“I’m going to have to buckle down and build a backbone because this really sucks!”
“Come my child, let me hold you. I will reassure you that you’re not crazy when men confuse you, will comfort you when a man disappoints you and curse you if you keep asking me if dating is really this bad.”
Okay well that wasn’t really my reply, but it surely is what I feel like saying to the newcomers to the dating scene or who I’ll refer to as The New Kids On The Block.
Let’s assume these newly single men and women were homes and they’ve suddenly found themselves back on the market.
If they were dating seriously or in a relationship, the poor things fell out of escrow. Something happened with the funding (could be literal) or that appraisal (you know, found too many cracks in the foundation, bull*hit infestation and the like). They just didn’t make it to that final step in the relationship.
Or if they were actually married and things failed, one of two things occurred:
A quick sale (separated but probably no real interruption in lifestyle dating game soon after) OR foreclosure (divorced and starting from scratch).
My girl Kim? The latter.
To say that getting back into the dating game, fishbowl or whatever else it’s called is crappy? A gross understatement.
For years while Kim was happily married, settled in as wife and mother, she would hear about my trysts and love affairs and probably thought:
1. It couldn’t be that hard finding someone decent.
2. I should be more open to the types of men I’d date or where I would meet them.
3. Maybe there was something I was doing wrong.
4. Thanking God she was NOT single.
Sadly, Kim and a few other friends who all seem to have found themselves separated, divorced or just plain old SINGLE within the last 6 months to a year.
They are seeing that # 1 through 3 do not apply. How do I know this?
These are smart, beautiful and successful women. Still, I’ve heard them complain about these and more:
Unreturned calls, ignored text messages, canceled dates, being stood up, men trying to get to 2nd base after your first coffee meeting, jerks who think you shouldn’t mind dating them if they once sexed AND lived with one of your close friends etc…
Four words for the New Kids On The Block who have been sharing their hangovers with me?
Until there’s a cure for the hangovers…
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