meet to Match and a few rounds on the ultimate cesspool known as Plenty of Fish, you will certainly agree that there are certain types of (special) people who call themselves dating. On your quest to find love and happiness with a good man or woman who wants the same, you might come across the Socially Retarded, Really Unavailable, or Down to F@ck (DTF’s) types instead. I’m thinking nearly every…

  • Bad First Dates,  Uncategorized,  When you're dating your ex

    Suffering From Dating Burnout

    If only I had the energy to share the plethora of events that took place this past weekend, and normally there is never a dull moment.  I accepted a double dog dare and ended up riding a mechanical bull for the first time, successfully managing to keep all body parts inside  of my clothing.  Next, I had the pleasure of taking in the sights of Marina del Rey while talking about real estate dreams in between several snack runs to a few 7 Eleven stores which led up to the closing ceremonies of the weekend where my fears of becoming the latest nightclub shooting casualty because someone had a crazy temper and hood mentality. Oh- the last…

  • My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Time for a quickie

    No you pervs, not what you’re thinking, but I wanted to actually try posting something succinct. This has been quite an interesting week and yes – the Rescue saga has run its course. The whole situation puts you in mind of how you would feel if they announced the return of a movie. One that you wished would just go away. You know a Jaws movie. Part 7. Yes, I’m just as tired of writing about him but you know I can’t help it. Love. Fuc# love. Fuc# love with Rescue. Fuc# his excuses. Fuc# giving him time. Fuc# holding on. Fuc# second chances. A siren went off in my…

  • Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Uncategorized,  When you're dating your ex

    Did we make up or WHAT?

         “You really need to update the blog so your readers know this is what really happens when you’re dealing with relationship issues”.  I wouldn’t expect to hear something like this from a man, and especially not Special Agent but this is what he told me when I shared that there was a little more than “talking” when Rescue and I saw each other last week. Oh wait – I guess I should mention that I told Special Agent about this face to face.  While on my weekend getaway with the girls down in his neck of the woods, he drove up to the resort making it our second time…

  • My Dating Hangovers

    The Talk

    “I’m certainly not able to expect or ask for an answer now, all I ask is that you think about it”. Rescue’s words last night before I got out of his car. Emotions, thoughts, skepticism, hope, confusion. But wait- I’m getting ahead of myself. Last night’s talk with him caught me off guard because in my mind, I was completely over the situation since we didn’t meet up this past Sunday as originally planned. As I always say and fail miserably, I will try to keep this update under three scroll bars. In a nutshell, things went down as follows: Friday – He called, I finally answered, we spoke. I…

  • Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101,  When you're dating your ex

    A Week of Revelations

                      A Week of Revelations “Only time will tell what happens with him or any of these other three OR any of the others I didn’t have time to mention here.”  I guess the most appropriate place to begin this post is by starting where I left off.  It’s been a little over a week since I last posted and other than the occasional feelings of disappointment, reasoning and a slew of other thoughts and random emotions, not much has really happened directly.  Meaning, I’ve finally taken my own advice of just sitting back and observing what is transpiring in my life…

  • Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Settling or Compromising?,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  When you're dating your ex

    A Tale of Four Men

    Blame the bastards at Hewlett Packard for my delays in posting!  Yes, my laptop is truly on its last leg and I haven’t been able to access the Internet in almost two weeks.  Of course there’s the back-up plan using the Blackberry tool but it’s just easier in front of a real computer to spew out these different thoughts going through my head. I hope you’re ready to read and are NOT reading from a cell phone; otherwise a carpal-tunnel like sensation will develop from scrolling. Let’s go! Currently, there are four men I’ve been in contact with.  Any real contenders for anything?  I’m not sure but from the sign…

  • Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Red Flags,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  When you're dating your ex

    A new day

    Cost for an after hours locksmith- $84 Feeling okay the day after a break up-PRICELESS. Saturday was quite interesting. As I woke up and started preparing food for a potluck, I wondered about my plan of action. I was so over the “how come you won’t just talk to me” or the “your actions make no sense” and especially the “you say you need and love me but I don’t see it” type of conversations. These were pretty much common place for about a month with Rescue. I called our mutual friend as I was pulling out of the driveway and asked “is your buddy there?”, and once I heard…

  • Break Ups,  My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101

    I’m Back!!!!!!

