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Dating Someone Who’s Been to Prison
Where do you draw a line in the sand that separates judgment from an inability to relate? It seems as if a lot of the men trying to date are in situations that make it hard for a woman to want to deal with them.
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The Come Back Charlie’s
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Could this be the LONGEST one EVER?
When people confuse the profile as an autobiographical novel...
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5 Things Women Want in a Man
Someone new reached out to me over the weekend online and sent this: I know there’s less than a snowball chance in hell that you will even respond to this message, but sending it anyway. Your profile is well written and you’re photos are great, depicting a woman who’s at the tip of her game. Yet you’re single (presumably) and online. This might be out of line, but I’m guessing you’re still single because you’re looking for that perfect guy on your carefully crafted list of about 101 different things. But maybe… just maybe I’m wrong and if so, you’ll respond and we’ll end up riding off into the sunset.…
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I Can Work with Men
The funny thing about dating is that there are so many different types of men and situations out there so you really are placed in a position of picking your poison. My last date from a few months ago really had it together. He owned a couple of properties, had a stable career with no debt and only one child and was just as eager as myself to find someone special and settle down. That same man was also a self-centered, controlling, condescending asshole who believed he was the crème de la crème and couldn’t understand why or how any woman could reject him. But like the others he’d complained…
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Too Soon?
EXCLUSIVITY Related to exclusivity: Mutual exclusivity ex·clu·sive (ĭk-sklo͞o′sĭv) adj. 1. Excluding or tending to exclude: exclusive barriers. 2. Not allowing something else; incompatible: mutually exclusive conditions. 3. Not divided or shared with others: exclusive publishing rights. 4. Not accompanied by others; single or sole. It’s late and as I’m ready to call it a night, he sends me a text asking if we are now dating exclusively. I don’t respond and in the morning will use the excuse that I’d fallen asleep. We’ve had two outings together and the first didn’t leave a very favorable impression. Hell, I haven’t even had a chance to share what went wrong with that…
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Single With Benefits
I’m still here and yes, still single. This chick here has been quite busy over the holidays and am just now starting to get into the swing of things after ending the year trying to knock out some of my goals that I’d set which included the usual suspects such as: losing weight, saving money, traveling, meeting “him” and purchasing a home. The bad news is when it came to losing a couple of pounds and meeting him I failed, failed, failed. I got nothing, nada, zero, zilch to offer for either of those two major goals. The good news is that I hit two of the major ones out…
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When He Shows the First Sign of Crazy
“When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time” – Maya Angelou It’s just after 6am and I just ended a telephone call by telling two bold-faced lies to the man on the other end. The first lie was that I was entering underground parking (with not a structure in sight) and would be losing reception and the second lie was that I would call him right back. After about a minute of listening to the venom spewing from his mouth, I was beginning to wonder if this dude was a loose cannon, and for the remaining nine minutes on the phone with him, my suspicions were confirmed. …
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Stop Over Thinking, It’s Just Great Sex
An overwhelming instinct to protect myself from certain situations that can be detrimental to my well-being has suddenly kicked into overdrive. This is really just a fancy way of saying whenever I’m feeling like the situation with a man is a little confusing or uncomfortable for me, the anchor comes up and this old ship gets to sailing. It’s funny (well, not really) how just a few days ago I was skipping through the field of daisies, still on a high after the latest tryst with my long-term cut buddy Papi which I’ll say again, was one of the best sessions. I could just brush it off as having been…
- Dumb Shit Guys Do, First Dates, Interracial Dating, My Dating Hangovers, Online Dating, Plenty of Fail, Shitty Dating Profiles, Single Girl Problems
He Didn’t Wear Heels
Last week’s date marked the first time I’ve gone out with a non-black man and while one “quick” meet up will never allow me to claim an interracial dating experience, at least I was open coerced enough to have tried it. During that excruciating hour and eleven minutes with the hangover I’ll call Guido, a few things became perfectly clear to me: (1) nearly every man lies about at least one thing on his dating profile, (2) broken English and improper verb tense isn’t something I’ll ever be able to stomach, and (3) being told how beautiful I am repeatedly in one sitting is a little creepy. That being said,…
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3 Signs the Date Wasn’t So Great
“So um hypothetically speaking, let’s say you and I keep doing this right here you know and after about three months we’re in a really cool place. Does that mean you’ll eventually close out your dating account or do we have that conversation when you feel like you’re ready?” Blank stare. “I’m ready, you know what I’m saying because you are the type of woman who is on my level, is over the clubbing, you’re a good parent and think the same way as I do. So um are you ready to take this to the next level?” Fool, what level and why are you talking like you’re with the homies on…
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The Familiar
When the sex is so good, you’re ready for bed by 9pm on a Saturday night. It’s been 7 months and after a disappointing random encounter with someone new, I decided it’s best to stick with what I know. After nearly 20 years, he has never ever let me down. Mmm, Papi. Until there’s a cure for the dating hangovers, I will not be starved of multiple orgasmic episodes. Carmen Jones
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14,608 Days
In less than 24 hours I’ll be celebrating my 40th birthday and I’m soooooo excited! A small part of me wants to bitch and moan about being single, not having a snuggle bunny at the end of the night after I’m all sweaty and tipsy but to hell with any of those negative thoughts. I’ll never understand why turning a year older seem to be such a daunting event instead of it being a time of celebration. So what it’s cuffing season and there aren’t any good players on the bench, but at least I can say I spent the year doing something that makes me even more of a catch – working…
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But at Least She HAS a Man!
“Finally, I have met my soul mate. He is a true lover of the Lord, engages me in deep and thought-provoking conversations and compliments me constantly. Never have I had a man tell me how beautiful I am several times a day, not even my ex-husband and I can’t recall the last time I have ever felt so wanted by a man. Sure, he’s got a few minor things to work out but I’m not worried about any of that.” Isn’t this lovely? This was a conversation I had a few weeks ago with a co-worker who’s in her 50’s y as she gushed about how much in love she…
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Decisions, Decisions
I think I need to make a decision on what to do with this online dating account and there are two good reasons for not wanting to do anything too hasty but at the same time, there are two very good reasons for why I should just pull the plug. It has been quite some time since the process of deleting of a dating profile has occurred for a good reason because normally the antics of men simply drive me to the point of sheer disgust and hopelessness and slowly, the dismantling begins. The amount of time I pop on the site to read messages slows down and my response…
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It Really IS a Small World
According to the U.S. Census data from last year, there are 313,914,040 people in the U.S., 38.04 million in California alone; 9.963 million in Los Angeles County with 4,936,599 of this figure in my county consisting of whites and a paltry 856,874 represents blacks. If breaking down these statistics even further, there are about 713,640 falling under my target category of black men between the ages of 35-44 years of age (Census Data http://quickfacts.census.gov/qfd/states/06000.html) . I realize the figures speak for themselves due to the limited options that may be available and mind you, this isn’t considering any other preferences such as a man being single, employed, educated etc… that may be in…
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