• Dating Over 30,  First Dates,  Friend Zone

    Great First Dates

    We might have a winner! We might have a winner! We might have a winner! In case the point isn’t being emphasized enough, I think we might have a winner so let’s just call him Winner! Last night’s date was a smashing success and even better, the feeling is mutual since we ended the night by texting each other pretty much the same thing and woke up texting nearly the same words as last night which – we were happy to have met, enjoyed the relaxed and open conversation an agreed how everything flowed effortlessly.  Our chemistry was amazing and if you were looking over at our table while we…

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    Great Date And Then…

    Not much afterwards. I’m a little confused because I hear about men and women going on that first date and in their mind, having a really great time but then shit pretty much fizzles after that.  It has happened to me and after about 3,047 dates, this is probably only the second time.  A man doesn’t normally meet and spend time with me and not want to either call me moments after leaving each other, or asking when we’re getting together soon. But it did. Naturally, that inner voice is trying to replay the Sunday morning until afternoon date, looking for that place to press pause and dissect the scene. …

  • Friends with Benefits,  Uncategorized

    If I Had My Way

    Sometimes I tend to think too much and as one of my former hangovers used to joke, if Carmen is thinking, you better watch out.  Do you ever have those moments where  your brain just seems like it is on overload, and instead of going through the motions you tend to think a little TOO much?  I have moments when I want to just do it, not over think and if I had my way, I would do more to enoy the moments. For instance, this past Sunday I had a minor setback and paid a visit to Rescue.  While I certainly enjoyed pouncing on his face and working him…

  • Bad First Dates,  Uncategorized,  When you're dating your ex

    Suffering From Dating Burnout

    If only I had the energy to share the plethora of events that took place this past weekend, and normally there is never a dull moment.  I accepted a double dog dare and ended up riding a mechanical bull for the first time, successfully managing to keep all body parts inside  of my clothing.  Next, I had the pleasure of taking in the sights of Marina del Rey while talking about real estate dreams in between several snack runs to a few 7 Eleven stores which led up to the closing ceremonies of the weekend where my fears of becoming the latest nightclub shooting casualty because someone had a crazy temper and hood mentality. Oh- the last…

  • My Dating Hangovers,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    The Post I Wasn’t Expecting to Post

    I feel as if I would be cheating all of you if I didn’t share how last evening’s visit went with Special Agent.  In fact, I’m still in shock from the conversation I had while waiting for my oil change, and certainly the remaining conversation that followed which lasted over an hour. Let me just say these two things: First, the Internet is an amazing place.  Second, men who are cheating or dishonest fail to realize that at some point, they are going to slip up and forget something. Right now, Special Agent is probably trying to figure out how he is going to apply his special investigative and negotiation…

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    Minimal Expectations

    What a difference a week can make. I’m glad to report that the dating fairies have put down their Ouija boards for a few days, and allowed me to enjoy myself a bit this weekend. Drums please… I had a very enjoyable and refreshing meet up (yes, different than a date) with a man who was close to having been eliminated from even being considered for anything because he moved at a much slower pace. I figured he was either one of those knuckle heads who asked for my number with no intention of actually talking, or had so much going on (on and off line), he simply had no…

  • My Dating Hangovers,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Score 1, Carmen 0

    Just think…. It was only a few days ago when I was joyfully posting about an exciting first meeting and date! The Score was very promising because we got along marvellously over the telephone and had so much in common. He was smart, witty, funny, and like me – preferred the creative side vs the stagnant environment we both complained about in corporate America. The two of us were pretty well traveled and joked about not being able to date anyone who did not have a passport. The Score and I love, love, love music! Shared a commonality of simple things like people watching, writing, creating something out of a…

  • THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Do I really want to go there?

    I’m still alive. It’s been pretty quiet and low key for me while I took some time to regroup from the remnants of the Rescue debacle. For the past week, I have actually been getting reacquainted with an old friend. A friend dedicated to my well-being and health. A friend me with my new mantra of “best way to move on from a break up is to work on creating a slamming ass body”. Yep, I’ve dusted off that gym membership card. Me dating again? I’ve been keeping myself busy and haven’t given more that a chicken fart’s thought about dating. Yet. I mean really, for what? After hearing the…

  • Guest Posts,  My Dating Hangovers,  Plenty of Fail,  Red Flags,  Relationship 101,  Single Parent Dating,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    What is a Dating Hangover?

    Hang·over • \hang-ô-ver\ •noun A person or thing left over from or influenced by a past age; Something remaining from a previous time or state. A let down, after a period of excitement Symptoms: –          Fatigue, weakness, pain, headache, nausea and vomiting –          Depression, anxiety –          Irritability Now surely, everyone at some point (some more than others) in their lives has experienced these types of feelings and I’ll be the first to admit – it sucks!  My hangovers have left me feeling like crap to the point where I couldn’t function for a couple of hours, feeling as if I was shutting down physically, emotionally and mentally.  Yes, these types of…