      “Come back to Jamaica…. our home is your home…” I know I’m totally dating myself, but does anyone else remember that little jingle from back in the 80’s?  Let me just say that Montego Bay was everything I had hoped it could be and then some. I’ve been back in town now for almost a week and have been trying to catch up on life which really is a buzz kill after partying, drinking and relaxing as if I didn’t have a care in the world. Another song comes to mind – “Back to life, back to reality, back to the hear and now….” Oh well. How about some…

  • Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Red Flags,  When you're dating your ex

    Part Deaux

      It has been eight days since Rescue and I had our latest "incident", seven days since we last saw each other, and six days since I apologized and two hours have passed since he and I had what I hope was the beginning of a break through conversation. Yes, I apologized and the reason why is simple:  Men and women think differently. This is by no means a statement that has never been heard before, but at that moment when I pulled over to the side of the road and inhaled, then exhaled before making my call to him I realized this was the gospel truth. Now before I go on…

  • Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Red Flags,  Relationship 101,  Settling or Compromising?,  When you're dating your ex

    The winds are changing…

      And those bitches are like the Santa Ana's in the dead of summer - hot and swift. It was just a week or so ago that Kim sent me a BBM ladened with her latest dating woes and said- "Damn girl, things are going so well with you and Rescue, we won't have anything to read on the blog".  My reply was "I wouldnt necessarily say that because there is a big issue that keeps eating away at me, so I can't even say I'm in the clear". Bless her heart when she says “well, at least you’re 1/4 of the way”. Aw… Genuine happiness from a friend who…

  • My Dating Hangovers

    Am I Missing Something?

                      This week I was supposed to be sharing details about Mr. Hollywood as a follow up to Just Be Up Front, but I figured why waste finger strokes and computer space on a hangover? It’s done and over with. I will share a few of the things that turned me on about him:  He enjoyed book clubs (and is not gay), discussion (and knows conversate is not a word), camping (not afraid of the outdoors), coffee (lives at Starbucks), cooking (doesn’t rely on a woman to feed him), museums (really, he’s not gay), exploring new areas (not afraid to think outside…

  • Relationship 101

    Training in Session

                              My life seems to be on overdrive as of late – finalizing my career change ideas, researching masters degree programs, lounging in large pools in Vegas. I mean really, that can just be a bit overwhelming for a girl, you know? Of course I realize there’s  no excuse (except a lame one) for me having left the writing alone for over a week. None. Especially when I fuss at other bloggers and remind them of that handy WordPress mobile application we can always use whenever we’re not near a computer. So what about my dating life and…

  • My Dating Hangovers,  Red Flags,  Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Are we compatible?

    So not what I wanted to read today:  “…On the face of it, a combination between Capricorn and Libra may not seem the best of matches…” As much as I enjoy reading my horoscope to see how accurate, twisted or completely WRONG the forecast may be, one area I’d never really given much thought to was the compatibility aspect.  I’m not one of those special people who have to read it every day to see if I’m going to have the best day ever or a crappy-should-stay-at-home kind of day, figure if I should pay my rent or buy a new pair of shoes or if I should break up a…

  • My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    72 Hour Gag Order

      The stages of a break-up. We’re probably familiar with what they are or may have at least heard of them, but they’re the different transitions we go through with our minds and emotions that are really on the verge of a break-DOWN, depending on how involved you are with your significant other, boyfriend or husband.  I’m not really interested in the transitions from one to the next but really, the first couple of days after a break-up. How are you feeling? Hurt, angry, lonely, confused or numb.   Blind-sided, guilty (depending on if it was something YOU did) or stupid. Whatever flows out of the flood gate of emotions, I think that…