• Red Flags,  The Non Committal Man or Woman

    Why Are You Single?

    “…I can’t understand how a woman like you could be single, you are amazing…” is what Out of Sight said quite a few times earlier on during our friendship/situation and I would always jokingly reply “It’s possible because and I am truly a good catch, but  I keep meeting assholes with too much personal baggage who aren’t ready and I have to let them go”. What I told him is so sad but  true because in nearly every instance where I meet someone and we begin the process of getting to know one another, we get derailed because of something the man is going through, he needs to work through his shit…

  • Friends with Benefits,  Uncategorized

    If I Had My Way

    Sometimes I tend to think too much and as one of my former hangovers used to joke, if Carmen is thinking, you better watch out.  Do you ever have those moments where  your brain just seems like it is on overload, and instead of going through the motions you tend to think a little TOO much?  I have moments when I want to just do it, not over think and if I had my way, I would do more to enoy the moments. For instance, this past Sunday I had a minor setback and paid a visit to Rescue.  While I certainly enjoyed pouncing on his face and working him…

  • Bad First Dates,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    I’m Here to Date, Not to Screw

    Tout le monde souhaite obtenir des médicaments gratuits pour l’impuissance sexuelle de la pharmacie en ligne Viagra simplement. Oui, vous avez le droit de continuer à bénéficier de l’achat. Cela ressemble au prix le plus bas pour tous les médicaments. www.healthperxplus.com La dyspepsie La congestion nasale Convulsion.For the last couple of days, I have been trying to figure out   procrastinating on posting about my lastest date. Fresh out of the caribbean where the men worshipped me like the super bad chick that I am, right into one of the hottest sushi bars in LA for a first time meeting with a new hangover.  I can’t remember if I mentioned this…

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    Saturday Night Voyeur

    I like to watch. No, really I do and before you think I’m planning another one of those uterus massaging sessions with Papi, I assure you I’m not. Well, not that I know of at least. Tonight I’m going to be in one of California’s many beautiful beach cities at a lock and key dating even, but here’s the kicker- I won’t be participating, trying to meet my future ex-boyfriend. I know, I know. I’ve recently joined a new dating web site so why the hell am I not a participant? I would rather watch. A little over a week ago, I received and email from my friend Kimora (she…

  • Plenty of Fail,  Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Online Dating – Week 1

    Well, I have just made it through the first week of being “back” into the scheme of things, back in the mix, back in the shit. Online dating. I guess it wouldn’t be fair to complain about anything such as of the types and quality of men just yet because you get out what you put in, right? Meaning I really haven’t done much other than create the profile, write the abridged versions of “why I’m great and should no longer be single” thesis, and post a decent profile picture. What else have I done, you may ask – not a damn thing. Like a bird kicking back and waiting…

  • Plenty of Fail,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Ready, set, LAUGH!

    Before I can even go into all of the things that went running through my mind when picking a dating web and signing up, I have to say the experts are wrong. They say that only the good, well written, and carefully thought out profiles are noticed the most. I’m going to have to say no, no, and no. The ones that stand out like that yellow and black tape at a crime scene are the ones that stand out and for the life of me, I can’t understand why those are the ones making the most contact. They say you are what you attract, right? Since this seems to…

  • Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Why is dating so challenging?

    Oh how I love the random posts found on Facebook, and today’s came in the form of “Question of the Day”. Why a married woman is interested in knowing this is beyond me unless she’s just curious, but the responses shared is what piqued my interest. Ground breaking? No. New revelations not previously known? Of course not. Was I surprised that nearly all of the respondents were women? Absolutely, positively not. Here are a few… – “Living in Atlanta!”. I’ve heard this many times before from friends who live there, as well as from media reports. The ratio of men to women in this ‘hot spot’ is ridiculously unbalanced and…

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    Why is dating so challenging?

    Oh how I love the random posts found on Facebook, and today’s came in the form of “Question of the Day”. Why a married woman is interested in knowing this is beyond me unless she’s just curious, but the responses shared is what piqued my interest. Ground breaking? No. New revelations not previously known? Of course not. Was I surprised that nearly all of the respondents were women? Absolutely, positively not. Here are a few… – “Living in Atlanta!”. I’ve heard this many times before from friends who live there, as well as from media reports. The ratio of men to women in this ‘hot spot’ is ridiculously unbalanced and…

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    Women 23-35

    Nothing screams BITCH YOU’RE OLD AND OUT OF LUCK more than seeing an advertisement like this: Rooftop Speed Dating for Singles Ages 25-35 FOR: Men 25-37 Women 23-35 Please direct your eyes to the range for men, which is acceptable even though you can easily round that number UP to 40. But oh yes, for women? We have been uh.. Rounded DOWN. I had speed dating on my “To Do” list for 2012, but didn’t take little things like age range into consideration. Date, location and price is what comes to mind but not the cut off being 35 years for women while the men (of course) get the pass…

  • Relationship 101,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Can your lengthy single life ruin a new relationship?

    “The longer a person has been single, the harder it will be to have a meaningful relationship with them. Is this true or false and why?” This was a question posted by a friend on Facebook this afternoon and before I browsed through the replies that included the yes, no’s and don’t know’s. One of the people commented “False because while you are single you should be learning yourself, learning what you want and don’t want so that you will be better at selecting your next mate. Timing is everything.”  Bless her heart, this lady tried but I think she missed the point or perhaps looked at the question a…

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    Singles Are The Leftovers

    Last night I was out having drinks with a nice guy I’d met online, and we were going through the usual getting-to-know-you type stuff.  Likes, dislikes, dating experiences, past relationships, and a few gripes about how tough it is being single.   Yes, men complain about this sorry plight as much as the women, so since we all agree there are some pretty foul things being done to each other and we always chant about being “drama free”, why can’t we all just get along?  As the discussion continues on he says “you know what we are, right?”  I’m thinking yeah – over 30, single and pretty much stuck unless we…