• My Dating Hangovers,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    My Hump Wednesday

    I know you should never leave home angry but as I hope to catch more red lights than ever before to write this, I’m pretty upset. Okay, understatement. Pretty pissed. I’m trying to figure out what I’m so upset, replaying how I just stomped out of the house moments ago without the usual kiss and parting words for Rescue. Instead, a flip of the light switch and a really “firm” closing of the door was how I exited stage left.  I don’t think I’m able to do this. THIS meaning continuing to engage in this unrelationship with him, at least not on the current level. The morning started off well…

  • Red Flags,  Uncategorized

    How do you handle jealousy?

    You don’t. This was my answer to a friend who tossed out this question earlier this evening. I feel for her because she’s fresh meat to the dating drama. Many of us are such in a state of feeling “men suck balls” or “women are crazy as hell” that when we come across someone who is seemingly decent, we tend to give out hall passes for things we probably shouldn’t. I made this mistake with the koo koo for cocoa puffs hangover named Full Metal Jacket. A jealous man or woman is a red flag. Run. Control- Alt- Delete. Leave them alone. Some snippets of this guy’s prized behavior? He…

  • THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Ignore friend request

    As quickly as he made a re-entry into my life, Come Back Charlie will likely make an even quicker exit all over an ignored Facebook request.  Well, maybe not all because of this because while I haven’t exactly been trying too hard to build up any lines of communication, he isn’t really impressing me either.  Last night as I stirred out of my sleep for a moment, I saw a new Facebook notification – Friend Request from Come Back Charlie.  I looked at it and the first thing that came to mind was what the hell for and the second was should I say no now or leave it pending…

  • THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Unsolicited information

                                                  What are you thinking when you decide to contact an ex or someone you used to date?  I mean if you haven’t talked to a person in over a week or some extended period of time, and you’ve got your fingers ready to make that call or send a text.  We all do it, which I guess isn’t necessarily a bad thing (though I wonder what the hell is the point), but it’s WHAT you SAY to the person that makes all the difference.  Sometimes what I receive from an old fling is just retarded. Case in point – the text I received earlier this morning from USBC. …

  • Red Flags,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Commitment

      His words, NOT mine:  “I really think I’ve got commitment issues and after we talked, I haven’t been able to think about anything else.  Damn, you’ve really got me thinking and now I feel bad”. Yep, TGW has issues alright but thank goodness – it isn’t ME!!!!!!  I think it was Something She Dated who cpmmented that she was tired of meeting grown ass men who were still in the figuring shit out phase in life.  I wholeheartedly agree, because not only is TGW admitting that he has issues when it comes to committing to relationships but to life in general.  In one conversation, I learned that he has a…

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    Steak and BJ Day!

    What I just received moments ago was from a non-reader, USBC! He would surely disown me as a friend if he found what I’d wrote about him. Still, I say over and over again, this man is a riot. I gotta give a shout out to Caleb (thank you for the laugh!) Over @ calebshreves.blogspot.com because he commented to my rant last night but I didn’t know this was actually a day MEN want WOMEN to recognize. February 15th is Steak, Blow Job and Shut the F@*k Up Day! Here is how USBC (newbies need to scroll back a few posts to figure out this acronym) feels about yesterday…. Every…

  • Break Ups,  My Dating Hangovers,  Relationship 101,  Settling or Compromising?,  The Non Committal Man or Woman,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  When you're dating your ex

    Time to refocus

    Remember what I said a few days ago about feeling constipated?  Well today I’m feeling like I’ve popped a few lower bowel supplements and am ready to share what’s been clogging my mind for the last couple of days. This will likely be a long one and will probably be part of a chapter in a book I’ll write, so for now, let’s just say that constipation has developed into a bad case of the runs. First, let me just say this – dating SUCKS. Whether it’s casual, working towards something serious or in a full blown committed relationship, I sometimes feel the amount of work and effort needed is simply…

  • Bad First Dates,  My Dating Hangovers,  Settling or Compromising?,  The Non Committal Man or Woman,  THIS is Why I'm Single!

    Like trying to fit my size 8.5 into a 7

    Afternoon folks!  Yay, no work for me today, so I thought I’d share a little hangover, though it isn’t REALLY a hangover.  Okay, here’s the deal-  I like (Until Something Better Comes Along) USBC, and can’t emphasize how much of a cool cat this guy is. He’s spontaneous, funny and is an all around good nature guy.  Still, trying to make myself have the type of interest I would have in (say for instance, Special Agent or Hollywood*), is like me trying to squeeze my fat foot into a size 7 knowing I’m a good 8.5 on a good day.  I just can’t force it.  Oh,  and I’ve been so busy,…

  • Online Dating,  Settling or Compromising?,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    Not Desperate, Just Bored!

      If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.   Many of us women have already figured out that dating is as good a feeling as that pap smear tool after being in a freezer, yet still, we keep trying until we get it right.  Hence, my second time around trying my hand at online dating. For those of you who know me, you’re probably wondering why I haven’t just given up.  For those of you who don’t know me, by the time I’ve posted 20 entries on this blog, you’ll also wonder why I haven’t given up. As cliché as it sounds, I decided to get back online in hopes…

  • Guest Posts,  My Dating Hangovers,  Plenty of Fail,  Red Flags,  Relationship 101,  Single Parent Dating,  THIS is Why I'm Single!,  Uncategorized

    What is a Dating Hangover?

    Hang·over • \hang-ô-ver\ •noun A person or thing left over from or influenced by a past age; Something remaining from a previous time or state. A let down, after a period of excitement Symptoms: –          Fatigue, weakness, pain, headache, nausea and vomiting –          Depression, anxiety –          Irritability Now surely, everyone at some point (some more than others) in their lives has experienced these types of feelings and I’ll be the first to admit – it sucks!  My hangovers have left me feeling like crap to the point where I couldn’t function for a couple of hours, feeling as if I was shutting down physically, emotionally and mentally.  Yes, these types of…