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Nothing screams BITCH YOU’RE OLD AND OUT OF LUCK more than seeing an advertisement like this:

Rooftop Speed Dating for Singles Ages 25-35

FOR: Men 25-37
Women 23-35

Please direct your eyes to the range for men, which is acceptable even though you can easily round that number UP to 40.

But oh yes, for women? We have been uh.. Rounded DOWN.

I had speed dating on my “To Do” list for 2012, but didn’t take little things like age range into consideration.

Date, location and price is what comes to mind but not the cut off being 35 years for women while the men (of course) get the pass on those extra years.

I just received this e-mail moments ago with the header “V-Day Rooftop Speed Dating” and initially started to delete it, delete and then delete it again.

What’s my issue?

I have two and the first is a nagging reminder that men always seem to have the better odds (based on sheer numbers) and other things.

Secondly, that V since this event is slated for February 14th, that V obviously doesn’t stand for va-jay-jay.

It’s that one day of the year when MOST singles probably want to crawl into a hole and just stay there until 12:01am.

I say most although that statement likely applies to nearly every single person out there who is NOT in denial.

You know the ones- the lying women who harp “I’m okay with my single status” or “It’s just another day, no big deal” or the absolute losers who want to do “Single Ladies Unite” day.

I tell you this much – this woman here isn’t in denial and even if I say I’ve been enjoying the worry-free months as a single woman, I am not celebrating it.

Not one iota.

So realizing that even if I wanted to try this speed dating event being advertised, I suddenly felt like I’d been sucker punched in the gut.

I’m no spring chicken.

This means I either accept that I am now beyond the median age men will possibly consider which is rounded down OR start lying my ass off about my age.

I can take the disparity in what ages the men I’m more likely to be interested in vs what THEY are interested in and write away. Perhaps another day.

Or, I can start rounding down.

Yes, being born in the year 1979 has a nice ring to it. πŸ™‚

Until there’s a cure for the hangovers…

Carmen Jones

Hangover - a let down following great excitement or excess. Wow. This one sentence describes nearly all of my dating and relationship experiences! I'm a 30 year-old woman muddling through the Los Angeles dating scene and yes - Believe all that you've heard about the screwed up men and women in La-La Land. This blog is of my actual experiences that will either make you chuckle, laugh out loud or maybe say "aw.....". If your dating hangovers seem worse than the next person's, read on, post a comment and enjoy! Carmen

11 Comments

  • Matt79

    I agree that building the older-man-younger-woman stereotype into the rules for this event is rather sucky. However… I’m not sure whether you’re mainly joking later in your post, but if you were to go looking for a relationship and start it by lying about your age then I don’t think that would be a good idea. Just my opinion.

    Different events may have different age brackets. I went on a speed-dating event which was 24-40 (men and women) and several different women there confided that they were mid-40s. Why lie to get in? OK, the median age which men look for may be younger, but there are also men in the world looking for older women too. Why turn up to somewhere filled with men looking for younger women? Why not go meet the men looking for you? And if the women had just not told me and I’d started dating one of them and then found out, I would have been really unhappy about being lied to. I don’t believe in lies in relationships at all.

    I know I can sound self-righteous, but just thought I’d share my thoughts. I know it’s not easy out there, but each extra person who starts lying in dating just pushes the tide further in the wrong direction.

    • Carmen

      Welcome back Matt! Hope you’ve been we’ll and don’t worry- I was totally being facetious about lying.

      Trust me, I know for a fact that it gets you absolutely nothing in return but regret and regret.

      So again, I was joking but I was serious about the “old lady” feelings.

      Since the caveman times, men vying for the women who can make them feel young and alive, turn heads and bear children. I get that.

      For me, I just had a temporary moment of realization (as if these aches and pains don’t already tell me) – I’m getting old.

      But hey, you know what? The fact of the matter is that it all boils down to preference.

      I’m enjoying the breather right now like Kobe during the 4th quarter sit out.

      Have no fear Matt, there’s still hope for me!

      • Matt79

        Cool, thanks for putting my mind at rest – I really couldn’t tell whether you were joking or not so I’m pleased to hear that you were!

        I’d much rather be able to stay my current age for years rather than keep getting older each year too. How cool would that be? But from your reply to the comment below mine it sounds like you look great regardless, and from your blog in general it sounds like you attract plenty of male attention – it’s more just about trying to find which of your potential suitors won’t leave you with a dating hangover! And I guess age and experience are necessary prerequisites for having a better chance of figuring that out.

        • Carmen

          I really don’t know what the secret is – it’s like looking for the cure for the fat gene or something. So damn mysterious, so I wish I could say age or experience helps in finding the right one.

          It’s sheer luck.

          Feel free to share tips on what has worked to make you hangover free.

          • Matt79

            I think there’s also been a fair bit of luck involved in my currently being hangover-free. Also I’ve made mistakes in the past so I wouldn’t claim to be an expert! I guess if I were to give tips on things that are helpful to me they’d be: Don’t lose sight of what you want; Don’t lie at all in a relationship; Treat people with respect and be ready to walk if it’s not reciprocated. Feel free to email me at mbianco5@yahoo.co.uk if you’d like more detail!

  • Anonymous

    Women “round down” their ages all the time, been doing it for centuries so go for it. As for Valentine’s? It isn’t all that its cracked up to be. For me, its just another time of the year for my boyfriend to try making up for all the wrong he’s done.

    • Carmen

      Yes, they sure have but as I explained in the previous reply, I’ll stick with the truth.

      Besides, I’m fortunate enough to have maintained my good looks (yeah, I said it) so when I do tell me age, people always think I’m much younger.

      As for the V-Day thing? Well… Men pony up because the following day is Steak and BJ Day.

  • Jessie

    That’s right – Steak and BJ Day is coming up! Hahaha!

    It’s true about men wanting younger women. Even the 25 year old’s are being outsted by the 19 year olds! πŸ™‚

  • Something She Dated (@SSDated)

    While I totally get your point…do you really want to date younger guys? To be honest, if I was ever going to go to an event like this I’d want the ages to look something like this…

    Women 30-35
    Men 35-40

    (though I get your point and it would prickle me to no end to seen an event that looked like this

    Women 23-30
    Men 35-40

    • Carmen

      I look @ it both ways, Something, but I really don’t have anything against dating younger men.

      The one’s I’ve encountered are like little puppies. They may have peed on the carpet a few times, but once they’re properly trained, they’re okay.

      Older dogs? Well, you know how that goes.

      Ideally for me, the ages would be 30 to 45.

      Absolute hell no’s would by anyone under 25 and anyone older than 50.

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