• Dumb Shit Guys Do,  First Dates,  Interracial Dating,  My Dating Hangovers,  Online Dating,  Plenty of Fail,  Shitty Dating Profiles,  Single Girl Problems

    He Didn’t Wear Heels

    Last week’s date marked the first time I’ve gone out with a non-black man and while one “quick” meet up will never allow me to claim an interracial dating experience, at least I was open coerced enough to have tried it. During that excruciating hour and eleven minutes with the hangover I’ll call Guido, a few things became perfectly clear to me:  (1) nearly every man lies about at least one thing on his dating profile, (2) broken English and improper verb tense isn’t something I’ll ever be able to stomach, and (3) being told how beautiful I am repeatedly in one sitting is a little creepy. That being said,…

  • My Dating Hangovers,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Score 1, Carmen 0

    Just think…. It was only a few days ago when I was joyfully posting about an exciting first meeting and date! The Score was very promising because we got along marvellously over the telephone and had so much in common. He was smart, witty, funny, and like me – preferred the creative side vs the stagnant environment we both complained about in corporate America. The two of us were pretty well traveled and joked about not being able to date anyone who did not have a passport. The Score and I love, love, love music! Shared a commonality of simple things like people watching, writing, creating something out of a…

  • Break Ups,  Married Men,  My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101,  When you're dating your ex

    The word is OUT!

    All I’m saying is… It seems like the world got the memo about my relationship blues. I get a random text message from Mr. Jekyl (damn, I STILL have not shared the sordid details about that love affair turned Nightmare on Elm St.). Simply saying “Hi”. Don’t read any more into it. That IS his modus operandi – get you with a minimalistic approach then go in for the kills texting you to death asking why you can’t be friends. Then, I get an even more random “Hi there friend, long time no talk. How have you been? I miss my friend, hope we can meet up soon”. This was…

  • Bad First Dates,  Plenty of Fail,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    There’s just this one thing…

    It’s about time I start having some good news to share so guess who had a nice date this weekend?  Yes, it’s true.  A nice sunny day, good eats and great conversation with plenty of laughter is how Second Chance and I enjoyed a Sunday afternoon. You know there’s always a story behind the naming of a hangover, so here’s how he received his.  This wasn’t our first encounter as Second Chance had initially contacted me almost a month ago on POF, but he failed.  Miserably.  We’d exchanged numbers after a few messages back and forth online and as I said I would, made that first phone call and left…

  • Guest Posts,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Featured Blog Post of the Week – “Toddler Man”

    This Featured Blog Post of the week comes from a fairly new blogger named SingleInLA.  I consider her somewhat of a fallen angel because she was in a place where some of us would like to be – in a committed relationship, in love and engaged and ready to spend the rest of her life with her prince charming.  The problem?  Well…. that prince charming had a little bit of frog blood and things just didn’t work out.  So after 7 years of not having to worry about getting a date for that special event, catching a movie with your snuggle bunny or reliable nookie without strings, she’s back on…

  • THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Until Something Better Comes Along

    Is it wrong to deal with someone you’re seeing until something better comes along? I’m feeling a little hypocritical even thinking this especially after having enlightened myself on “Choosing a Life Partner”.  Dealing with a man who isn’t my first choice is a little tricky and I’ve realized, this could be reciprocal – I may not be his first choice either. Before you judge me, let me explain and I’d also ask that you think back to your past dealings with a man or woman.  Can you honestly say you have never done, being involved with someone or dating even though they weren’t really what you were looking for?  I…