Where do you draw a line in the sand that separates judgment from an inability to relate? It seems as if a lot of the men trying to date are in situations that make it hard for a woman to want to deal with them.… Read More Dating Someone Who’s Been to Prison
When people confuse the profile as an autobiographical novel…… Read More Could this be the LONGEST one EVER?
Someone new reached out to me over the weekend online and sent this: I know there’s less than a snowball chance in hell that you will even respond to this message, but sending it anyway. Your profile is well written and you’re photos are great, depicting a woman who’s at the tip of her game.… Read More 5 Things Women Want in a Man
The funny thing about dating is that there are so many different types of men and situations out there so you really are placed in a position of picking your poison. My last date from a few months ago really had it together. He owned a couple of properties, had a stable career with no… Read More I Can Work with Men
EXCLUSIVITY Related to exclusivity: Mutual exclusivity ex·clu·sive (ĭk-sklo͞o′sĭv) adj. 1. Excluding or tending to exclude: exclusive barriers. 2. Not allowing something else; incompatible: mutually exclusive conditions. 3. Not divided or shared with others: exclusive publishing rights. 4. Not accompanied by others; single or sole. It’s late and as I’m ready to call it a night,… Read More Too Soon?
I’m still here and yes, still single. This chick here has been quite busy over the holidays and am just now starting to get into the swing of things after ending the year trying to knock out some of my goals that I’d set which included the usual suspects such as: losing weight, saving money,… Read More Single With Benefits
“When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time” – Maya Angelou It’s just after 6am and I just ended a telephone call by telling two bold-faced lies to the man on the other end. The first lie was that I was entering underground parking (with not a structure in sight) and would… Read More When He Shows the First Sign of Crazy
An overwhelming instinct to protect myself from certain situations that can be detrimental to my well-being has suddenly kicked into overdrive. This is really just a fancy way of saying whenever I’m feeling like the situation with a man is a little confusing or uncomfortable for me, the anchor comes up and this old ship… Read More Stop Over Thinking, It’s Just Great Sex
Last week’s date marked the first time I’ve gone out with a non-black man and while one “quick” meet up will never allow me to claim an interracial dating experience, at least I was open coerced enough to have tried it. During that excruciating hour and eleven minutes with the hangover I’ll call Guido, a… Read More He Didn’t Wear Heels
“So um hypothetically speaking, let’s say you and I keep doing this right here you know and after about three months we’re in a really cool place. Does that mean you’ll eventually close out your dating account or do we have that conversation when you feel like you’re ready?” Blank stare. “I’m ready, you know what… Read More 3 Signs the Date Wasn’t So Great
When the sex is so good, you’re ready for bed by 9pm on a Saturday night. It’s been 7 months and after a disappointing random encounter with someone new, I decided it’s best to stick with what I know. After nearly 20 years, he has never ever let me down. Mmm, Papi. Until there’s a… Read More The Familiar
In less than 24 hours I’ll be celebrating my 40th birthday and I’m soooooo excited! A small part of me wants to bitch and moan about being single, not having a snuggle bunny at the end of the night after I’m all sweaty and tipsy but to hell with any of those negative thoughts. I’ll never understand why… Read More 14,608 Days
“Finally, I have met my soul mate. He is a true lover of the Lord, engages me in deep and thought-provoking conversations and compliments me constantly. Never have I had a man tell me how beautiful I am several times a day, not even my ex-husband and I can’t recall the last time I have… Read More But at Least She HAS a Man!
I think I need to make a decision on what to do with this online dating account and there are two good reasons for not wanting to do anything too hasty but at the same time, there are two very good reasons for why I should just pull the plug. It has been quite some… Read More Decisions, Decisions
According to the U.S. Census data from last year, there are 313,914,040 people in the U.S., 38.04 million in California alone; 9.963 million in Los Angeles County with 4,936,599 of this figure in my county consisting of whites and a paltry 856,874 represents blacks. If breaking down these statistics even further, there are about 713,640 falling… Read More It Really IS a Small World