“Hi, I am on here because my boyfriend has recently left me for another man after I was loyal to him all year. I am bi but I haven’t been with a woman in a while.”
I just received this message on POF from a man whose photo looked a little suspect, so away to his profile I went to read more. While I can certainly appreciate his candor by being up front instead of him lying, but hell no- I’m not interested.
Say what you will, but I don’t think it’s in me to even consider a bisexual man.
For the record, we all realize that there is a pretty big double standard when it comes to bisexuality. A woman who is discovering herself, bi-curious or just flat out enjoys kissing nipples and sugar walls is a lot more accepted than a man who enjoys a little stubble while kissing and leaving monkey bites on the back of another man’s neck.
We tend to look at bisexual women as being exotic and sexy and bisexual men as being a disgusting person and these aren’t my feelings personally, but just the way some tend to think.
I tossed this question out to several of my friends to make sure it wasn’t just a cultural thing, especially since I already have to deal with the infamous “down low brother” issue. Interestingly, they couldn’t date a bisexual man because it would just seem a little too weird for them.
So could I (knowingly) date a man without wondering if he was admiring the SAME good looking guy as me? Nope, I just can’t handle that. It’s bad enough having dated one or two guys I had my suspicions about, believing they were more than just metrosexual.
Back to the guy who sparked this post; he also mentioned he hadn’t had experiences dating women in quite sometime so that got me to wondering what exactly is a “while”.
I asked myself if I could be considered I bi-phobic? No, I don’t think so. It’s just that I’ve got enough to worry about with all of the nuances that come with dating then to have to worry about someone’s sexual persuasion or preference.
A fist pound to all of you out there who love preaching the “we’re all part of the human race” or “it shouldn’t matter a person’s sexual orientation”.
This girl wants a man who has only been interested in women so switch hitters need not apply.
I ignored that POF message, clicked delete and blocked the profile.
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