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The Other White Meat

The Other White Meat


Remember a few posts back when I was getting all jungle fever with it?  I mentioned that I was finally ready to start paying attention to men of a different persuasion and get my swirl on.

For my slow readers, I’m a black woman who has dated nothing but black men (unless mixed races counts for anything).  I have resisted the trend of interracial dating for a few reasons, but figure it’s time to start tapping into a wider pool of available men.

I’ll share my theories on the types of men that are attracted to different types of black women later, but for now I must say- since changing my preferences to “open” in terms of interracial dating,  the  responses have been interesting.

It’s been almost a month since getting back online and maybe going to the melting pot of dating sites (the one where every one seems to be on it! ), that explains the TYPES of messages I’ve been receiving from all types.

There are the geriatric white men, middle-aged Shahs of Sunset, twenty-something Latino stud muffins, Vanilla Ice knock offs and thirty plus Asians with flavor.  The rainbow coalition of men is all over the place which definitely makes for some interesting chats, BUT it’s the Adam Levine looking hottie with all the right qualities that has left a bad taste in my mouth.  It seems like (and this is just my observation) the white men on this site between the ages of about 30-50 are sexually charged perverts.

It isn’t just me, because my friend Kimora is experiencing the same thing based on her brief interaction with a man whose screen name was A Hard Nine, but it’s the context of the messages to me that seem a little uh…specific.

I’ve never really wanted to embark on the interracial journey out of curiosity or to satisfy some secret fetish for wondering if non-black men could really hold it down or all pink or tan tips.  Okay, I’m exaggerating with these examples but….  instead,  I have a genuine interest in trying something new, period.

These douchebags referenced above?   Without a doubt are going for the fantasy/fetish/sexual approach and here’s why I say this:

“Your lips are so full and beautiful. ..”
“I love your skin, it would look good on..”
“Your mouth looks inviting…”
“Would love a bj from you, you’re pretty.”

Just examples of the messages from this week alone, but there have been some that were just out of pocket.   Most are ignored,  some I reply with “Thank you, good luck” and others?  Well…. it really depends on the mood and since I’ve been under the weather, this handsome asshole was in for quite a surprise.

The funny part?  I think my reply turned him on because he messages FIVE times afterwards until I eventually blocked him:


Until there’s a cure for the hangovers and douche bags…

Carmen Jones

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Hangover - a let down following great excitement or excess. Wow. This one sentence describes nearly all of my dating and relationship experiences!

I'm a 30 year-old woman muddling through the Los Angeles dating scene and yes - Believe all that you've heard about the screwed up men and women in La-La Land.

This blog is of my actual experiences that will either make you chuckle, laugh out loud or maybe say "aw.....".

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  1. Okay and thank YOU! For one, I don’t feel bad for being out here on the trenches still trying to date and kudos to you for the cock comment.

    There’s only one site I can think of that seems to be the breeding ground for the types of losers who send crap like that.

    Ignoring ignorance doesn’t always work and besides… this dude probably has screwed himself!

    1. Jessie you kidding? You are not alone, there’s an epidemic of idiotic people trying to date and be together. The fight continues and yep, I was being snippy the day I responded to hard and thick dummy.

  2. Classic! Good for you, don’t let these men be online sex bullies. You should have told him you were still healing from THE operation! Ha!

  3. That’s some crazy shit and my female friends tell me about the way out messages they get but damn! Don’t get it wrong though, some women will say they’re after a quick lay too.

    1. True, true Kendall- there are plenty of women online with one mission on mind.

      I see a lot of profiles from men that jave disclaimers like “not looking for a quick lay” or “stop trying to use me for booty calls”.

      Those women are perfect matches for my guy above. Not for me.

    1. 3thehardway sounds like a game of bingo! Hello there and no- Mr. Nice and Thick has messaged me three other times since then asking if (1) we could chat, (2) if I can call him and (3) I like to swing.

      He was blocked soon after. 🙂

    2. Oh and I don’t need some sleazy message to awaken anything inside. That chick is always on standby, but there’s a way to send these types of messages that turn you instead of OFF.

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